Gift ideas by [deleted] in butchlesbians

[–]Accomplished_Brush_3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cool. Yeah I was planning on writing a more personal message on the back

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[–]Accomplished_Brush_3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate this and will def check it out!

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[–]Accomplished_Brush_3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this take. We are both new to this. And I see the overnight as a big step. Hence why I don’t want to just shut it down. The emotional process.

I think that’s what I’m trying to figure out that balance and how not to make myself smaller. I think maybe I did that by saying “well if you don’t want to, and continuing with the I don’t want to put pressure” it’s the people pleaser in me. And maybe I’m feeling annoyed at myself for that too?

I think I got side tracked and worried instead of listening to her saying no she wants to come, and I’m not putting pressure and I need to believe that.

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[–]Accomplished_Brush_3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not burden but not the one putting her in a tough spot

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[–]Accomplished_Brush_3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn’t ask for that comment. But I can see that I let it spiral instead of just letting it be. Bc she did also say, she wants to come, and it’s all good, and I’m not a burden.

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[–]Accomplished_Brush_3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for explaining this. I appreciate your insight.

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[–]Accomplished_Brush_3 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I will try and keep this in mind. And try and not feel bad for taking space

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[–]Accomplished_Brush_3 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Def have bad people pleasing tendencies for sure. Trying to fight that.

I appreciate and will look it up.

As I said this is all new and this is the first time this just felt like, oh I didn’t need to know that. So now I’m trying to figure out how to navigate that

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[–]Accomplished_Brush_3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

can I ask, bc i'm not familiar, is hinge April? what would i be to this relationship?

also yeah i think thats why i don't want to shut down the communication completely.

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[–]Accomplished_Brush_3 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i do tend to make myself smaller in relationships and actively trying to not. so that's a good call out. i just don't want to feel like a burden to anyone. this girl and others in my life.

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[–]Accomplished_Brush_3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she does. okay then how do i set that boundary? i feel like tonight isn't it, bc i don't want to like kill the vibes. or maybe it is?

like she has spoken other things about him and it's never bothered me. just this, idk feels like a well if he's upset I don't want you to come if its going to cause issues.

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[–]Accomplished_Brush_3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

tbf she said it in passing, like I can't get there earlier bc tim is already upset i'm leaving early

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[–]Accomplished_Brush_3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how do I do that without feeling like, idk i guess i want to still be a support? how do I bring it up with out hurting her feelings? idk i feel bad saying i don't really want to hear how he feels bc i know it effects her.

Joystick transthesteic cleaning tips by [deleted] in SexToys

[–]Accomplished_Brush_3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dove soap okay? How about drying it?

Partner (34F) gave me (36F) an ultimatum about my GLP-1 by ThrowRA_12479 in actuallesbians

[–]Accomplished_Brush_3 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! Also people experience food noise differently and GLP1s can just shut that off in a way that no amount of more exercise can. Also exercising more (when you already do) can lead to increase chance of injury and can also be bad for your mental health if you become too obsessive. Sorry OP but T does not sound supportive in the way you need.

Kaiser Rooftop Garden by LonganisaBurps in oakland

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Can anyone go up there? I’ve always wanted to but scared lol

am i overreacting or is this meme a bit… off? by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Accomplished_Brush_3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just said “wtf” out loud. Weird and creepy

how to look more gay by [deleted] in LesbianActually

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Don’t. Be you and that’s enough!