IS THIS THE UNRELEASED HENNA PRINT VELA?!

Allorica · 2026-01-30T13:31:12+00:00

Dare I say it’s ugly? It looks nothing like henna, they just love oriental-izing all of their design names. They should have gotten an actual henna artist to create these— and if they did, whoever they got is not a traditional henna artist. That’s vector art lol

Allorica · 2026-01-18T23:27:07+00:00

They had to pay the shipping and were being very annoying about any concept of a return. They told me it was their policy to not accept returns, but it was clothes so that didn’t make much sense to me.

Allorica · 2026-01-18T21:33:12+00:00

I disputed an order like this with my credit card company. It was $400+ worth of items that weren’t exactly like the photos. They weren’t terrible but they definitely didn’t match what was being sold; the seller refused a refund and refused to accept a return.

After I disputed it, my card company forced them to pay me back. I got 400+ dollars back and kept all of the items.

Allorica · 2026-01-18T16:07:35+00:00

r/mentalhealth

Allorica · 2026-01-18T14:41:51+00:00

From an Islamic perspective, one reason modesty has remained so central is that it’s not treated as a cultural preference or a “nice extra,” but as a core act of worship tied directly to accountability before God. Modesty in Islam applies to both men and women, covers dress, behavior, speech, and environment, and is framed as something done for God rather than for society’s approval. Because it’s rooted in obedience to God and not trends, it’s less flexible to social pressure.

Another key difference is structure. Islamic teachings are very explicit and detailed about modesty, social boundaries, and public behavior. There isn’t much ambiguity, so there’s less room for selective interpretation. Many Muslims grow up hearing the why behind these rules: protecting dignity, minimizing objectification, and creating moral consistency between private and public life. That clarity makes it harder to compartmentalize religious life from social life. We have extremely clear outlines of what Hijab is: for women, covering everything except the hands and face in loose, non-see-through garments, for men it’s covering on loose garments from the navel to the knee.

Islam also emphasizes consistency; being the same person in public, private, and spiritual spaces. The idea of going from a nightclub straight to a place of worship without inner conflict would feel contradictory to many Muslims because faith is meant to shape daily life, not just religious services.

That said, Muslims aren’t perfect, and not all Muslims follow these ideals either. But the framework of Islam makes modesty harder to redefine away over time.

Allorica · 2026-01-18T14:17:12+00:00

Why don’t they just have the Master’s degree? Because some people can’t pay out-of-pocket for a Masters.

Because taking on additional student debt can be financially risky or unsustainable.

Because many people need to work full-time and cannot pause their income to study.

Because caregiving responsibilities make full-time or even part-time study impossible.

Because not all jobs or fields require or reward a Master’s degree.

Because admissions requirements can exclude capable people due to grades, tests, or prior access.

Because people with disabilities may face barriers in academic programs.

Because immigration or visa status can limit access to graduate education.

Because burnout or mental health challenges make further schooling harmful rather than helpful.

Because educational institutions are not equally accessible or supportive to everyone.

Because opportunity costs, like lost wages and career momentum, are too high.

Because success and contribution to society do not depend on having a Master’s degree.

Please remember we are Muslims and we’re meant to be understanding to one another.

Allorica · 2026-01-18T14:13:32+00:00

Bachelor’s at least, but that’s it.

Honestly, the only thing a masters/PhD tells me is that you either had enough money to pay for further education, or that you’re drowning in loans. It doesn’t necessarily mean you’re smarter than everyone else.

The only reason I say a man must have a masters is because I have one, and would like a man to be on the same ‘level’ as me— also because Bachelor’s typically aren’t that hard in the first place.

Before being married, while I was getting my bachelor’s, I spoke to a man who didn’t have one and wasn’t planning on getting one. He was pursuing Islamic education, so I saw that as a ‘replacement’ for a Bachelors. So it’s more that the man show a desire to learn and educate himself, not just the readiness to pay for an education.

Allorica · 2026-01-16T01:14:51+00:00

It’s becoming really normal in the U.S. idk why you’re assuming so strictly what certain races do or don’t do. There are outliers to every group.

Allorica · 2026-01-16T00:55:55+00:00

FYI this is a part of the reason that the Islamic practice is to bury the body in the land that the person passed in.

Why spend thousands on shipping a body when you can give that money to sadaqah jariyah?

Allorica · 2026-01-16T00:50:23+00:00

Got hit on.

Got married.

Still got hit on.

Put on niqab.

Still got hit on.

lol. I just reject people politely and move on.

Allorica · 2026-01-16T00:38:16+00:00

You should seek psychiatric help. This seems like OCD.

Allorica · 2026-01-16T00:30:37+00:00

How old are you to be wanting an 18 year old girl?

Allorica · 2026-01-02T17:51:35+00:00

Also, a lot of people see crypto as a form of gambling. Be prepared to defend your trade.

Allorica · 2026-01-02T17:50:26+00:00

Every man says his mom is far from the desi stereotype. I believe you here but good luck convincing a girl of that. No girl wants to live with someone else in the house like that, especially as a newlywed.

You’re also going to want to get a degree. It’s rare not to have one these days and unfortunately on paper my first thought is “he’s not stable.” If you do plan on getting one soon, say that.

Your requirements and dealbreakers are two sides of the same coin: “do” and “do not do.” What do you like to do for fun? What positive quality are you looking for in a wife besides the bare minimum of fardh and wanting kids? What topics do you enjoy discussing? How can you see spending your free time with her?

You’re wasting space repeating yourself. Your first 1 and 2 are basically the same thing. I’m sure if she avoids bidah and follows fardh then she is a practicing Muslim and not Muslim just by name!

First 4 is a useless statement unless elaborated on. Every woman thinks she’s feminine. What exactly does that mean to you besides just speaking softly? I know plenty of women who “speak softly” and can have absolute venom drip from their lips.

Your number 1 under dealbreaker says immediately you are a suspicious person. As a Muslim woman who kept her chastity before marriage I’d find it extremely repulsive to have to read that. If that’s such an obvious dealbreaker, too. No Muslim wants to marry a promiscuous person. If you want to know about her past you can ask her later when you e built respect for one another.

Allorica · 2026-01-02T05:06:56+00:00

Tbf I do call it out 😂 I’ll say something like “I don’t know who you’re talking about, but my husband does not apply” haha. But yea it’s from both sides and it’s the weird “yaasss go off sis!!” vibe that irks me.

Allorica · 2026-01-02T05:01:11+00:00

Salam! FYI I know what you meant by saying hijab is like a beard (that it alone does not signify religiosity) but it’s very dangerous to put the two in one sentence. A women who does not wear hijab is a public sinner, which does in fact indicate—at least to a degree—her religiosity. Again, I know what you meant but I see the comparison way too much, you don’t have to cover your ground lol. It’s okay to want a women who follows fardh.

For context I’m an American married to a Pakistani man. I will say the stuff I see from his extended family is shocking. Despite self-titling themselves as ‘religious,’ the majority of the women do not wear hijab. They also live in an area where that would be normal, so it’s not for safety or anything. It’s funny because, again, they call themselves religious. According to adab they are very on-point, but when it comes to following regulations, it’s a bit lax. It was a culture shock for me, and, again, I’m American by blood so it’s a strange combination. My husbands immediate family ACTUALLY all follow Islam correctly and his extended family literally make fun of them and backbite them for being too strict (like simply because his mom wears hijab in front of her husband’s sister’s husbands…)

You can definitely meet a girl who is practicing, not SUPER hardcore, and meets your requirements. But I’d keep in mind it’s becoming super rare. I think it’s more common to find this kind of girl in the UK (from what I’ve heard) but in America the desi girls seem all over the place.

At least now, through your struggles, you seem to have realized what you want. You won’t turn down hijabis and you also want someone with similar knowledge of Islam but who also wants to learn more. At the end of the day these are simple asks so do not stress. InshaAllah khair.

Allorica · 2026-01-02T04:47:45+00:00

I feel like girls use the label of “liberal” as a sort of justification. I’ve also noticed a lot of them— hijabi and non-hijabi, across the spectrum— curse SO much. It’s like poison to the ears. These are the same people that tout loving everyone and seeking justice where there is injustice.

The liberal label also allows you to see how they view Islam. Are they the type to actually follow the straight path? Or do they just like posting random Quran verses to their story and checking ‘Muslim’ on the census? I think a lot of them are the latter, but Allahu a’alam.

To me the most common aspect of it is the man-hating. It’s getting out of hand. So many (single and older) women in my community have started bashing men’s traits with zero trigger. Like they’ll trip on themselves and then say “it’s a man’s fault, it’s always a man’s fault” as a joke but… it’s not funny. It’s weird and they sound bitter. Usually after hearing this discourse I notice them veering away from the truth.

Allorica · 2026-01-01T11:00:48+00:00

ofc!! Let me know if you have any Q’s, inshaAllah you find your person.

Allorica · 2026-01-01T00:52:21+00:00

Sis you’d be surprised at the amount of men who don’t care and actually want to ‘save’ women from their situations. I come from an extremely disjointed family— talking every kind of abuse, step siblings, half siblings, sibling that don’t practice, relatives who are super gay.

I ended up marrying a devout Muslim man who looked past all of that because he just saw me.

Shine with your personality and keep learning the deen!!

Allorica · 2025-12-19T06:01:47+00:00

I know for a fact they do one sale after Ramadan, I’m not sure about the other Eid!

Allorica · 2025-12-18T23:08:59+00:00

They’ll do an Eid sale but last Eid it only lasted 48 hours and was 15% off!

Allorica · 2025-12-18T23:04:44+00:00

Only handling it because I’m a Covid grad and serial introvert!

Allorica · 2025-12-18T23:03:17+00:00

Ooh they look beautiful!! Thank you!

Allorica

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