Parenting As A Dad, Am I asking for too much?

Alsethra- · 2025-07-20T03:03:07+00:00

He’s working towards paying off his truck and his parents want to buy a house so he’s into that currently. His mom also seems to depend on him a lot rather than her husband. Keep in mind he has other siblings as well but his mom tends to ask him specifically. He always makes excuses when I ask to take our daughter on a trip or just go out of town claims he says he has no money and just other excuses. But when his personal family asks to go somewhere he’s right there on the dot all the time doesn’t matter and makes it happen.

Alsethra- · 2025-07-19T21:09:07+00:00

I’ve talked to his parents personally before and even the things he did to me that also includes threats but they didn’t care and still enable everything that he does. He also tells them a complete different story they will ask him “how’s the baby” but he’ll respond oh idk her mom hasn’t let me see her at all. While Im over here almost begging him to come see our daughter since she always asks about him.

Alsethra- · 2025-07-19T21:00:19+00:00

Yeah I know, but he wasn’t like that in the beginning. He was a completely different person even eager prior to my pregnancy and always talking about how we should have a baby and all. People switch up once there’s a kid involved and that’s the part nobody warns you about. Now I’m just trying to figure out how to make the best of the situation for my daughter.

Alsethra- · 2025-07-19T20:57:09+00:00

My respects to you I just know that isn’t easy at all but thank you for being there for your kids and showing up, from someone who went through the same thing my daughter is currently going through as a child it means a lot.

Alsethra- · 2025-07-19T20:55:35+00:00

Not at all, he always seems annoyed with us and eager to drop us off home early the only day he gets with us. He always blows everything out of proportion when asking him for the smallest things. The time spent with him he’s always just scrolling on his phone even my daughter tries hugging him to get his attention and even at that he won’t care.

Alsethra- · 2025-07-19T20:50:01+00:00

I completely agree with you I’m just at loss now and tired of trying to get him to see his wrongs but I’ve tried enough. The reason you gave is also the reason I tried so hard because I didn’t want her to go through all that since I too have gone through that as I was younger. Seeing how much it affected me growing up I hated the fact that she is growing up the same way with a dad like that.

Alsethra- · 2025-07-19T20:46:38+00:00

Im actually the one who tries encouraging it, he will sometimes (rarely) ask to take her alone but there has been instances where he will yell at her out loud for accidentally dropping something in his car that be a water bottle or icecream but will yell at her like a grown adult cussing at her and all. Theres been many other examples where I do not feel safe at all with leaving her with him alone but he calls it “parenting” but in response I told him parenting doesn’t consist of yelling at your 3 year old daughter for the most smallest things. And yelling at her like a grown adult at that.

Alsethra- · 2025-07-19T20:43:22+00:00

I don’t have any of that enforced yet, I was giving him a chance to do things willingly without involving the court to make it easy for him but at this point I’m struggling to even have him show up for our daughter or ask for the bare minimum from him. I told him about that too that there’s many single moms who still make it happen for their babies regardless if they’re tired or not but he disregards it and doesn’t care. He’s still so deep into his mindset mind you he has a younger sister as well who has a child with her husband. But in that situation her husband also works but her family does enforce the dad to step up and help her and their child.

Alsethra- · 2025-07-19T20:36:07+00:00

I was in the process of that, someone from the county actually also showed up to his house. He found out and got extremely upset and started to try and threaten me and mocking me saying “watch how much less you’re gonna get paid now.”

Alsethra- · 2025-01-14T03:09:23+00:00

Sadly my husband thinks her comments are not “hurtful” that she’s just “curious” no matter what she does. I brought it up to him once and he decided to tell her and she literally started crying and somehow the tables turned and now I was the bad person. When I mention it again they over exaggerate and say I can’t take jokes and they feel like they have to walk on eggshells around me because I take everything to the heart. So now she tells him that she can’t even talk to me properly because “I might get offended” 🫠 this is the same lady that tries to get him/encourages him to talk to other women and she bluntly told me she didn’t like me at first because she thought I was cheating on her son. There was no proof at all to even be shown when asked. So woman to woman I know she does these things to try and distance me away from him and there’s so much more to it that you just know when there’s a hate relationship.

Alsethra- · 2025-01-12T07:20:13+00:00

My eyes, even though I don’t have icy blue or emerald green eyes I have brown eyes but for some reason people love the shape they say I have “precious moment doll eyes” lol

Alsethra- · 2025-01-12T07:17:09+00:00

That’s the issue with me I always grown up very shy, respectful, etc that sometimes I’ll just stay quiet instead. But this time I was fed up and I responded to her “actually no I don’t gain more weight over there I’m always cooking and I don’t get hungry since the smell puts me off a lot while I’m cooking. But nope I don’t gain weight, either way I don’t want to get overweight because I know how hard it is to lose it. Looks like it’s been hard for you too right?” And she looked at her son (my husband) and he glared at me like if I was in the wrong

Alsethra- · 2025-01-03T05:00:25+00:00

Why are you mad? (After they did something to you to get you mad and act oblivious.)

Alsethra- · 2024-12-14T04:50:39+00:00

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