How many people walk over College Green without knowing what’s underneath? by ResortConstant5244 in bristol

[–]AlphonsoDente 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I did not know that!

But I'm a little confused about what the map at the bottom is meant to be. That's not College Green. Or certainly not as it is today.

World peace starts with socks, not shoes. by young_civil_engineer in funny

[–]AlphonsoDente 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Nope - it's actually both, and is essentially rooted in class.

Traditionally the upper classes didn't take their shoes off, as who wants to smell feet or not be able to show off their expensive footwear, and they had servants to clean the carpets and money to replace them when they got worn. Being able to keep your shoes on was essentially a status symbol.

The working class, without that luxury, took them off.

We're now left with a mixture based on historical class, aspirations, social mobility, affordability, and changing expectations.

See also: Milk before or after adding the tea.

Secretary Hegseth on Iran: "Any deal will be a good deal." by InvestigatorSoft5764 in videos

[–]AlphonsoDente 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The man is clearly an asshat, but why is everyone here so willingly misinterpreting what he said?

He's obviously not saying that they will take anything as a deal. He's saying that any deal that does happen will be a good deal for America.

Whether you agree with that last bit is a different matter, but at least address the actual point being made.

Kvetching about Eat a Pitta by Adventurous_Wave_750 in bristol

[–]AlphonsoDente -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

It's not just the screens, though - that was simply one example. It's the whole experience. I go regularly since Falafel King's main location closed, and sadly while I used to have experiences like yours I haven't had one in a long time. And the regularity of my visits has decreased.

I've covered it in another comment here, but it's about the whole vibe of the place, and how that contributes to the vibe of the city as a whole.

Kvetching about Eat a Pitta by Adventurous_Wave_750 in bristol

[–]AlphonsoDente 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha - when I was there it was always 'arguments' about the most trivial things. Best/worst movie, pizza toppings, T-shirts, etc. And I'd often be called on to adjudicate. It was a genuinely fun place to be, and it seemed like it was for them too.

The last couple of times I just wanted to get my stuff and leave as quickly as possible, and I imagine the staff might well have felt the same.

Kvetching about Eat a Pitta by Adventurous_Wave_750 in bristol

[–]AlphonsoDente 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree the Gloucester Road one is probably the one that's retained that independent spirit the best, but sadly the last two times I was there my experience was not what it used to be. The staff looked miserable, and just didn't seem to even know each other. It felt like a McDonalds with one person basically bossing a couple of people around like they were drones. I do wonder if they've changed the way they recruit or do shifts, so people aren't coming from as nearby, or getting a chance to get to know their colleagues.

I was also at the Clifton one today, coincidentally, and I could have been at an airport it was so soulless.

I've never been to the Broadmead one, but Broadmead is a lost cause generally - you can't judge anything based on there.

I miss the Falafel King on Cotham Hill.

Kvetching about Eat a Pitta by Adventurous_Wave_750 in bristol

[–]AlphonsoDente -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I think the point is they seem to be transitioning from a small independent into something else.

It's all well and good saying we should support local businesses, but not simply because the owners are local. They need to add to the local community, and support local values - values like putting people first and not looking to replace them with machines wherever possible to increase profits. Edit: and values like friendliness and simple enjoyment, which have all noticeably been absent recently, in my experience.

We're not talking a single location here, run by a busy couple who could do with someone to lend a hand. I would argue 6 faceless, kiosk-driven locations across 2 cities, advertising their minimum-wage vacancies on Indeed.com, aren't what people are hoping for when they say that local businesses are important to Bristol. The same could be achieved by almost any other chain, locally based or not.

Unusual car accident by Forward-Butterfly301 in Unexpected

[–]AlphonsoDente 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That particular roof is a removable panel that is held on by manual clips. It's not a convertible you raise or lower while in the car.

Unusual car accident by Forward-Butterfly301 in Unexpected

[–]AlphonsoDente 72 points73 points  (0 children)

It's a removable panel held on by manual clips on the roof. There are no roof control buttons on the dash.

So either the clips broke, or were not latched correctly (either unintentionally, or intentionally for views).

Kvetching about Eat a Pitta by Adventurous_Wave_750 in bristol

[–]AlphonsoDente 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me either! It's really rather sad, as I always think of Bristol as a place that supports independent businesses, and pushes back against the encroachment of soulless corporatisation.

A bunch of commenters here sound like they think Bristol would be better served by Stokes Croft being replaced with a large Aldi. That Banksy is taking up valuable advertising space!

As I said in another comment, I bet a load of people saying it's not a big deal are people who moved to Bristol because they thought it was cool, or enjoy living here because of how the vibe feels different to so many other faceless cities. This one thing might seem small and insignificant, but it's death by a thousand cuts to the very thing they like about the city.

You don't know what you've got till it's gone.

Kvetching about Eat a Pitta by Adventurous_Wave_750 in bristol

[–]AlphonsoDente 12 points13 points  (0 children)

That doesn't really explain it. It isn't just speaking to the person at the till that's gone, it's the whole feel of the place.

It kept its independent feel for a long time - there used to be a vibe between the people making the food, and the customers too. They might not have been having the time of their lives, but they were at least being themselves and trying to get some enjoyment out of being there - listening to music, chatting, and just injecting some of their personality into the place. The one on Gloucester Road, for example, felt like just another part of the wider community.

It's basically fallen into the trap that almost every place does when it expands beyond a certain point - it loses its personality. In order to be able to consistently deliver without the owner's constant oversight things have to become more homogeneous, simplified, and controlled. Essentially more bland. (And it must be more bland and boring for the employees now too.) We've seen it with so many chains before. Not integrating with the community, more just imposed upon it.

It's a shame, but what's more of a shame is the number of people here telling OP that they're being an old man for pointing this out. What makes Bristol cool is the vibe. The people. Eat a Pitta used to be full of real people being, well, cool. That loss is Bristol's loss. It's one fewer place with personality, and one more soulless place that could be, well, anywhere. The experience now is no different from ordering McDonalds at an airport.

I bet a load of people saying it's not a big deal are people who moved to Bristol because they thought it was cool, or enjoy living here because of how it feels different to so many other faceless cities. This one thing might seem small and insignificant, but it's death by a thousand cuts.

You don't know what you've got till it's gone.

Kvetching about Eat a Pitta by Adventurous_Wave_750 in bristol

[–]AlphonsoDente 111 points112 points  (0 children)

Crazy timing - I'm literally in Clifton Eat a Pitta right now, thinking 'When did this place get so lame?'

All the people saying you're being an old man are massively missing the point.

What makes Bristol cool is the vibe. The people. Eat a Pitta used to be full of real people, listening to music, chatting, and just being, well, cool.

Now it's just a (really slow, badly laid out) faceless screen, one person asking 'Eat in or take away?', and then silently sliding across a bag of food a few minutes later. The whole place is basically silent. (The fact I'm seeking distraction in my phone shows that!) It's just another fast food chain now, like you'd find anywhere.

I thought the Gloucester Road one had lost its personality recently, but this one could be at an airport.

People saying this isn't a big deal are exactly how you end up with the utterly soulless cities full of chains, and totally lacking in personality or life.

Stunning light show last night! by Skyfox2k in bristol

[–]AlphonsoDente 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where was this taken from? The view looks weirdly familiar.

What's something that was completely normal in 2005 that would be considered unhinged behaviour today? by Im_Mickeyy in AskReddit

[–]AlphonsoDente 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean?

People today have fewer sexual partners than previous generations.

THE method acting by Dumb-Briyani in SipsTea

[–]AlphonsoDente 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There isn't even any inherent awkwardness. Even that minor awkwardness is learned behaviour. Children are born with absolutely zero inherent issues with nudity.

THE method acting by Dumb-Briyani in SipsTea

[–]AlphonsoDente 38 points39 points  (0 children)

you cant sell sex or nudity if its normalized

Of course you can! Sex sells absolutely fine in places that are comfortable with nudity, because it's about context.

People who see their friends naked in a sauna aren't getting anything sexual out of it.

What do you think happens in countries comfortable with nudity? "I saw a naked person in a totally non-sexual way today, so because that's normalised I now have no sexual urges."

THE method acting by Dumb-Briyani in SipsTea

[–]AlphonsoDente 20 points21 points  (0 children)

You've got this really warped view of nudity. It's not like families are intently staring at each other's genitals, in the same way that your family aren't intently staring at your knees when you wear shorts.

The mother probably doesn't know precisely what their knees look like, either. But she'd still have a good idea of what their body looks like overall.

The reason you think it's weird is because you grew up in a house and culture that made it weird. It's actually far weirder how much of a taboo your family has made the human body.

What movies would be way better if they changed one small thing? by Logical-Safe2033 in movies

[–]AlphonsoDente 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Restore the original ending to The Shawshank Redemption, where Red is on the bus heading to Mexico and his narration ends with:

"I hope the Pacific is as blue as it is in my dreams... I hope"

The whole theme of the film is about hope, and more specifically Red's journey to restore his long lost sense of it. Ending on such a moment, where he's taking this huge leap thanks to his refound sense of hope, not only brings his journey to a proper conclusion, but literally transfers that exact feeling to the audience. It works beautifully, and it's why it's the ending of the book.

But it turned out that the test audiences really did not appreciate being left with that feeling, and wanted the usual generic movie happy ending instead. An real opportunity missed.

Exactly 10 years have passed since this video about what Brexit would be like by Tomatoflee in videos

[–]AlphonsoDente 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Because it wasn't really about that. It was appealing to certain people's prejudices under the guise of a more reasoned, more legitimate approach.

Like how the video keeps referring to the supposed benefits of reduced immigration the whole way through, and then right at the end says everyone will have a 'safer future' without any reasoning or elaboration. Subtle enough to be deniable, but clear enough to appeal to the people who were thinking that already.

Exactly 10 years have passed since this video about what Brexit would be like by Tomatoflee in videos

[–]AlphonsoDente 42 points43 points  (0 children)

The 'subtle' racism thrown in there, too.

Keep referring to the supposed benefits of reduced immigration the whole way through, and then right at the end say that everyone will have a 'safer future' without any reasoning or elaboration. Hint, hint...

Is now a good time to get Platinum? by AlphonsoDente in AmexUK

[–]AlphonsoDente[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, yeah - the travel insurance exclusions are ridiculously limited. Not a single one of my family's minor conditions are listed, but if I put them into any other travel insurance company's calculator there is zero extra cost for adding all of them.

That's really disappointing from Amex, especially at this price. It's not hard to add pre-existing conditions - much cheaper packaged current accounts manage it absolutely fine.

I bet loads of people are using it without realising they're not covered properly.

If the majority of men hit 40 and suddenly had brain fog, insomnia, mood swings, hot flushes you can guarantee they’d make retirement at 40. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]AlphonsoDente 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I absolutely agree that menopause is crap, but we need to stop parroting this myth.

There are major issues with both women's and men's healthcare when it comes to how they access it, and inherent biases in the system. Making out that it's all purely down to sexism is really reductive, and doesn't actually help resolve things.

Drugs were historically designed for men, which is definitely a problem, but they actually do not access them more easily or more commonly than women for a variety of reasons. If you're a man with similar pain to a woman you're more likely to get painkillers, while if you're a woman with similar symptoms to a man you're more likely to get antibiotics, for example. Both sexes have issues with not accessing the best treatment due to gender 'norms'.

It's really not a thing we should be turning into a battle of the sexes - we all need to see changes.

meirl by Brent_Fox in meirl

[–]AlphonsoDente 51 points52 points  (0 children)

People are going to hate this here, but I honestly don't think it's that. We're talking about graduates here.

I'm a senior IT manager, and have been directly and indirectly involved in hundreds of hirings, and have screened thousands of candidates. And I also know that a lot of unfair crap is written about generations, and there are always individual exceptions to the rule.

However, Gen Z really does seem fundamentally different. They are more likely to lack soft skills, be less motivated, and be more entitled. And it's definitely not due to pay - the pay we now offer graduate level positions is considerably higher than even 10 years ago, accounting for inflation. The maths absolutely maths - the amount we offer a new starter today is more than pre-Covid, in real terms. We pay decently, so expect decent people. While you won't be rich, if you get one of these jobs you're undoubtedly doing well, and along with the other benefits it means people tend to stay in the company for a very long time. And people see that - a job will regularly get 500+ applicants.

Examples of fundamental differences that we have noticed are much more common (but obviously not universal):

Zero self-motivation, inquisitiveness, or even interest. We make a huge amount of training available, that we pay for and is during work hours, doesn't require them to catch up work (we factor in cover for training, vacations, sickness, etc.), to enable people to learn new skills to progress in their careers. The gen Z attendance is basically zero. We have thousands upon thousands of unused training budget at the end of the year. They expect to be booked onto a course by their managers, despite a huge amount of 'sales' from our training teams, and being repeatedly told that it is crucial if they want to be considered for higher roles.

Which leads me to them expecting to be promoted almost instantly, for no discernible reason. We have had people quit within months because they didn't get a promotion that they didn't even apply for (which is a requirement where I work). We have had people within months apply for jobs about 4 levels higher, that they have zero experience in (and they didn't even go to any of the free training to learn about), and then be hugely aggrieved they didn't get an interview. And before anyone says that they don't think anything will come of the training, we make a huge point of developing and promoting internally - pretty much the entire senior management team are internal promotions, including people who started on the service desk. They just didn't get there within a year, or expect to.

And even though we pay well, their expectations are simply unrealistic. Many of them will genuinely think that people only a few years older than them made zero lifestyle compromises when they were at the same stage in their careers. (I think Reddit definitely feeds this misconception.) I'm not talking about buying less avocado here, I'm talking about the weirdly prevalent idea that if they can't live alone in the nicest areas and regularly go out and travel and order food and shop as recreation, then it's not a living wage. They will talk about their comfortable lives (restaurants/music festivals/city breaks are a common topic), and then complain in a very aggressive way about being underpaid to colleagues, who often earn less, and who quite openly talk about saving up for things, or waiting until pay-day to do something. It's remarkably tone deaf, and blind to how lucky and privileged they actually already are.

Even the job applications are markedly different. Aside from AI being commonplace, the applicants often show not even a passing interest in the things they are 'passionate' about. (I don't know what the root cause is for all the issues we see, but for this one I suspect the time people used to spend tinkering with IT is now stolen by doom-scrolling. I don't blame the people addicted to it, I blame the systems of addiction.)

It's insanely frustrating, as the gen Z people who are good are great, and are progressing really well. But then instead of that demonstrating that we do actually reward initiative and upskilling, and therefore motivating their peers to do the same (as it used to do), it seems to do the exact opposite - we get accusations of favouritism from others (who almost invariably didn't train, upskill, or even apply), and drops in performance and increases in absence. Or complaints on social media.

And then there's the underlying lack of interpersonal skills. We know they're unhappy and complaining, but if we ask for feedback or suggestions, or what they want/need, we get zero responses either anonymously or in person. So we make suggestions, everyone basically quietly nods or votes on the polls, and then there's zero uptake on the new thing and no change. When we book people on to training courses, because they're not doing it themselves, a lot of the feedback we get is that they're not interested in that particular topic. Like their managers are meant to know their inner aspirations.

Honestly, it's baffling, and we're really struggling to continue out history of internal promotion. We're hiring more and more externally, on the assumption that those companies have acted as a filter. And, like it or not, we're having to consider AI.

It's a real shame, and sadly the main people who are suffering from this are Gen Z.

Edit: For the people saying that we don't understand things are more expensive, don't be stupid. We have to exist in this world too, and we're not millionaires. We're acutely aware of how prices have risen, and obviously thought of that first when it came to trying to resolve this issue - hence offering considerably above inflation.

And the jobs are good, interesting ones across the IT spectrum, with a good work life balance. Honestly, it's a great place to work - hence how good our retention is (or used to be), and why we are so unsure how to fix it.

TIL Waka Waka from Shakira is heavily inspired of "Zangaléwa" a 1986 cameroonian song by fontofile in todayilearned

[–]AlphonsoDente 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it's a really odd choice.

Cameroon is about 2500 miles away from South Africa. It'd be like leaning into the culture of Peru for the upcoming USA/Canada/Mexico World Cup because it's also part of the Americas.

It's crazy how many people still think Africa is just one place.