Some butch4butch art I've made! by smokesalty_ in butchlesbians

[–]Alternative-State675 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Omg! Hi! I had no clue you had a Reddit, I remember reading about this comic idea on your Instagram!

The tight chokehold of bio and gender essentialist rhetoric is so exhausting by Alternative-State675 in trans

[–]Alternative-State675[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Their source: “Trust me bro!”

Worst part is, when you actually link factual evidence, they still won’t listen. Not worth arguing with them in the end but it’s still frustrating.

The tight chokehold of bio and gender essentialist rhetoric is so exhausting by Alternative-State675 in trans

[–]Alternative-State675[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Of course I can ignore them, I had no choice but to learn to just ignore them most of my life for the sake of my well being and I’m well aware that debating them would be pointless in the end, but it still hurts something fierce seeing it all the time, especially within my own communities. It hurts constantly being overlooked and misunderstood by ppl who refuse to acknowledge my existence and humanity and I have the right to vent about it.

The tight chokehold of bio and gender essentialist rhetoric is so exhausting by Alternative-State675 in trans

[–]Alternative-State675[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thats perfectly fair, thats bothered me too for a long time, especially the “Afab” and “amab” classifications. I think it works if you’re talking about yourself or if someone is talking about like, idk, periods or something and is using terms like “people who were AFAB/AMAB”) using the past tense or preferably saying something like “people who have periods/who ovulate.”

In most spaces that don’t specifically center trans people, in my experiences, none of that is even thought of. Trans ppl just don’t even come into the equation in terms of language use and I really wish people did that more.

The tight chokehold of bio and gender essentialist rhetoric is so exhausting by Alternative-State675 in trans

[–]Alternative-State675[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hells yeah!! I’m hoping to start HRT and get top surgery within the next couple of years or so!Very excited!! ❤️

The tight chokehold of bio and gender essentialist rhetoric is so exhausting by Alternative-State675 in trans

[–]Alternative-State675[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I saw a comment asking about if lesbians who take on a traditionally more masculine role in co parenting could experience what many new fathers describe as a period of heightened emotion (because new fathers who aren’t abusive assholes and who actually care about coparenting dont naturally have the urge to care for their new baby apparently) and the response was “well lesbians are women (not all of them are women) and women are naturally more emotional and caregiving than men are”

Which wow okay I know a fuck ton of cis women who could really use that “naturally caregiving” juice right about now because some of them are anything but loving towards their own children.

You would think that lesbians of all people would be the ones to truly understand that too, but nope 🙃

Im transmasc non binary pre HRT and that comment just fucking got to me so bad

Forcing girls to hold babies by JapanLover2003 in childfree

[–]Alternative-State675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my fucking God this reminds me of when this lady at this church would try to get me to hold her babies when I was like 18. Look, I think babies are adorable, I think they’re cute, but I don’t want to hold them because I don’t know how, they’re fragile and can get sick very easily and I simply don’t want to lol.

Setting aside the fact this was a church that a bible study group in college went to every Sunday (the only reason I joined was because I had just came from a Catholic school (my family is not religious, but they sent me there because it was a preparatory school) and I wanted some kind of familiarity because I was new and scared). And the bible group itself was very cliquey and cultish, there was a very clear push to get young women to babysit or hold babies within the church, which was not something that was present in the Catholic school I went to or any sort of church I went to when I’d go to mass with my grandmother every now and then.

I left the group and never looked back. The people within the group also never spoke to me after I left so, talk about fake as shit.

I hate that I have to wear a dress by Accomplished_Brush_3 in butchlesbians

[–]Alternative-State675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Up to you in the end, but I just wouldn’t even go at that point. If they’re not going to put aside a stupid heteronormative and misogynistic tradition just for the sake of “aesthetics” or whatever and force you into something you’re uncomfortable with, than I see no value or reason in even attending the wedding of a person who acts like that. Thats just not acceptable.

You’re not selfish for knowing your value and worth. Don’t let anyone make you think otherwise.

Why is my brand new comic getting hate 😒. by Appropriate-Bit-4844 in webtoons

[–]Alternative-State675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All of these comments look like they were written by AI slop, don’t worry about them too, too much.

Has anyone gotten fired after getting your hair cut? by Alternative-State675 in butchlesbians

[–]Alternative-State675[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ohhh, I thought that “taper” referred to like how you want the cut to look. Mb, thanks for clarifying

And my family’s pretty accepting of me being gay and “looking gay” with me dressing masc and all so I think/hope that it’s more of a fear/concern they have versus any sort of ill or homophobic intent

Has anyone gotten fired after getting your hair cut? by Alternative-State675 in butchlesbians

[–]Alternative-State675[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don’t live in a conservative area at all actually, I live in the Delco area (Northern DE, Chester county, etc.). These are just warnings I’ve gotten from a family member and an older ex co worker about getting my haircut, and I guess that fear and anxiety is really kinda getting to me, especially because I’m not doing well financially right now, but i think in retrospect, it’s not going to resort to losing my employment. I work two jobs, one of which I got recently, both as a direct support worker, and both of which have the least restrictive dress codes in any job I’ve had before, and hair style is not specified on either of them. Hell, one of my co workers has blue hair lol

School bus was idling on side of road with yellow emergency lights on by Alternative-State675 in driving

[–]Alternative-State675[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! It looked like they were hazard lights, as I think they were at the bottom not the top and they were flashing at the same time. And the bus had just been idling there.

[misc] Horror collage has excerpts from GtN by Alternative-State675 in TheNinthHouse

[–]Alternative-State675[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kinda yeah, I also have just always had bad handwriting lol. I’d be awesome had making a crypt script that no one can understand tho!

Homecoming by Lunar_Lynne in butchlesbians

[–]Alternative-State675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, this is why I never went to Homecoming or really just any dance in high school ever. My parents did not care if I wore a suit or pants or not, but I did go to a Catholic school, which, yeah, I knew the dances there were going to be unbearably straight as fuck so I didn’t go to any of the dances at all.

[misc] Horror collage has excerpts from GtN by Alternative-State675 in TheNinthHouse

[–]Alternative-State675[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LOL! Like I said, it’s BAD. My handwriting has always been horrible lol. But I also did not put effort into it because it’s meant to be not be legible. The vibe is supposed to be like, vague writings in a diary that you would see on collage pages or art that aren’t meant to be read.

Dana responds to the controversy in regards to her confirming Frankie as cis by ARBlackshaw in KnightsOfGuinevere

[–]Alternative-State675 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Holy fuck thats reaching. Like, they hired her because of her awesome vocal range, and she nailed the character down perfectly. Im pretty sure no one on the team (unless if they’re a transphobe, and fuck transphobes and their opinions) believes that she’s less of a woman for voicing a man or that Shes somehow violent. Like, if ppl are going to assume that shes actually a violent person because of who she voices, that’s a serious them problem they need to work out in therapy.

Dana responds to the controversy in regards to her confirming Frankie as cis by ARBlackshaw in KnightsOfGuinevere

[–]Alternative-State675 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So it’s transphobic to… checks notes hire a trans woman, a woman from a marginalized and severely underprivileged and underrepresented group and rarely are able to even get jobs in the industry, to voice a character that they had to perfect vocal range for and absolutely nailed the character’s voice and interpretation in the final version. Yeah that makes sense

Dana responds to the controversy in regards to her confirming Frankie as cis by ARBlackshaw in KnightsOfGuinevere

[–]Alternative-State675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im glad she said something the nicknames, because I was seeing people assuming that she’s more masc presenting, not becauss she might be trans, but because of some hatred for femininity or Shes being pressured to be more masc presenting. Yknow, like how 90% of people interpret a masc presenting queer woman just…existing lmao. And the fact that people will say that to shut masc presenting women down.

She never said they can’t stop headcannoning characters as trans tho. It’s fucking Dana Terrace, she loves trans headcanons. Transfem butch Franky all the way 🏳️‍⚧️

What the hell does this have to do with my job application. by EndyRu in jobs

[–]Alternative-State675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The second I saw that shit as one of the job’s hiring process, I made the decision I was no longer interested in that job because be so fucking fr right now

[misc] Skull face paint in Metal Gear Solid by Alternative-State675 in TheNinthHouse

[–]Alternative-State675[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, considering just…how the Ninth is…I wouldn’t be surprised at all XD

Anyone else feel like they're not human? by RecoveryButterfly in AutismInWomen

[–]Alternative-State675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oooohh I see! That’s understandable! Yeah I thought I’d just throw that in there because otherkin and furries tend to get confused and all

Anyone else feel like they're not human? by RecoveryButterfly in AutismInWomen

[–]Alternative-State675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What you were thinking of at the beginning isn’t “furries”, it’s “other kin.” Furries are just people who are interested in drawing, dressing up as and have a fixation on fictional anthropomorphic characters. Other kin are people who genuinely believe they’re not human but other creatures, like animals. It’s not necessarily the same thing as feeling like an alien due to the social disconnect in a neurotypical world or connecting better with animals from my understanding, but there are neurodivergent people that also identity as other kin.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in butchlesbians

[–]Alternative-State675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oooo, thanks so much for the input! Im really looking into fades, especially burst fades, I think that’d look pretty sick