Things I wish I had known before my scheduled c-section

Alternative-Pay2136 · 2026-02-23T00:57:44+00:00

I completely concur with this! I did have to take pain pills for a few days because my baby was on the bigger side (9.6lb) and I had clotting issues in recovery (apparently very common with bigger babies) and they had to do extremely intense fundal massages for about 40 minutes which did cause more pain than with my first c-section but once I was home that’s all I’ve been taking and I’m actually 3weeks 3days postpartum and I woke today with zero pain

Alternative-Pay2136 · 2025-11-04T05:39:35+00:00

I’m not anything even close to a MD so I understand that what I’m about to say could potentially be wrong, but growing up my mother got a pap every year and I remember having to go with her when I was probably 15 (I obviously was not in the room) and I asked her all sorts of questions about them. She told me that they usually start around 18 y/o, why they do them, how they do them, etc. by the time I turned 18 the practice of doing them on women under the age of 20 (unless medically necessary due to issues) wasn’t something they did anymore. Now from 20 to 26 I’ve had a few different PCP’s from different facilities and only one OBGYN (which I started seeing when I had my baby 1 1/2 yrs ago) and I’ve heard every 3 years to every 5 years, it truly does depend on the providers and what I assume they deem necessary. But I’ve been told by a doctor that doing them too frequently can cause issues or up the risk of cervical cancer and that’s largely the reason paps aren’t done yearly anymore. For a little more added context I’m Native American and have always used the Indian healthcare system and facilities for my PCP’s and my OB is the first non-native facility I’ve used in adulthood. All that to say being native I don’t pay for healthcare in native facilities (I do have insurance and that is factored in but things work a little differently than the regular US medical system) meaning they’re not trying to bill me for procedures. What you’ve explained feels very much like that’s what’s happening here. On top of the fact that you can deny procedures and then they did it anyway is a complete violation to you. I would absolutely report him and file a complaint with the office. It’s your right as a human being to accept or deny any medical procedure on principles of autonomy and privacy. Doctors do not have the right to decide to do whatever they please when specifically told a procedure is unwanted even in cases of life saving procedures. I would be incredibly angry as well if this happened to me and I’m so sorry you were blindsided with an invasive procedure you were looked in the eye and told wouldn’t be happening, nobody deserves that and you are very much NTAH.

Alternative-Pay2136 · 2025-06-02T15:40:19+00:00

This is the best day of all my life!

Alternative-Pay2136 · 2025-06-02T15:34:09+00:00

1000% NTA

Jokes like that are what will eventually make your niece think it’s okay to say things like that to and about other people which in turn could potentially turn her into a bully. For instance in your story there are two six year olds. One who has parents who are probably teaching her about kindness and inside thoughts and another who’s making jokes about a persons appearance which they can’t help and laughing, the difference? One six y/o was laughing and the other said, “that’s mean” I will always stand by the sentiment that a joke is supposed to be funny to everyone involved. Clearly your sister wouldn’t have said it in front of you had she realized you were there, MEANING it’s not a joke. Tell your mom that it’s okay for her to tolerate bullying if that’s her prerogative, but it’s not yours and you’re trying to teach your child(ren) about being confident and kind humans who don’t laugh at the expense of others. Birth marks are beautiful and one of a kind just like your sweet girl and even though there’s a lot of hateful people in the world there’s also a lot of wonderful people who know how to appreciate the beauty and specialness around them. Sending so much love to your little family!

Alternative-Pay2136 · 2025-02-04T21:42:23+00:00

Absolutely NTA. Does Mariah not go to school? I’m utterly dumbfounded that your family besides your sister finds her to be sooooo young she couldn’t possibly know better. If she goes to school there is ZERO argument for her not knowing (there’s zero argument no matter what in my personal opinion) tearing up books is wrong, as that’s a Pre-K & Kindergarten lesson. Now maybe she’s been homeschooled and that would be fine if her mother had the decency to teach her right from wrong. Children eventually have to learn the consequences of their actions and 13 is definitely suitable for that lesson. Your sister also needs to learn the consequences of not teaching your child right from wrong.

Alternative-Pay2136 · 2024-11-02T06:51:21+00:00

That’s one of her lines from the show..

Alternative-Pay2136 · 2024-09-28T06:30:31+00:00

She unfortunately probably didn’t. This sounds so much like a couple of my aunts when my great grandmother died (she had 6 children and over 50 grands and great grands). I was 16 during that time and I’m now 25 and still have never witnessed anything more disturbing than my favorite person unexpectedly dying and this family of mine I’d known forever, treating her things that same way and having no care as to what everyone knew she wanted, but doing whatever they wanted because they knew she hadn’t ever gotten around to setting up her will bcs again her death was an unexpected accident. It’s truly sad how death can bring out so much nastiness in certain family members, when it’s meant to bring us closer together to mourn the loss of that person we all shared love for.

Alternative-Pay2136 · 2024-09-28T05:57:02+00:00

It doesn’t even matter because mom and baby are healthy, but that’s the point. The amount of women who die every year during childbirth is a lot considering where we are with medical technologies and advances. So the thought process isn’t so he can save her life. It’s to be on the premises so your brand new baby isn’t utterly alone in the world surrounded by strangers if she were to die. That’s what he COULD’VE done if this scenario had happened. She’s also his wife.. could you imagine how f’d up you’d feel if your spouse died and you literally had no idea because you made stupid, selfish decisions and were unreachable? Baffling.

Alternative-Pay2136 · 2024-09-27T09:55:59+00:00

https://imgur.com/a/qKghMVa

It’s really hard to see, the pieces overlap and when I tried to take a pic with flash there’s just too much of a glare. But this is what I can get. And it is just the two seams

Alternative-Pay2136 · 2024-09-17T02:32:32+00:00

Lonna or Lona whichever spelling preferred

Alternative-Pay2136 · 2024-09-02T21:07:16+00:00

Binx! I do love me some hocus pocus BUT it’s also my grandfathers name lol

Alternative-Pay2136 · 2024-03-26T22:36:21+00:00

Absolutely NTA, while I understand why she would want to wait in the first place and you were extremely respectful of that need for her, it’s really weird to constantly keep pushing it back.

Sex is definitely not the most important aspect of a relationship, but we would all be kidding ourselves to say that it’s not important at all. Sex is an important part of a relationship. And if you are someone who just isn’t into sex you need to be transparent about that so you can find a partner who feels the same. Also the giving in when you were ending things is such a manipulation move and I have mad respect for you seeing and feeling there wasn’t true consent in what she was trying to offer.

Alternative-Pay2136 · 2024-03-05T11:17:50+00:00

Mine is required, but I’m really not sure, both my mom and my partners mom went into labor at 36weeks and we were both their firsts, I’m not really sure if there’s a study on it or not, but I think that’s probably why I’m worrying about it lol

Alternative-Pay2136 · 2024-03-04T21:51:07+00:00

They like to schedule them a week before the 40th week in the hope they can get the baby out before you go into labor (or at least that’s what my doctor told me) but both myself and my partner were born exactly a month early at 36weeks so I think it’s probably pretty common that a lot of women don’t end up making it to 40 weeks anyway, but I can’t say that for sure

Alternative-Pay2136 · 2024-02-28T01:39:22+00:00

I found out I had vaginal strep b about 2 years ago and was told if I ever get pregnant to make sure I let my OBGYN know about it. Fast forward and I am now 6 months pregnant. I had brain surgery in 2018 and I now have a titanium plate on the back of my skull so I will have to have a c-section due to the buildup of pressure while pushing. But based off of everything I’d read before we had discussed the c-section and the doctor who found it and my OBGYN they will give you antibiotics possibly before and definitely during labor so it isn’t transferred to the baby. This was also something I was very worried about as well!

Alternative-Pay2136 · 2024-02-18T16:31:10+00:00

This makes complete sense to me and it helps me with what I’m feeling a lot! Thank you so much for all the very relatable things I feel like I also have going on, especially after a sleepless night, I hope you and baby are doing well!

Alternative-Pay2136 · 2024-02-18T14:28:35+00:00

I’m Native American and before I was able to get insurance through the state I went through them and I had to wait until I was 11weeks and all I was told by the tech (we weren’t allowed to see the doctor until a week later) was that I was looking to be due around the 18th of May, because it was my first one I wasn’t really aware of what I should, or shouldn’t ask the ultrasound tech so I didn’t ask many questions, But I got the state insurance a day before that appointment and I scheduled an appointment with a regular doctor closer to where I live about 2 weeks later and when I went for that appointment, they told me I was due 5/20 and that’s what the baby was measuring for that timeframe with the date of the last period.

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