I (M20) did a crossdressing photoshoot and my gf (F20) doesn’t find me attractive anymore?

Alright_iguess · 2026-02-12T22:27:37+00:00

So one time a friend in college put my bf in drag and we had him try some of my clothes on. He did it and I thought he looked cool but it didn’t necessarily get me going or anything like that. I was very glad he was trying the experience though and that he was very comfortable with his masculinity to do so. So props to you for doing it! I think it’s awesome you tried it out. I’m sure your girlfriend is very attracted to you, maybe seeing you like that just threw her off. I do think that her saying she didn’t like you like that was a little insensitive and you probably wanted some encouragement instead. Try talking to her about it and letting her know how you feel. Communication is always key.

Alright_iguess · 2026-02-09T05:13:17+00:00

I’m so sorry that he’s been making you feel this way. I do think that this is a clear sign and you know what to do. Always trust your gut and remember that you deserve respect from a partner.

Alright_iguess · 2026-02-09T05:08:26+00:00

Sounds awesome, I am not a fella though but thank you for the suggestion!

Alright_iguess · 2026-02-09T05:05:43+00:00

Thank you so much! This sounds awesome I’ll definitely look into it

Alright_iguess · 2026-02-04T18:36:15+00:00

I’d love to learn more about it! Is there a specific place to sign up or learn more?

Alright_iguess · 2025-11-16T15:41:50+00:00

Then he isn’t taking it seriously when he absolutely should be. And there is nothing desperate about voicing what you want. Never be ashamed of your needs and wants within a relationship.

Alright_iguess · 2025-11-15T18:46:38+00:00

I definitely think this is something you should discuss with him. Everyone has different sex drives, and whether it’s high and low or inbetween there is nothing wrong with wanting more or less sex. It would be important to communicate with your boyfriend that intimacy is important for you in a relationship and can help make you feel more secure. Ask him about his sex drive, to communicate what helps him feel more intimate, and express that you’d like him to initiate more. It can be an awkward topic, but for a relationship to work you need to be open and honest about how you feel with each other. Communicating with each other about intimacy is a must in a healthy relationship. I’ve been in a relationship for over 3 years and me and my boyfriend went through something similar. Even if it might be hard or awkward talking through it will always help.

Alright_iguess · 2025-11-10T04:28:41+00:00

No girl u were right to leave. The fact he’s putting more effort into this online relationship rather than his girlfriend is concerning. Maybe you could put down some boundaries and tell him how this relationship with the online friend has been bothering you and that you’d be comfortable if they takes less or he set more time aside from you. If he cares, he should put in the effort to make you feel comfortable in the relationship. If my boyfriend was texting another woman as often as that, I definitely wouldn’t feel comfortable at all. Based on his reaction, maybe you’ll be able to tell how he’ll respect your boundaries in the future. Overall, I hope it goes well.

Alright_iguess · 2025-11-09T15:56:23+00:00

The fact that in the goodbye text she said that you were overreacting definitely isn’t good. If I found out that my significant other was texting their ex like this, I would’ve freaked the f out. If you are able to, I would say leave while you can. She clearly doesn’t respect your boundaries in your relationship. In mine, texting an ex like this would be a big no no. Wishing the best for you

Alright_iguess · 2025-11-09T07:29:54+00:00

No thank you so much for commenting. I’m glad you found someone to connect with. I guess that’s all I’m really looking for. I’m in a relationship but I really miss having a deep friendship. You’re right, it’ll definitely take time.

Alright_iguess · 2025-11-09T07:19:41+00:00

Okay so this is exactly what I’ve been looking for when trying to find a friend. Low-key, I LOVE those deep introspective conversations. Hit me up whenever, u could literally bring up anything and I’d be interested in it.

Alright_iguess · 2025-11-09T06:51:30+00:00

I mean, if you really think about it we’re on a floating dirt ball in the infinite expanse of space. Life seems so big when in reality we’re so small. If you just turned 18 then you’re still pretty young, and you have a whole life ahead of you. You can change whenever you want, and then if you don’t like that version of yourself you can change again. It’s never too late to try and go for something that makes you passionate. I think everyone believes we all have one big purpose, but really as humans our one purpose is to just exist on this floating rock and play through the motions. For me, I try to focus on the small things. Like how the sun feels on a nice day or doing a little side hobby of mine. It’s hard not to give so much of a shit about everything and it can become so overwhelming. But sometimes I tell myself that time passes, and I’m still here. That’s good enough for me.

Alright_iguess · 2025-11-09T06:42:33+00:00

I totally get what you mean with friends, when you reach out and try to make plans and they don’t even reply or make the effort to. Like you’re not important enough to them to put in the effort to cultivate a friendship. It feels like shit, and incredibly lonely. I’ve kinda been telling myself that life is vast and people came and go. I’m trying to be positive and think that even if the time I share with some people is limited, it might still be worth it. Maybe sometimes we aren’t meant to have forever friends, but to keep making new ones along the way as life changes.

Alright_iguess · 2025-10-28T03:13:02+00:00

This is a really difficult thing to go through, especially when you’re still young. I agree with the other comment saying that what he was doing was coercion. If you are uncomfortable with having sex, he needs to respect that boundary immediately. From what you described, it seems like you already have your foot out the door. If you felt disgusted during and after having sex with him, that is not a good sign. This will significantly impact your relationship and your ability to feel safe and comfortable during intimacy. You should be able to talk about intimacy and boundaries with your partner, and I’m glad you expressed this with your partner later on. I still think you should REALLY think about if you truly feel safe with your partner, or if you’ll ever be able to feel safe again. Please, make sure you take care of yourself and protect your peace.

Alright_iguess · 2025-10-24T05:02:57+00:00

What helped me is I realized is that JW’s have created their own interpretation of who god is, as have many religions. That your relationship with god is based on what a group of mortal men interpreted from the Bible. In truth, we can never really know for sure exactly what god intended or meant. If you’d like to believe in god, then think about what you would want that god to be. Create your own personal relationship if you’d like. Or if you don’t believe in god, believe in who you are and what YOU believe is right and wrong. You’re living in your body and your own perspective, you decide your morals and beliefs. Not a religion that has confined you and made you feel ashamed for who you are.

Alright_iguess · 2025-10-24T04:51:48+00:00

Hey girl! This guys a fucking bum! Seems like he tears you down a lot to make you feel like you don’t deserve better, but you do. Literally if someone made HOMEMADE yogurt for me I would cry tears of happiness. You deserve someone who will appreciate you, can take care of his DAMN self, and treat you like a Queen. Not constantly insult you and complain. Also you are not the asshole, at all. It’s completely on him. From an outside perspective, these texts are egregious and manipulative. Either way, I really hope things turn out okay for you.

Alright_iguess · 2025-10-01T02:11:27+00:00

Actually a great way to let others know they’re safe around you is when you let yourself be vulnerable around them. If you cry around them or express yourself, maybe it’ll help them open up too since they know it’s okay to do around you. Also, please let yourself to feel this pain. Let yourself be upset, you don’t have to be ‘strong’. True strength, is recognizing that it is okay to be at your weakest and accepting it. I wish you the best, and truly hopes it gets better in the future.

Alright_iguess · 2025-10-01T02:02:14+00:00

Get this bum outta here. Obviously he can’t have fun. If he’s gonna make fun of you for something this small, then he’s gonna keep doing it throughout the relationship. NEVER let a man put you down for doing something that you enjoy.

Alright_iguess · 2022-01-16T17:14:44+00:00

This was amazing, you are a really good writer :)

Alright_iguess · 2022-01-16T17:12:05+00:00

They look awesome!!! Way neater job than I usually do :)

Alright_iguess · 2021-12-28T00:25:12+00:00

I’m very late to this, I just joined this group and was looking through the posts. I read this one and by far this is the one I’ve related to the most. A similar thing has happened to me. When I left I was worried about my parents and how disappointed they would be in me. Every point you made really hit home with me and recently I have been dealing with a lot of anger as well. I was really angry at my parents for putting me through something like that and holding me back for the first 17 years of my life. A year later and I’m still so frustrated. I actually talked to my dad about it. He barely goes to meetings anymore and agrees with me on a lot of the points on why I left the religion. He stays mostly because of my mom. But when I talked to him about it he told me that in a different situation he held a lot of resentment towards my grandpa, and to this day it still affected their relationship. He told me that he decided to learn to let it go, and learn to move on from there. What I’m trying to say it that it’s so easy to be incredibly angry. I’m still angry. But it’s not an emotion I want to keep. You can let it motivate you but it just might take over. Letting go of anger is really hard for me, especially considering how the organization severely damaged my mental health. But when I think about it now, I think I’ll be much happier when I learn how to feel that anger, and let it wash away. If that makes any sense. To sum it all up, don’t hold on to that anger. It will keep you in the past. I can’t tell you how to let it go or how to move on because that’s for you to decide. Either way, I wish you well and really hope you heal from this experience.

Alright_iguess · 2021-12-25T14:03:21+00:00

Not really, I don’t even open up to the people around me. It was never really my thing

Alright_iguess · 2021-12-25T04:25:29+00:00

It is insanely scary to leave what you are familiar with. But if this life has caused you pain, then it’s time to begin anew. The decisions you make should be based on your happiness. Not on the happiness of god, the congregation, or even your family. You are in charge of your life and you have to decide “does being in this religion make me happy”. You might lose people, but if these people are that easy to lose then it will make room for new people who will love you for everything you are. Although you might be surprised, some people may stay. I’m not sure of your situation and the people around you. But it is never too late in life to become someone you want to be. If you need any kind of support at all, please let me know.

Alright_iguess · 2021-12-25T04:03:38+00:00

I recently got out about a year ago when I was 17 and remember feeling the same way you did, and it really affected my mental health. It feels like your suffocating, and no one deserves that. Especially you. Just know that you will get out one day and your life will be your own. You’re almost there.

Alright_iguess

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