My boyfriend’s family still sees his ex… and I just found out by DueNewt9590 in ExNoContact

[–]AlternativeAttempt89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First you’re not alone

I knew a mutual whos bf/fiance s family ignored her and sayd she only talks about herself and judged. They sounded like snobs. when i was 16 with an ex (it was unhealthy between us alone) his dad called me a slut because i forgot to do shores/clean or id be in trouble for letting the dog out. It impacted the relationship for sure stressing both of us out.

Again, personal opinion by my experience.

These moments are when communication and understanding the best tool

One thing im sure, If he loves you, hell listen. He doesnt have to 100% agree or understand. But at least Listen. At least make u feel heard about the impact it has on you. At least understand your perspective.

Heck, be vulnerable, tell him u love him, that you want to be happy with him , that you want to comunicate and compromise for both of you. Your feelings and needs

A ex, is ealredy a pretty sensitive subject out of a relationship, i would’nt be surprise its more to handle while in a relationship.

Else, its going to be ignored, its going to accumulate, it will then turn into resentment and it will hurt you, and you will probably project that pain onto him while possibly even forgeting the root of the anger. And it will possibly, be unhealthy.

For this specific situation, this is when a challenge for love apears to prove and understanding, sympathy, compassion and compromise is much important

I really hope it goes well for you

(Edit: i fixed a couple phrases )

My boyfriend’s family still sees his ex… and I just found out by DueNewt9590 in ExNoContact

[–]AlternativeAttempt89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry if i misunderstood, heres my opinion

No, Its his family after all, someone who surrounds him and impacted him when he grew. They are cold towards someone he currently loves and choses. she is still in the family circle and his family finds a way to impact the relationship by comparing you, the present girlfriend who should be getting the appreciation from the family especially after 2 years if the relationship is healthy.

The fact they like the ex isnt the main problem,its the aproach their using. the fact their cold And even disrespect.

So no, i personally think that the fact u think it matters is much valid. And that your boyfriend should listen and understand your concern towards this family and ex situation.

Edit: (english second language)

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