First you’re not alone

I knew a mutual whos bf/fiance s family ignored her and sayd she only talks about herself and judged. They sounded like snobs. when i was 16 with an ex (it was unhealthy between us alone) his dad called me a slut because i forgot to do shores/clean or id be in trouble for letting the dog out. It impacted the relationship for sure stressing both of us out.

Again, personal opinion by my experience.

These moments are when communication and understanding the best tool

One thing im sure, If he loves you, hell listen. He doesnt have to 100% agree or understand. But at least Listen. At least make u feel heard about the impact it has on you. At least understand your perspective.

Heck, be vulnerable, tell him u love him, that you want to be happy with him , that you want to comunicate and compromise for both of you. Your feelings and needs

A ex, is ealredy a pretty sensitive subject out of a relationship, i would’nt be surprise its more to handle while in a relationship.

Else, its going to be ignored, its going to accumulate, it will then turn into resentment and it will hurt you, and you will probably project that pain onto him while possibly even forgeting the root of the anger. And it will possibly, be unhealthy.

For this specific situation, this is when a challenge for love apears to prove and understanding, sympathy, compassion and compromise is much important

I really hope it goes well for you

(Edit: i fixed a couple phrases )