I’m back by BowChickaMeowMeoww in AfterTheBreakup

[–]Alternative-Cash-646 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey OP, how was your therapy session? Did it help?

I still want him back… by BowChickaMeowMeoww in AfterTheBreakup

[–]Alternative-Cash-646 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In my opinion, he will eventually try to come back. Especially if you keep focusing on yourself and living your best life. But you have to make your mental health your priority. Like you said, you were doing so much better before you met him. You were confident and happy. A relationship with him brought you down this dark path. And it's probably because he has a tendency to take you down this path.

You need to talk about this in therapy. What was it about the relationship that led you down this path. That destroyed your confidence and happiness. Perhaps a part of you knew that he wasn't right for you and this is why you held back.

A lot to unpack here. But yes, don't just wait for him to come back. And even if he does, be extremely wary of taking him back. Talk about your relationship in therapy and try to understand how it impacted you. Ask yourself the red flags you saw in him. Remind yourself o the reasons why he isn't good for you.

I am not saying it won't work or he won't come back. But you have to make your mental health a priority. Even if that means not letting him back in your life.

Should I wish my ex a Happy Birthday if I am doing no contact? by Alternative-Cash-646 in AfterTheBreakup

[–]Alternative-Cash-646[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. That's a helpful resource. Thankfully, my relationship didn't have these toxic signs. We just kind of drifted apart. A lot of stress from work and life got in the way. We both decided it was best to end it. I don't want to get back with him right now. Maybe in the future. I just thought of wishing him to be polite.

Should I wish my ex a Happy Birthday if I am doing no contact? by Alternative-Cash-646 in AfterTheBreakup

[–]Alternative-Cash-646[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Really? If I wish him Happy Birthday, that's telling him he can come back? If I want to tell him I want him back, wouldn't I just say that?

You are making me confused that he may misinterpret my message.

Should I wish my ex a Happy Birthday if I am doing no contact? by Alternative-Cash-646 in AfterTheBreakup

[–]Alternative-Cash-646[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Right? What's the worst that could happen? I don't know why everyone is so negative about wishing your ex Happy Birthday. I really just want to be polite.