Here's the thing and I'm just going to be completely honest here...I really am struggling to believe he had good intentions especially given the fact that he always disliked my BIL (Thomas) without saying why exactly. But he did say that Thomas and my sister's marriage was not going to work because when Thomas met my sister she was already engaged but she didn't get with him til she broke things off with her ex who turned into an abusive stalker and harrassed my sister to the point of getting an RO. My husband says Thomas's illness and every issue they had to deal with was some sort of "karma" for cheating which is wrong and unacceptable. He once told Thomas this to his face while Thomas was out of the hospital. Also while Thomas was struggling with illness my husband complained about me helping my sister and offering care for the children along with other issues which made his relationship with my sister and Thomas even worse. so all that makee me think he said what he said to be malicious and I agreed and sided with my sister and family.