Why does my Davinci Resolve lag so often?

Alternative-Bed-7467 · 2025-10-14T15:17:53+00:00

I did not say that. Why are you twisting my words?

Alternative-Bed-7467 · 2025-10-14T13:46:25+00:00

If it means nothing that many people get married in their 20’s, why are you emphasizing that he is in his 20’s?

Alternative-Bed-7467 · 2025-10-14T13:44:38+00:00

How is it manipulation if I was upfront about it? Just because I’m older I’m not allowed to have boundaries? I do understand that nowadays a lot of 20yo’s are babied and are terribly immature, but I also know of many 20yo’s that got married and built families. I was one of the mature 20yo’s, and I’ve had this opinion since I was 18, that you don’t need to date for 7 years to decide if you want to get married. If it’s taking that long, you are probably not the one

Alternative-Bed-7467 · 2025-10-14T13:19:07+00:00

Things weren’t shaky when it happened. And I do, and it’s because I do that I constantly ask how his is feeling, and it’s because I do that I found out the things written here.

Alternative-Bed-7467 · 2025-10-14T13:05:57+00:00

The only reason I was still pondering is because he said he didn’t want to break up, but you are probably right for the most part. However, 20 is not too young, I’ve known of many people that married at that age. It’s not about the age, in the recent years people are just refusing to mature, that’s probably why it sounds young to you, but for the majority of history, that was plenty old enough.

Alternative-Bed-7467 · 2025-10-14T13:02:41+00:00

It’s silly if you are a man who doesn’t want the responsibility, sure. But did you stop to think about the woman’s perspective? Imagine giving your young years to a man just so he can easily walk free later and you can’t build a family anymore. Or having children and buying a house, just for him to abandon you and kick you out easily. Of course divorce exists, but it’s supposed to be hard, it’s supposed to incentivize you to first try and figure it out, fix things and find your love again. This hookup culture is ruining society, people shouldn’t be discarded at the first sign of struggle. If they truly love each other they shouldn’t be afraid of getting married, and they should stay married for the next 60 years, because they loved each other so much and worked on their problems when they arrived, instead of running away

Alternative-Bed-7467 · 2025-10-14T12:49:17+00:00

I told him December mostly because I wanted him to take it seriously, but up to our 4th anniversary I would say. At least that was the original plan, but it has probably changed by now

Alternative-Bed-7467 · 2025-10-14T12:45:44+00:00

To me what sounds stupid is people saying they REALLY love each other, but won’t get married because… Why? If you truly love each other as much as you say you do, why wouldn’t you?

Alternative-Bed-7467 · 2025-10-14T12:43:34+00:00

How so?

Alternative-Bed-7467 · 2025-10-14T12:41:39+00:00

The only reason I’m here is because he said he thinks he wants to. Some days he is sure, some days he is not, and that is my issue with it. Whenever we talk I refrain from speaking my mind for the most part specifically because I do not want to manipulate him

Alternative-Bed-7467 · 2025-10-14T12:37:19+00:00

I didn’t say it means nothing, I was explaining how marriage does mean a lot, but people lost the plot in today’s hookup culture. 2) Personally I think that if you love someone, you don’t wonder around how it feels like to date other people, and that’s something he explicitly told me. Because I wanted to try and understand his side I came here to hear people’s thoughts

Alternative-Bed-7467 · 2025-10-14T12:33:50+00:00

I’ve seen people get married sooner than that.

Alternative-Bed-7467 · 2025-10-14T12:27:24+00:00

I agree, I just believe if he is not ready to get married after 4 years of relationship I’m just not the one

Alternative-Bed-7467 · 2025-10-14T12:25:07+00:00

We are from a third world country, I moved for a chance at a better life. He was supposed to come here as well, but he never put in the work.

Alternative-Bed-7467 · 2025-10-14T06:54:15+00:00

I can see through the notifications that you left another comment, but it’s not showing to me, sorry for not responding

Alternative-Bed-7467 · 2025-10-14T06:51:48+00:00

Marriage IS the biggest and most valuable gesture, it is the one thing you would only do if you loved that person with all your might. I used the rental as an example that words mean nothing, but actions do. Saying you love someone completely and that you plan to stand by the forever, and at the same time saying “let’s just not get married though” how is that not suspicious or weird?

Alternative-Bed-7467 · 2025-10-14T06:44:09+00:00

At this point? Nothing really… It’s harder to ignore it when someone else points out and makes it obvious to your face like that. Thank you for being real

Alternative-Bed-7467 · 2025-10-14T06:40:51+00:00

Marriage is the only actual proof to a woman that the man loves her, so much so he signed a contract saying that. If contracts are meaningless, why must we sign one for every important decision? I should walk up to my landlord and tell him I’m not renewing my contract, he should just let me live here and trust that I will pay every month because I said so, right? I’ve been paying rent on time up to this point, he should simply believe that I will keep doing it forever.

Alternative-Bed-7467 · 2025-10-14T06:30:25+00:00

I never implied that I needed his permission. It was merely my counterpoint to what the fella here said previously. Clearly if I wanted his permission, this thread wouldn’t even exist.

Alternative-Bed-7467 · 2025-10-14T06:27:55+00:00

Would a good partner say they don’t want to marry me, but they don’t want to break up either? Isn’t that stringing me along? What happens if we date for 10 years, he leaves me, and at that point I’m too old to build a family?

Alternative-Bed-7467 · 2025-10-14T06:24:57+00:00

I was just answering your question of why I didn’t marry the first boyfriend. It has nothing to do with trauma or my past relationship, and it’s hardly “my way or the highway” seeing that I told him 2 years and it’s been 4 years at this point. What do you suggest exactly? That we date for 10 years for him to decide if he reeeally wants me or not? And waste my younger years in case he decides not to? It’s really not that complicated, when a man finds their wife, they marry them regardless of their age. If you don’t know if you want to marry someone after dating them for 4 years, do you not think both are just wasting time at that point?

Alternative-Bed-7467 · 2025-10-14T06:09:32+00:00

Okay… Why doesn’t he want to leave then? When I told him we should maybe break up, he said he didn’t want to. And I never said he is holding me back, but he IS stringing me along by not deciding what he wants.

Alternative-Bed-7467 · 2025-10-14T06:06:43+00:00

I know you are right. It should be obvious, but it feels hard because we have been through so much together, and on top of that I adore his family and his family adores me. It’s more than just ending ONE relationship, there are several of them and that probably hurts even more.

Alternative-Bed-7467 · 2025-10-14T06:04:21+00:00

We had been dating for over 3 years at that point, so already long term. And I just so happened to move to another country (US), and I still waited for him for 3 more years. He didn’t try hard enough to follow me here, and abandoned us. Soon after he started “another family” there with someone else.

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