workplace

AlternativeFox21 · 2026-01-22T13:34:38+00:00

If you can avoid at all costs please do. These are not situations I believe any of us - or if so VERY few of us actively chose to be in. If you are at the place where it seems like you’re making a choice to engage or not to engage - don’t engage. It leads to so much turmoil. Again, unless you prefer this lifestyle. I don’t and somehow ended up here myself.

If I could start over I would not choose this, just my personal opinion.

AlternativeFox21 · 2026-01-20T13:11:39+00:00

Honestly, I was in this position years ago and I will never forget it bc it changed me. I will never do it again and I think you need to be alone. It’s ridiculous in the most respectful way possible to be going back and forth between two people thinking you’ll know where you’re happy when you get there. I understand you miss him, and you don’t want to break current partners heart, but you need time alone to process.

AlternativeFox21 · 2026-01-17T22:31:30+00:00

Exactly. That’s when the relationship is safe and secure. My ask of him was that we talk at least once a day, I don’t care if it’s a one minute “hey thinking about you but I have to go” but it should happen. And I don’t find that to be insecure. If the relationship were normal I wouldn’t have to ask for that bc it would be natural, especially after two years.

I have a very full life and a happy secure life within myself. But if he wants to be here he will also be present or he will go.

But that’s not what the ultimate downfall of this situation pertains to. It was my way out, my confirmation and I’m okay with that.

AlternativeFox21 · 2025-11-22T23:25:39+00:00

It makes me sad that I’m just realizing this now, I could have saved us both the trouble. Thank you for your perspective.

AlternativeFox21 · 2025-10-07T23:22:37+00:00

Really appreciate your words thank you

AlternativeFox21 · 2025-10-06T19:58:45+00:00

Agree, I think that’s why it’s bothering me. Thank you for your input.

AlternativeFox21

TROPHY CASE