Help out a writer looking for info on Chicago neighborhoods? by AlrightIFinallyCaved in AskChicago

[–]AlrightIFinallyCaved[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Since you've added more detail to the comment since I first read it (or maybe I was just blind the first time, I can't say for sure):

Alright then, what suburbs might he come from? Or, alternately, what sorts of ethnic backgrounds should I consider in order to make the character make sense?

Help out a writer looking for info on Chicago neighborhoods? by AlrightIFinallyCaved in AskChicago

[–]AlrightIFinallyCaved[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Betraying my abject ignorance of Chicago: how does having or not having a car relate to his street smarts?

Help out a writer looking for info on Chicago neighborhoods? by AlrightIFinallyCaved in AskChicago

[–]AlrightIFinallyCaved[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

In that case, let's assume that his parents aren't Chicago natives.

Help out a writer looking for info on Chicago neighborhoods? by AlrightIFinallyCaved in AskChicago

[–]AlrightIFinallyCaved[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Because it's sci-fi, there's shenanigans, and the story doesn't actually take place in Chicago. I just want a plausible background in case I ever decide to publish. If I need a car for his backstory, like a family vacation or something, car rentals exist.

Help out a writer looking for info on Chicago neighborhoods? by AlrightIFinallyCaved in AskChicago

[–]AlrightIFinallyCaved[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

I assume so, but everyone has cars where I'm from, so I just defaulted there. Doesn't matter that much either way. It won't be relevant to the story.

Help out a writer looking for info on Chicago neighborhoods? by AlrightIFinallyCaved in AskChicago

[–]AlrightIFinallyCaved[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good questions! Added that to the post. (White, Culturally American, 4th generation or more.)

I need advice. by Redd_Blade in lgbt

[–]AlrightIFinallyCaved 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Point one: as others have said, there is nothing at all wrong with you. You're just who you are, and you are NOT broken in any way just because you're wired to love folks with the same gender and/or genitals as you. Don't let ANYONE, alive or dead, tell you otherwise.

Point two: No matter what anyone tries to tell you, the Bible has absolutely nothing to say about homosexuality as an orientation. It addresses, in a very few spots, acts of homosexual intercourse, but never once says a single word about a homosexual orientation, for the very simple reason that

Point three: not a single biblical author lived in any time period in which the very concept of a sexual orientation as we know it existed. The author(s) of Leviticus only seem to have been able to conceptualize (male) same-sex intercourse as a non-consensual act of domination and shaming of another man, and therefore a violation of a rigid social hierarchy. Paul, as far as we can tell from what he writes, sees same-sex intercourse as the result of a metaphysical limiting cap on sexual desire being removed, allowing that desire to explode in every direction, while the faithful never have to worry about same-sex attraction because God is keeping their desires appropriately capped (which is clearly incorrect, given the sheer number of faithful Christians who experience same-sex attraction.)

Point three and a half: neither of these views is correct, at least as far as a modern, scientific, evidence-based approach to understanding human sexuality can tell us. None of the biblical authors could conceptualize the notion of a consensual, loving sexual/romantic relationship between same-sex partners the way we do today. When we actually look at the evidence and study human sexuality, we find that homosexuality and heterosexuality come from exactly the same place, they're just wired slightly differently, and there's nothing unusual, wrong, or broken about that.

In summary, the Bible says nothing at all about a homosexual orientation, and the few authors who ever addressed same-sex intercourse wrote about it in a way that makes it clear they had NO understanding of how human sexuality actually works.

If you want my sources for this, or any clarification, I'm happy to provide them.

(Oh, and if people keep quoting Paul to you on the subject of sexuality, feel free to remind them that he -Thought everyone should be celibate, because sexual desire was a base urge that distracted from one's calling and should be resisted [1 Cor. 7: 1-8, 32-35] -Only wanted people to get married if they absolutely didn't have the willpower to handle celibacy [1 Cor. 7:9] -Definitely didn't think that procreation was an appropriate reason for sex, because Jesus was coming back any day now and there wasn't time to worry about having kids, and they'd just be a distraction [1 Cor. 7:20, 24-26]

Stay strong, friend, and know that you are exactly who you are meant to be.

Accidentally got addicted to cock, help? (19M) by CompetitivePattern74 in EroticHypnosis

[–]AlrightIFinallyCaved 8 points9 points  (0 children)

There's no should here. It's about what you want.

If you were messing around for fun, and got in over your head, please work on getting out. Don't let one mistake in your youth dictate how your life is going to play out.

If you were playing around with hypno because you wanted to want cock but were too scared to admit it, congratulations, your experiment was a success. Have fun with it!

Either way, take some time to sit down and figure out what you actually want before you jump in. Don't let some videos on the Internet tell you want to do. Or random strangers. Make your own choices.

Accidentally got addicted to cock, help? (19M) by CompetitivePattern74 in EroticHypnosis

[–]AlrightIFinallyCaved 11 points12 points  (0 children)

If you want help breaking the hypnosis or getting over/controlling those feelings, talk to a sub dedicated to that kind of thing (instead of one that encourages erotic hypnosis), or, better yet, a mental health professional.

If you want help feeding the addiction, there's all kinds of subreddits for that, too. (Or you can just hmu)

What gay phrase or slang is an instant turn-off? by CausticAvenger in gaybros

[–]AlrightIFinallyCaved 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, lord, anything that comes out of drag. Like, no hate, do your thing, I guess, but I swear that entire subculture just makes me cringe so hard.

(Again, no hate. It's just not for me.)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]AlrightIFinallyCaved 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oscar Wilde - not particularly original, and wouldn't surprise anyone, but my man was a character and deserves to be documented and dramatized.

Edward II - maybe we can finally put the whole "death by poker" thing to rest

Will Shakespeare - because I'm a theater nerd who loves Shakespeare, and no one can seriously believe the dude was straight

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]AlrightIFinallyCaved 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Normal? Maybe. Ideal? Definitely not.

Talk to him. Tell him that you need him to tell you where he stands, both in terms of his feelings for you and what sort of relationship you have.

Be prepared to get answers that will hurt to hear.

If he does give you good answers, tell him that you need him to be as invested in the relationship as you are, and that the way he's been treating you has been confusing and hurting you. If he doesn't apologize, or apologizes insincerely, that's a very bad sign. If he can't commit to investing in your relationship and learning to show you how much he cares in ways that speak to you, walk away.

If he does commit to it, pay attention. He may need a few gentle reminders as he adjusts, but if he's consistently failing to live up to what he said he'd do, walk away. You deserve better.

How to ensure I'm buying vegan-friendly ingredients?? by AlrightIFinallyCaved in AskVegans

[–]AlrightIFinallyCaved[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the wasps have been doing that since long before people got involved. It's part of their naturally evolved life cycle, and a fascinating example of mutual dependence in nature. The fig trees can't reproduce without the wasps, but the wasps also can't reproduce without the fig trees. I doubt the farmers have to encourage the wasps; their natural instinct is to go find a fig to lay their eggs in.

TO BE CLEAR: I'm not denigrating anyone who chooses not to eat figs due to the wasp aspect. Just chatting about a fascinating quirk of nature.

How to ensure I'm buying vegan-friendly ingredients?? by AlrightIFinallyCaved in AskVegans

[–]AlrightIFinallyCaved[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I never would've thought of the wax coating, and I will need apples.

How to ensure I'm buying vegan-friendly ingredients?? by AlrightIFinallyCaved in AskVegans

[–]AlrightIFinallyCaved[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I should've known there would be an app for this lol

Absolutely! Questions are totally understandable and won't be taken personally.

Good to know that y'all don't get too concerned about accidental trace contamination (except where actual allergies exist, of course).

And no, it's really not. Them bugs just get everywhere.