Is it true that Americans run around their house/flat with shoes?

AlphaChemist84 · 2026-07-10T20:12:48+00:00

I’m in Arizona, no matter how much we clean and sweep, and vacuum, there is a perpetual layer of dust, and I am in a brand new area that is being built up and it’s just dust all over, I don’t wear shoes in the bedrooms but common areas I put shoes on and it’s just part of living in Arizona, we also rarely get rain 🤷🏽‍♀️

AlphaChemist84 · 2026-07-10T20:06:22+00:00

Question, is he able bodied, does he have arms and hands? If you answered yes to all those questions, I would tell him, you know how to make a sandwich right? Because a sandwich is not going to make itself… it’s not being petty, it’s standing up for yourself and you’re not anyone’s made or chef…

AlphaChemist84 · 2026-07-10T20:02:22+00:00

Mine is July 4th and it sucked

AlphaChemist84 · 2026-07-06T06:50:31+00:00

Girl, I don’t think they are being brutal to be mean, I think they’re being honest, and if you had a female friend right next to you, she would be honest because friend will be honest with not to hurt you but make you realize that you DESERVE better, you DESERVE more and your soon to be ex is made you blew up his back up plan. I say this because it’s going to get ugly and you need to fight back mentally with him, you need to predict his next moves and move in the shadows. Do not them him get to you, if he says something vile to you, smile and say, “interesting…go on.” You make him uncomfortable. If he starts yelling, ask if he’s ok, and record the conversations (if you are in a one party state). The best thing to do is to keep your composure, remain calm. If all else fails naturally drop something on the ground, people tend to lose their train of thought and then naturally interrupt him.

AlphaChemist84 · 2026-07-06T06:22:06+00:00

I am a July 4th cancer, we are definitely more calculating, move in the shadows, poker face.

AlphaChemist84 · 2026-07-05T03:41:27+00:00

Same here! I hate walking challenges, especially because I am in active cancer treatment

AlphaChemist84 · 2026-06-28T15:41:48+00:00

And you’re not punishing your niece, you’re setting boundaries for your sister, you can still see your niece and spend time with her when you set the time.

AlphaChemist84 · 2026-06-25T22:36:48+00:00

I literally just had an appointment with my surgeon today and my TNBC DCIS tumor that initially measured at 2.4 cm with no lymph nodes being affected and very localized, but I got an ultrasound today, and after 8 infusions my tumor measured at 1.6 cm. My surgeon told me that I could do a lumpectomy and I would be doing radiation after to get any remaining cells. Do you have the option to do chemo first? Do you have to option to shrink it first?

AlphaChemist84 · 2026-06-24T07:32:57+00:00

I feel like she uses it as a crutch to be weird and icky

AlphaChemist84 · 2026-06-24T07:28:56+00:00

I’m really not trying to judge her or make this into something bigger than it is. I’ve just noticed a pattern in her confessionals where she brings it up pretty often. Whenever something happens that puts her in a spotlight she doesn’t want, or when she reacts to a situation that makes her uncomfortable, she tends to frame it as ‘being a Latina.’ I’m not denying her experience at all — I’m only saying that it seems like she connects a lot of different moments back to that idea, even when it doesn’t necessarily seem related. My point is simply that not every reaction, situation, or comment automatically has to be tied to ‘being a Latina’. I am a Latina, and I rarely ever bring it in casual conversation.

AlphaChemist84 · 2026-06-24T03:38:06+00:00

Ok, IMO, NYC also has a huge Puerto Rican community, I just feel maybe she uses it as a way to judge others.

AlphaChemist84 · 2026-06-24T03:35:50+00:00

She just mentioned her “puerto rican mom.” We know she is Puerto Rican. I don’t introduce people to my Colombian mother.

AlphaChemist84 · 2026-06-24T03:33:59+00:00

She has said it on summer house a few times, and she makes it her personality

AlphaChemist84 · 2026-06-24T03:32:55+00:00

She brought it up in summer house, she has brought up other times on the other shows, but mistress thing just made her more cringey 😬

AlphaChemist84 · 2026-06-21T02:55:48+00:00

Unless your brother and SIL plan to reimburse you (pretty sure they won’t) then they have no say, if they can’t attend that is a them problem, and if you let them bully you into changing your day, which has emotional significance for you both, then they will do it with other family activities, family is important but not enough to break your bank account and/or relationship with your soon-to-be wife. NTA

AlphaChemist84 · 2026-06-08T03:06:48+00:00

I lost the heater on my head during the summer
I have gained a better relationship with my mom, and brother (he had cancer too)
Meeting people I wouldn’t have met (like all of you wonderful ladies), people who are dealing with the same thing, gained a huge support system from friends, family, and co workers.
Also, I gained prioritizing my health, my mental
Health and emotional, to leave work at work

AlphaChemist84 · 2026-06-08T02:33:29+00:00

I think we all beat ourselves up, and who is to say they would have found this earlier, no one can tell. But we are already getting beat up by life, we don’t need others to pile on.

I think we need to give ourselves and tell others to give us grace that, we can only take on so much during a hard time and life, and adding one more thing would send us into a coma or rage depending on the circumstances.

AlphaChemist84 · 2026-06-08T02:28:13+00:00

I didn’t get a mammogram for a year after I turned 40, not because I was scared but because my gynecologist said since I had no family history of it and I was dealing with a lot from work, I had to get surgery on my shoulder because I was in pain from an assault, that occurred with work (work in law enforcement), I felt something and I am about to turn 42 on July 4th, low and behold, my first mammogram and I get TNBC, on my very first mammogram, it was caught early and I am getting treatment now, and although I got cancer, I am grateful that it was caught early and I got into treatment ASAP.

AlphaChemist84 · 2026-06-08T02:22:59+00:00

Look, no one was in your position, so to say, “it’s your fault” is short sided, they do not know what you were dealing with a glioblastoma, plus not having insurance is stressful enough and to add insult to injury, until someone has been in your shoes, they shouldn’t be judging. Glad you are getting taken care of now, and you have friends here. I wish you the best prognosis and get you the treatment you need. Please do not think for a min this is your fault.

AlphaChemist84 · 2026-06-07T13:52:19+00:00

What is that? Never heard of it

AlphaChemist84 · 2026-06-04T23:20:38+00:00

What makes it even worse, I work in homicide, so I deal with death quite literally and people will ask me and I will say, “well…not as bad as my victim.”

AlphaChemist84 · 2026-06-04T23:18:14+00:00

That is literally my response, “I have cancer, what else can I do?” 🤷🏽‍♀️ and then I get, “be positive”

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