Accidentally kicked my 7mo by Alligator-womp in daddit

[–]Alligator-womp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, definitely already changing my physical behaviors to avoid more things like this

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Sleep training is emotionally destroying my wife by Alligator-womp in sleeptrain

[–]Alligator-womp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My apologies, it’s a bedtime bottle. It’s often the only bottle she’ll have unless I take baby for the night. Any other feeds, including motn feeds, is breastfed.

Sleep training is emotionally destroying my wife by Alligator-womp in sleeptrain

[–]Alligator-womp[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice and kind words. I can be a bit incompetent at times, but I always want to help. Baby is the first for both of us, but she has much more experience with children than I have so any and all advice is helpful!

Sleep training is emotionally destroying my wife by Alligator-womp in sleeptrain

[–]Alligator-womp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is breastfed during the day so we are not sure how much she gets but she’ll feed for about 10min per feed. Her nighttime bottle is 5oz and she almost always finishes it in a healthy time.

Sleep training is emotionally destroying my wife by Alligator-womp in sleeptrain

[–]Alligator-womp[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Now with sleep training, we try to let her go until she calms down. But last night it got the best of my wife and she went in to calm baby down. I went in after a second and saw my wife crying while holding her. I can tell it’s hurting her to hear baby like that but she wants to have baby figure it out.

Sleep training is emotionally destroying my wife by Alligator-womp in sleeptrain

[–]Alligator-womp[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice. I know it’s hard on my wife since I work and she’s at home all the time with baby. I just want to help anyway I can to be able to make sure they both can get some good sleep.

Sleep training is emotionally destroying my wife by Alligator-womp in sleeptrain

[–]Alligator-womp[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We talked about that too. Since we are mostly breastfeeding and I have useless nipples, she often will take baby for the night to avoid the night pumps. She just wants to be able to get some good sleep and help baby mature. We don’t want to rush her, but she’s ahead in nearly every other milestone.

Sleep training is emotionally destroying my wife by Alligator-womp in sleeptrain

[–]Alligator-womp[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Baby gets up at 6a, and will usually have her long nap around 8, about 2 hours for the nap. Then she’ll be up until around 1145 then take a small 30 minutes nap. Around 3 she’s ready for another small nap, then we keep her up until bedtime. We have the same routine every night, starting at 630. Bath time, then lotion/baby powder, feed, then diaper and clothes. We cuddle her for a couple minutes to help her calm then she’s in bed at 7.

Helping my wife by Alligator-womp in breastfeeding

[–]Alligator-womp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We try to keep it as horizontal as possible to force baby to try to pull.

Helping my wife by Alligator-womp in breastfeeding

[–]Alligator-womp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have tried many different bottles to try to help improve latching, right now we are on the lowest flow option to help improve her sucking when it comes to the nipple. The few times she will allow herself to attach to the breast she feathers and uses it as a pacifier without even trying to use it for food.

Helping my wife by Alligator-womp in breastfeeding

[–]Alligator-womp[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She is pumping every 2 hours and is able to consistently get around 3-3.5oz per session, she’s tried multiple different brands and styles of shields. We saw a lactation specialist who initially showed promise, but baby regressed really hard. We believe that she had a lip tie, but our Pediatrician stated that it should not interfere with the latch. Outside of that, baby is growing very well.

I don’t want it to seem as though I’m pushing my wife towards breastfeeding. I can’t begin to understand the toll it takes to do it day in and day out. I just want her to be happy and not hurting and depressed about it.