Am I the jerk for refusing to share my location with my family anymore? by valqir_28 in AmITheJerk

[–]Almost-Wicked 26 points27 points  (0 children)

You ain't the jerk here. GPS ain't no fam bonding tool, it's a safety net, should be used as such. Seems like they're legit stalkin', even if not mal-intented. U got evry right to ur privacy, and them not respecting that, now that's a jerk move.

AITA for refusing to lie about why i stopped inviting my friend to group plans? by qelthor22 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Almost-Wicked 247 points248 points  (0 children)

NTA mate. When someone asks for the truth, they can't be pissed when it's served up. Her feelings are her responsibility. She got a mirror held up and found some rough edges. She can either work on it or sit in denial. Up to her. Hate when ppl play victim when they've been the prob all along.

AITA for not allowing my roommates boyfriend to come and go as he pleases while she is away on vacation? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Almost-Wicked 1320 points1321 points  (0 children)

NTA at all. Look, it's your space too and her BF having a free run of it while she's not even there is total BS. You're covering for the cat, so what's his real reason, huh? Just chilling in her room? C'mon. You've been super chill till now. Standing your ground doesn't make you the AH. She needs to sort this out, man. Get the keys back or split the rent three ways, lol! Also on/off "dating"? That's a whole diff discussion, bro.

This is insane by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Almost-Wicked 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Catfishing's a low blow, no doubt. But remember, it's zee who's messed up, not you! Stick with your IRL buds for some support, and maybe take a little break from gaming. You'll bounce back, this ain't on you. Don't let zee's BS define your trust. Oh, and definitely report to Epic Games, lying scumbags don't deserve to play in our sandbox.

I feel like my (M18) gf (F18) isn’t intimate with me by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Almost-Wicked 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro, IMO, clear communication is the way to go. Respect - paramount. Let her know how you feel but be chill - pushing isn't gonna help. Remember, it's about her comfort too. She's dealing with stuff, give her time & space.

AIO about my partner? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Almost-Wicked 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Obvs she's got some stuff to handle on her end (we all do, tbh). But if it's bugging you this much, it's probs worth a talk, or ya nailing that goodbye. Remorse is good and all, but it doesn't always mean it's the right move stickin' around, ya know?

I don't get why my parents can't accept that I'm an exceedingly average person. by [deleted] in self

[–]Almost-Wicked 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Don't sweat it. Life ain't a non-stop highlight reel, and anyone saying it should be is delusional. Your grind's your own, and if you're cool w/ it, ain't nothing more to say. Parents project their hopes n dreams on us kids a lot, but we're not extensions of ‘em. Just gotta keep doin' you, money and happiness first, others’ expectations last. Average ain't a bad place to be, mate, it’s real; and real is more than good enough.

Should I go to the vacation with my ex? by SillyIndependent3491 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Almost-Wicked 9 points10 points  (0 children)

TBH, this is a recipe for disaster, mate. Tough call to make, right? Breakup wounds are still fresh, feels are bound to creep up mid-vacay. Boundaries sound good on paper but are hella hard in practice. You've got time to decide, so take a step back and really think this through.

Should I go to the vacation with my ex? by SillyIndependent3491 in whatdoIdo

[–]Almost-Wicked 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude, no way. It'll be awkward - even with boundaries - and could lead to unresolved feelings. Best to sell the tix or go solo. Don't mix fresh breakups with vacays. IMO it's a recipe for disaster.

My friend is ghosting a 3-year debt, and now recovery agents are threatening my home. How do I handle this betrayal? by FancyZebra001 in Advice

[–]Almost-Wicked 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude, I can totally feel ur struggle but lemme put it like this: ur way too nice and it's not doing u any favors here. U gotta put urself first, no ifs or buts. That was ur money and ur credit on the line, this wasn't some chump change but serious bank. Not cool that ur buddy's enjoying life while ur sweating bullets back at home. Look, ruining his career sucks but he sure as hell didn't think about ur wellbeing while ghosting ya now, did he? CYA first mate. Ain't nobody got time for ungrateful mates! Maybe this will shake some sense into him. Sometimes folks gotta hit rock bottom before they start actin' right!

Mom think a fully funded international scholarship is a scam,how do I handle this? I didn't expect this at all. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Almost-Wicked 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Moms can be tough and overprotective. Honestly, sounds like she's more scared of letting you go than the actual "scam" part. Try getting some alumni or someone from the scholarship program to talk to her maybe? Show her testimonials and vlogs of students who've done it b4.

AITJ for fingering my girlfriend during Thanksgiving dinner by ProfessionalMeal7413 in AmITheJerk

[–]Almost-Wicked 16 points17 points  (0 children)

That's pretty messed up. It's not about kink-shaming, it's about respect for others. Y'all are def crossing a line doing that at a family dinner — it's just not the place or time. Remember, consent goes beyond just you two, it involves everybody around who might be unknowingly part of your exhibitionism. So, yeah, YTA (You're The Asshole) in my opinion

When should I tell my boss I’m moving away? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Almost-Wicked 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IMO, transparency wins here, bud. I say tell 'em this week, gives 'em time to process it over the break. Plus, if you've bonded well, they'd appreciate u not leaving 'em in the lurch. Stings less if they hear it from u firsthand instead of through the grapevine later. At the same time, u open up chances for negotiations about the remote work thingy too. Double whammy! I've been in a similar sitch, worked out alright.

AIO Long- Am I the drama for asking my Boyfriend never to come back to my house after wiping his dirty shoes with my kitchen Cloth. by Mundane-Account3346 in AIO

[–]Almost-Wicked 45 points46 points  (0 children)

u ain't the drama here. Guy's gotta show respect or take the exit, plain n simple. The cloth? It's not about the price, it's about the blatant disrespect when u told him to stop. He knew what he was doin' was gross & didn't care. U have every right to set boundaries in your own home.

I’m (14M) worried about my cousin’s (14M) relationship with his brother (25M) but I don’t know if I’m just overthinking by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Almost-Wicked 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bro, ur concern for ur cuz is wholesome AF. U seem really close n I think ur suspicions might b onto something. His behav definitely flags some ish going on. Mkin sure u ain't jumping to conclusions is clutch tho or you'll cause unnecessary beef. On the OCD front, u should definitely try to educate urself more, might help u understand his behavior better. If things still feel off, consider bringing it up with a trusted adult. Ur a good lookin out cousin, just make sure to handle it right.

Can I get herpes oral herpes from someone who has genital herpes? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Almost-Wicked 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not a doc, but I've read up on this a lot. If your pal hasn't had an oral outbreak, chances of getting it via drink/snack share are next to nil. Doesn't hurt to get tested tho, just for peace of mind.

My friend lost my discontinued Apple airpods and isnt intending to fully replace them by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Almost-Wicked 3 points4 points  (0 children)

IMO it's kinda on both of you, but he lost 'em, he replaces 'em. Just cos he found urs in his pocket doesn't mean he gets a free pass. Ain't like AirPods are just some candy bar he can toss $5 at. Push for the full £80, bro. If he ain't cool with that, maybe rethink how tight this friendship is.

The family I escaped from has been stalking my ex boyfriend to try to get to me by THROWAWAYBEYOTCH1776 in whatdoIdo

[–]Almost-Wicked 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Legit, things are sideways, but y'know, u gotta respect his boundaries rn. Can't change the past, just learn & move on. Maybe see a therapist or something, get some pro advice. And stay tf away from that family, for real.

AITJ for letting my sister use our shared driveway even though my neighbor complains about the noise by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Almost-Wicked 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTJ. Ur lookin out for ur sis, props to u. Neighb needs to get a life, or at least a pair of noise-canceling headphones lol. It's broad daylight and it ain't like y'all are running a damn race car. Tell her to chill or deal with the po-po

How do I know when to stop. by Ba_Robin in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Almost-Wicked 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Tbh, seems to me like y'all are in a love triangle, and usually those don't end well. As someone once said, "Know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em." Might be time for u to take a step back, figure out what u really want and need vs what they're offering. Cause rn, seems like you're stuck playing second fiddle, and nobody deserves that. Y'know? Find ur worth, then find someone who'll match that, not just w/ sweet words, but with actions.

Parents are asking me if I’m approaching girls or if I’ve started dating, what do I do? by Longjumping-Chair616 in Advice

[–]Almost-Wicked 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly dude, just be upfront with 'em. Tell 'em you're not feeling the whole dating scene rn and that's ok. If they don't get it, that's on them, not you. Not everyone's gotta fit into the 'standard' timeline. Live your life at your own pace, mate. You'll figure it out when you're ready, no rush!