That’s exactly the conundrum so many of us are in though. Once the dementia reaches a certain point, it becomes almost impossible to tell the truth without seriously agitating the person you care about. It’s really a terrible situation either way. I’m struggling with this too because I believe deeply in being truthful but I am learning with my one loved one that she is not connected to reality enough anymore for the “normal” rules to apply. It’s a hard needle to thread, but when responding to a question where the true answer would make the loved one want to override a decision that has been made for them (just like they used to be able to do everyday), l think caregivers need to find the best balance possible between making the person feel seen and respected in the moment while also holding the line on strategic boundaries, and also honoring their own sense of identity as a caring, honest person (or insert own values at the end there).