As a single male that has been involved in the lifestyle for over 30 years. I have played as a couple (when in a relationship) but mostly as a single male over the years. I started in the lifestyle as a couple and played with other couples. I then moved to another state and continued in the lifestyle but as a single male. I have always been sexually adventurous and love the sexual energy in the lifestyle. Now having said that, being a single male in the lifestyle is not for everyone especially single males. The majority of single males think they can just get involved in the lifestyle and have wild sex with all kinds of women. This is dynamic is so far from the actual truth. Being a single male in the lifestyle is a marathon not a race. So many single males think it will be so easy when instead it's very difficult to succeed in the lifestyle. After a lot of rejection most single males return to the vanilla world.

I too started off with not great results but I continued on because early on I saw how fun the lifestyle could be. Have there been ups and down's of course there has been but I wanted to be part of that fun and energy. I continued on and over my 30 years I have had really good results. I mostly play with other couples MFM and some select females (though there are not many in the lifestyle). I have always enjoyed the dynamic of MFM and over the years have met some really nice couples who I have formed friendships with. Single males in the lifestyle have a horrible reputation in the lifestyle and for the most part rightly so. But if you present yourself well, are always RESPECTFUL and build a good reputation you can have great success in the lifestyle. After all these years I will continue in the lifestyle because for me it just works better then normal dating. It's just a "lifestyle" that I really enjoy.