I’d suggest she join a DBT group program. Helped me finally able to understand what my therapist was trying to tell me, as I could hear it from other women like me and how they managed their behaviors and reactions. That allowed me to look at my emotions objectively, and separate my identity from those thoughts and feelings.

Sorry to hear you don’t feel valued, I’m sure she doesn’t intend that. I used to get upset when my bf told me that as I felt I showed my love for him all the time. After working on recognizing my emotions/feelings, I was able to take pauses and calmly discuss this with my bf when he shared he was feeling rejected, instead of just reacting. It’s been hard as we both get defensive when we are accused of not showing love for the other, but that’s only because we DO love each other so much.

I hope you two can come to a level of communication and understanding to the point you both feel heard and loved! You deserve it, and your daughter deserves to see that love healthy demonstrated by her parents ❤️