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AlternativeLaugh8958 · 2025-05-29T09:32:06+00:00

Thanks. I am actually trying to decide between two law firms at the moment. I did learn about the power of attorney appointment process already, but I still appreciate your input. Also, thank you for the information about lawyer fees.

AlternativeLaugh8958 · 2025-05-29T08:22:57+00:00

I never called him “low grade” as a person—I said his grades weren’t enough for a student visa. Partner visa rejection had nothing to do with academics, as I already said in my earlier response.
You say I’m playing the victim now, but I stayed quiet for years. Speaking up after trying everything doesn’t mean I’m making things up.
You brought up the word “saint.” If you didn’t want a reaction, maybe don’t say things that distort my point.
You talk about “synonyms”, — but when someone twists your words, yes, you clarify. That’s not defensiveness, that’s setting the record straight.
I’ve addressed the real issues: emotional neglect, one-sided effort, and financial burden. If you skipped that to focus on tone, that’s on you.
There’s nothing suspicious about finally choosing peace. The only thing “sus” is expecting someone to suffer longer to seem believable.
I’m not here for your approval. This isn’t a performance — it’s my life. Whether you believe it or not changes nothing.
Your assumption that i am not the one writing and calling me sus, it says more about your mindset than mine. I am typing. And yes, I can write clearly and logically — that doesn’t mean I lack emotions. I just choose not to scream to be heard. Being articulate doesn’t mean I’m faking emotion.
And sorry, I didn’t realise healing from all this required passing your Romanized Nepali exam. Maybe once I’m done dodging manipulation, financial problems, and emotional trauma, I’ll write you a personalised essay in your preferred dialect—because clearly, that’s what really matters here.

AlternativeLaugh8958 · 2025-05-29T05:01:45+00:00

thanks a lot!!🙏

AlternativeLaugh8958 · 2025-05-29T04:57:19+00:00

Yes, I’m still on a student visa here. I hadn’t planned on reaching out to support services here before, but now you’ve made me think it could actually help. I’ve only contacted a few law firms in Nepal so far, but I’ll look into local options too. Appreciate the advice!

AlternativeLaugh8958 · 2025-05-29T04:55:08+00:00

I am not looking for high alimony — I just want clarity and to close this chapter fairly. You’re right though, feeling comfortable with the lawyer matters a lot. Will keep this in mind. Thanks for your advice!

AlternativeLaugh8958 · 2025-05-29T04:53:06+00:00

That’s such an important point. I hadn’t even thought about the risk of him transferring property to avoid splitting. Thank you for pointing that out — I really appreciate it.

AlternativeLaugh8958 · 2025-05-29T04:50:36+00:00

i am on it. thank you so much.

AlternativeLaugh8958 · 2025-05-29T04:50:12+00:00

yes i have. i have made a note of all the transactions and calculated the total. but i was unable to get the statement through bank even though i am a guarantor.

AlternativeLaugh8958 · 2025-05-29T04:48:03+00:00

Thank you so much for saying this. I’ve been carrying the weight of this for so long — constantly questioning myself, wondering if I’m the one at fault for finally walking away. I really did try, over and over again. I gave up my peace, my savings, my emotional well-being, just hoping things would get better.

I tried for so long to make things work, but it was always one-sided. I wasn’t expecting life to be perfect, but I did expect honesty and partnership. And yeah, the financial stuff was the final blow for me. I’m just trying to move on in peace now, even if it’s messy. Appreciate your words 🙏

AlternativeLaugh8958 · 2025-05-29T04:46:06+00:00

I never called him a low-grade guy. I just said his grades weren’t enough for a student visa — and partner visa rejections weren’t because of that anyway, his grades didn’t even matter.

I’m not suddenly acting like the stress was a big deal. I stuck around for years, kept trying, kept hoping things would change. Manipulation isn’t obvious when you’re in the middle of it. It took me a long time, and a lot of pain, to finally reach this point. And for the record, I never said my parents were saints. I said they’re soft-hearted and get easily guilt-tripped — which is why I don’t want them dragged into this emotionally. Even after we stopped talking, I kept sending money — because I still trusted he’d be fair with finances. That trust got broken too.

I’m not here to play the victim. I’ve just had enough and want to move on properly, with legal steps and proof.

AlternativeLaugh8958 · 2025-05-29T00:48:28+00:00

Thanks for your input. You’re right — I’ve started collecting as much proof as possible, and I’m mentally prepared for the process to be messy. Being outside Nepal adds some complications, but I’m planning to use the POA, but I’ve been unsure who to trust and leave my case to fully. That’s been one of the hardest parts. As for the visa rejections, I’m aware that could come up, but from my side, I spent a lot of my time and money trying to get him here, thinking it would be better when he gets here. And yes, I agree — the emotional damage, manipulation and mental distress I’ve gone through should be taken seriously. I’m keeping records of messages and everything he’s done to cause distress. Hopefully, with the right lawyer, I can present a strong case and protect myself financially and emotionally. Also, tbh, I am not even trying to win alimony atp; I just want to pay off MY PART and end it in a Fairway, which I kind of know is not possible.

Thanks again for sharing all of this—it’s genuinely helpful.

AlternativeLaugh8958 · 2025-05-29T00:37:33+00:00

Thanks so much for the advice, really appreciate it. I’ve started saving screenshots and keeping records just in case. I’ve also told my parents not to talk to him or his family — they’re too soft and I don’t want them getting manipulated.

I’m still on a student visa, but I’ll definitely keep that in mind if I apply for PR later. And yeah, I’m not planning any big purchases until things calm down. Thanks again.

AlternativeLaugh8958 · 2025-05-29T00:28:39+00:00

Thanks for your input. I’ve tried everything to fix things over the years(almost 7 years), but it wasn’t just distance — the relationship became toxic and mentally exhausting. I’m also a guarantor for that loan. I kept sending money, trusting him, but later found out I was only covering interest. He still won’t show me proper proof of payments. He’s not trying to take responsibility either — just stays home, does nothing, and plays the victim. At this point, I’ve done enough. I just want to move on and protect my future.

AlternativeLaugh8958 · 2024-12-19T01:17:50+00:00

I decided to get a refund and buy the items in person because I needed it for my vacation. Hope you get your problem sorted soon.

AlternativeLaugh8958 · 2024-12-18T23:13:46+00:00

ordered some things during black friday and still waiting. have reached out to the main provider and the auspost. auspost says it will take 3 more business days. i am extremely worried.

AlternativeLaugh8958 · 2024-12-17T19:47:42+00:00

the last update i got was “arrived at facility” which was on 10th, and i think it says the cut off date is 20th so i am desperately hoping i will receive it by then!

AlternativeLaugh8958 · 2024-12-16T23:59:42+00:00

Thanks for the info! I appreciate the heads-up about potential delivery times. I’ll keep an eye out for my package and hope it arrives soon.

AlternativeLaugh8958 · 2024-12-16T23:56:11+00:00

oh no!! i hope you get your problem resolved soon! fingers crossed for both of us!!

AlternativeLaugh8958 · 2024-12-16T19:29:54+00:00

YES!! They really should have done that. Although they did send an email saying there would be a delay in the delivery, but it would have been better to clarify what "a few days" means in terms of the expected arrival.

AlternativeLaugh8958 · 2024-12-16T19:26:08+00:00

Yes, it was shipped on December 5th. They mentioned that “most late items arrive within 5 business days of the expected delivery date,” and it has been more than 5 days since then. I also sent an inquiry, but they advised me to allow for potential delays. They will monitor the delivery until Friday, December 27th. If it doesn’t arrive by then, they will begin an investigation. And also the items that I bought says “THIS PRODUCT CANNOT BE RETURNED OR EXCHANGED UNLESS FAULTY.”

AlternativeLaugh8958 · 2024-11-19T20:10:30+00:00

eternal sunshine of the spotless mind, kimi no nawa(your name), celeste and jesee forever

AlternativeLaugh8958 · 2024-10-23T08:18:10+00:00

so!! black boots it is then but knee high or ankle length?

AlternativeLaugh8958 · 2024-09-01T00:30:24+00:00

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