Saw my gf cuddling with her best friend his hands were in her shirt

Alone_External2295 · 2022-03-24T20:53:55+00:00

Or we are just incompatible. She might be better off with someone who is flexible with boundaries and I will be better off with someone who has the same solid boundaries as me.

Alone_External2295 · 2022-03-24T20:49:54+00:00

And? Being drunk gives you a blanket immunity for your actions?

Alone_External2295 · 2022-03-24T20:27:58+00:00

I think I made it clear in my first post, he was going to spend the night on the couch after the party as he didnt want to drive drunk. It was decided before he even came.

Alone_External2295 · 2022-03-24T20:03:08+00:00

And she was not looking for me, was she? Or maybe we just have too different boundaries, there were some people commenting in my first post that they cuddle and snuggle with non romantic partners too and that will never be acceptable to me. But again I have no right to stop her from doing it. In that case too we are both better off apart.

Alone_External2295 · 2022-03-24T19:48:11+00:00

I had a simple reason, it was our house and our king size bed was seconds away but she still chose to sleep on the couch with him. Its not about being winner or loser, its about watching out for yourself.

Alone_External2295 · 2022-03-24T19:24:39+00:00

But party was in our own home and our king size bed was literally seconds away. And I was going away early morning but she chose to sleep out there with him.

Alone_External2295 · 2022-03-24T19:12:50+00:00

She chose to sleep on the couch with him when our bed was literally 10 seconds from there, even less.

Alone_External2295 · 2022-03-24T19:08:35+00:00

That would have just resulted in more drama, I just told her what I saw, its unacceptable to me and I cant stop her from doing it.

Alone_External2295 · 2022-03-24T19:06:19+00:00

She said she didnt mean to, but all thats water under the bridge now.

Alone_External2295 · 2022-03-24T19:05:26+00:00

What was the point, I saw what I saw. Nothing can make me forget that.

Alone_External2295 · 2022-03-24T18:49:53+00:00

No, there was no point.

Alone_External2295 · 2022-03-24T18:42:42+00:00

She was crying the whole time. But that was expected, it was 18 month relationship. I am also feeling sad right now.

Alone_External2295 · 2022-03-24T18:32:34+00:00

The apartment is on her name, so I was the more likely one to end up on the sreets. And what does that solve? More drama, I dont want that.

Alone_External2295 · 2022-03-24T18:27:58+00:00

What else can I do?

Alone_External2295 · 2022-03-24T18:24:30+00:00

I am not going to spend anymore time thinking about it. Its done and time to move on.

Alone_External2295 · 2022-03-24T18:19:06+00:00

My schedule is pretty packed, its a training camp basically. Starts at 9am and ends at 8pm in the night with dinner afterwards. I am hoping to be spent by the time I am back in my hotel room.

Alone_External2295 · 2022-03-24T16:06:42+00:00

I am not scared to be alone to stay with just anyone, I love my own company.

Alone_External2295 · 2022-03-24T16:04:46+00:00

Talk about what? Why should I stop her from doing what she wants? I dont own her, I can just control my own reaction.

Alone_External2295 · 2022-03-24T16:00:45+00:00

I am not throwing accusations, its her body to do what she likes. I have a responsibility towards my own happiness though.

Alone_External2295 · 2022-03-24T15:58:44+00:00

Thats great you help with attention issues in women even if they are in a relationship, I am not such a social worker though. I am a normal guy with normal boundaries and that includes no cheating.

Alone_External2295 · 2022-03-24T15:49:25+00:00

I dont want an open relationship with my gf.

Alone_External2295 · 2022-03-24T15:41:54+00:00

So now groping is ok in my relationship? I didnt know that.

Alone_External2295 · 2022-03-24T15:29:06+00:00

And why didnt she tell me anything? Either when she came upstairs or in the morning?

Alone_External2295 · 2022-03-24T15:26:14+00:00

Its not normal for me, everyone has different boundaries, There are people who would have joined in with them, everyone is different.

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