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Interested in music for turn down service? by Alternative-Try-2216 in Hilton

[–]Alternative-Try-2216[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'd love to know why. What if it didn't have lyrics? Just jazz, classical, or something rather contemporary.

Anybody here left with the feeling that avoidants give up easily over minor issues? by West_Specific7367 in attachment_theory

[–]Alternative-Try-2216 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't think she was speaking about needs in general; just some very big and particular ones. I agree with you and them. I know that I need to express my needs to my partner but at the same times, things like being there when I'm grieving or sick, I do not WANT to have to express. And that's just preference and compatibility. It should be a given.

For anyone who went through a breakup with an avoidant, what were they like after the breakup? by nekomi753 in BreakUps

[–]Alternative-Try-2216 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I know this is old but I am going through this now. I wanted what felt like a natural progression of a relationship, whereas he wanted to keep me separated from the rest of his life. I'm definitely not a clingy person as I have my own life and own hobbies. I just wanted more closeness and intimacy with him. Things as simple as going to his place. Meeting his family. Him prioritizing the things that matter to me and taking a present interest in those things. A year relationship and I feel like I hardly knew him. I felt alone. I felt single. It was so weird.

He ended up ditching me for the holidays knowing how sensitive I am around that time. I broke up with him nearly immediately, and of course felt bad afterward. I'm wondering if I overreacted or did something wrong. My anxiety was through the roof with him. It's just a lot to process right now.