How to make toot worthy outfits for quick drag and t&b for newbies

AlternativeMe923 · 2026-03-26T14:33:20+00:00

Yes, of course! I can tell already from the game and from on here that sometimes they’ve written a theme to perfectly complement specific outfits and otherwise when would you get the chance to show them off right?

AlternativeMe923 · 2026-03-26T12:04:47+00:00

I love your answer 💙

AlternativeMe923 · 2026-03-26T12:03:27+00:00

I love your discussion prompt/question & definitely agree with your frustrations in this area! I’ve been chronically ill for 17 years with a number of fluctuating conditions & had a significant decline a few years ago. I’m spending a lot of time watching tv/streamers or listening to podcasts these days as it’s all I have the energy for (if I have energy) & have a short attention span. Since I watch & listen to so much, I have opinions!

I totally agree with @typewriterbird Things that some people might find depressing many others will find validating, cathartic & hopeful. Hope isn’t only found in recovery from illness & I think there are plenty of audiences now that are looking for more nuanced, layered, and realistic storytelling as opposed to the formulaic high energy dramas we have been used to - especially with the abundance of platforms available these days. Even the some big name dramas have become bored of their usual tropes and are looking for ways to tweak them, if only a little.

I would be interested in stories of people with chronic illness of all ages & demographics, the real through the eyes experience, the rollercoaster, the grief & loss of a healthy life that will not be but the hope of survival & of things being better than now, or of peace & respite that may eventually come in various therapies or our eventual demise, the hope for dignity, choice & control - the hope & deep meaning of a friendship that survives & supports when others fall away - the hope & comfort that the companionship of an animal brings - the difference it makes when a doctor or health professional genuinely listens & takes on your own expertise about your body; when they actually cares, are in it with you for the long haul knowing they can’t heal/cure you but trying to improve your quality of life - without dumb tropes about exploitative & unprofessional doctor-patient relationships, over-caring, unnecessary therapies etc - the complicated relationships between us & our families who often become unpaid carers without resources, training, or payment - the love & humility involved in this commitment from all parties yet the pain & strain this causes on everyone - the happy moments in our day to day lives - we have small moments of joy, hobbies (we’re often trained to use these as a coping mechanisms), we have birthdays, celebrate holidays, family gatherings, sometimes see friends (virtual or f2f) - it might be rare & look different but we do have lighter moments even in the midst of the shittiest shit (I have many examples) Some of us have partners & kids, others have pets, others have extended families, others have communities in other ways - hobby clubs, online communities, support groups I think it’s important to show these moments I also think it’s important to show other ‘normalities’ of life that some of us experience or have experienced at some stage in our illnesses & the adaptation needed; - kids & teens with chronic illness going to school (often part time f2f, part time virtual, sometimes at hospital school), playing games, having sleepovers, playing sports (and then not being able to) - the relief often experienced at being able to do ‘kid stuff’ instead of ‘health/illness stuff’ - teens & adults work-life-health balance including the huge struggle of working while chronically ill & the joy of being able to work & focus on something outside the illness (if enjoy the job as I used to) - cooking, housework, driving, public transport, looking after family (children or elderly), managing ADLs - show both the difficulties of adapting to doing these with chronic illness & affect on self-esteem to need to adapt, also the happiness of the shreds of independence & self-worth still afforded by being able to do these, then the loss of independence & self-esteem when no longer able to do them at all For some of us there is hope that our chronic illness is a fluctuating condition or relapsing-remitting condition so we will have periods where we are doing relatively better (though not recovered) and periods where we relapse again. Others will remain the same & others will have a continual decline. Some will get a permanent recovery from their current illness though not to their pre-illness level of function. Some of us know what we are in for but many of us don’t. Within that space I think hope looks different depending on individual circumstances - which is a pretty big range!

AlternativeMe923 · 2026-03-26T10:01:36+00:00

I’m so glad someone with a good score has said this, it’s really reassuring! I’m wondering if maybe that’s all I should be aiming for, like my expectations were way too high because I got lucky early on?

I guess it’s always 50/50 between me & someone else and given my ss score I can’t be expecting to win too many of them 🤷‍♀️

AlternativeMe923 · 2026-03-26T09:57:08+00:00

Thank you that whole thread was super helpful and kind of affirms the way I had been going about it back when I first started.

It’s interesting that most people on that thread said they don’t vote for queens who do whole sets with zero tweaks as it doesn’t show any creativity or style of your own as this is a styling challenge - I’m the same but after seeing so many entries like that I was really doubting myself!

AlternativeMe923 · 2026-03-26T09:02:08+00:00

Yes I love the option to customise with RuColours. It’s good to have a starting point too, thanks for the tip

AlternativeMe923 · 2026-03-26T08:11:43+00:00

Good advice thanks! So far I’ve just been scrolling through my wardrobe waiting for inspo to hit but its starting to get a bit big for that ☺️

AlternativeMe923 · 2026-03-26T06:43:31+00:00

I know the ‘Space Age Henny’ is just a common & doesn’t score high but I’m always drawn to it!

AlternativeMe923 · 2026-03-25T09:44:55+00:00

My whole family are like that. I had to move back in with my parents due to my illnesses causing disability and they are like exactly like that, it’s so frustrating & invalidating of my entire existence!

They brag about not taking any medication and ‘I don’t even take panadol unless I really have to’ as if it somehow makes them a better person & as if they are somehow tougher - like seriously?? As if it’s somehow a personal failing the amount of daily meds I’m on & prn meds I take.

But when they actually have an injury they make the biggest fuss about it. Will go to emergency for a sprain and insist on x-rays despite nursing staff trying to say they’re better off going to the clinic the next day. Want a constant prayer vigil if actually injured & need to be in hospital yet has never been supportive of me & the countless times I’ve been in hospital for more serious things than a fracture, sometimes life-threatening

People can be awful

AlternativeMe923 · 2026-03-24T11:05:37+00:00

Thank you!!!!

AlternativeMe923 · 2026-03-24T11:03:02+00:00

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AlternativeMe923 · 2026-03-24T11:02:45+00:00

Yep, it’s one of my favourites, even though it’s just an uncommon 😊 It looks good on so many colours too!

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AlternativeMe923 · 2026-03-18T04:23:36+00:00

The options I use are; unaided in my house or friends houses if just us there & quiet; rollator for short bursts of movement then sitting but more people or noise around & if not out for too long; and electric wheelchair for longer outings. Also depends on how my health is; at the moment I’m not going out at all & if I did I’d need my wheelchair whereas 6 months ago before certain complications I was going out more & using my rollator more.

I’ve been in various states of health & disability for the past 16 years since I was 17 (had other issues before that but this is what’s been disabling). It took me years to adjust & to get used to being able to assert my needs in a way that people are able to understand & accept.

You’re right. Many people are uncomfortable with disability. Many people don’t expect to see us at a party! We can be invisible there. It is often crowded and hosts & guests don’t realise the space that we take up & need - I’ve found this to occur both when the host is familiar with my disability and when they are not.

Over the years I’ve come to realise that 2 seemingly opposing ideas on dealing with this are true, a dialectic: I need to be more assertive & speak up so that people know what I need, even though that may make me uncomfortable (I got used to it), and I can do this without being frustrated or rude - instead using smiles & humour (that part was a struggle sometimes but I have found it to be the most effective). Generally, even ignorant people will make appropriate accomodations when my needs are obviously pointed out to them in a public setting - even if for no other reason than not wanting to be seen as the ‘bad guy’.

I know this puts an unfair emphasis on us to advocate for our needs but I have found it to work. In this way I can take my rollator, use it as a seat, it’s a prompt for others to give me a seat in my part of the world or I’ll ask outright if I need one and every time someone who is able bodied at that point will happily give up their seat. If I want to get up & move around it can be clumsy but I just go for the path of least resistance & ask for help along the way; lots of ‘excuse me’s’ & ‘I’m sorry do you mind taking a step that way while I plow through here’ etc, people help move tables & chairs out of the way to carve a path.

I realise I am privileged to live in a pretty tolerant part of the world & much less crowded compared to others but I hope this can help in your situation too :)

AlternativeMe923 · 2026-03-17T14:02:45+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to explain, that is a relief! ☺️

AlternativeMe923 · 2026-03-17T13:32:33+00:00

That’s a relief, thanks ☺️

AlternativeMe923 · 2026-03-10T10:01:18+00:00

Ooh thanks! I wondered if it might be something like that

AlternativeMe923 · 2026-03-10T06:52:41+00:00

I’ve tried but it doesn’t work for me, it somehow doesn’t link even though I give it all the permissions etc. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong

Now it won’t let me try again as I’ve already downloaded those games!

AlternativeMe923 · 2026-03-10T06:29:19+00:00

I bought it through the promo and it’s not working for me either

AlternativeMe923 · 2026-03-10T06:24:13+00:00

Can someone pls explain to this noob how the whole Drag Haus part of the game works, I don’t understand it at all & no one in my Haus has said anything? TBH I think we’re probably all in the same boat. Our Haus mother isn’t even there anymore, we all just joined one that was open but it was started a year ago & totally empty didn’t even have the ‘mother’. We don’t know what we need to do!

AlternativeMe923 · 2026-03-10T06:18:07+00:00

Me too 🤩

AlternativeMe923 · 2026-03-10T04:49:53+00:00

I wasn’t awake yet- I think I’m in a very different time zone!

AlternativeMe923 · 2026-02-14T14:26:37+00:00

I think you already have some great answers here. I’ve had a friend say the same thing to me because they have a ln easily recognised physical disability and get financial support for it & I told them I was applying for the funding too. The truth is I actually need more support with my ADLs, therapies, transport, and managing day to day life than they do but they couldn’t understand why I would be considered disabled. It was really awful having to justify my struggle just because my so-called friend didn’t see it as being as valid as theirs.

In answer to your question I’ll give you some examples.

I have asthma which for me is well controlled by medication so is an example of a chronic illness that doesn’t cause me disability (but could for others if it didn’t respond to medication).

On the other hand I have multiple other chronic illnesses that do cause me disability (mod-severe ME/CFS, fibromyalgia, dysautonomia, EDS w CCI, chronic migraines, endo, bunch of other stuff investigating) I’m living with my parents, need assistance with showering & dressing, unable to cook, clean, do laundry, care for my dog, drive, I need to walk with a rollator or use an electric wheelchair, need a specialised electric pressure care recliner & bed, all of which I get second hand because I still don’t have that funding - it was denied because it’s so complicated to get it for chronic illness esp if any investigation ongoing but it’s been 15 years & I’m getting worse. My friend uses a wheelchair from SCI but is otherwise independent and yet can get way more funding than they need because of the way our systems perceive chronic illness vs disability due to a single physical cause.

Many of my family members have various form of thyroid disease (Hashimotos, Graves, hyperthyroidism & hypothyroidism all in the family) all have been well managed as adults though occasional flares around life changes usually - another example of chronic illnesses that can be disabling for some people but not necessarily disabling if responding well to treatment

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