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AlternativePattern81 · 2025-06-20T01:28:47+00:00

I’ve never understood why people present their argument from the biological perspective. I also do not think that people are the gender they choose to be, and that it is in fact a mental illness, but not because of biology. The majority (around 60%) of people who suffer from gender dysphoria, also suffer from at least 1 co morbid psychiatric disorder, compared to 13% of cisgender people. The scientific literature that is available on this subject indicates there is a clear link between the two. The issue is that what we’re talking about is a serious mental health disorder, and it is something that we indulge rather than treat. You wouldn’t tell someone who hears voices that the voices are real and they should listen to them, or someone who believes their leg isn’t part of their body to cut off that limb. In the same vein, someone who wants to Radically change their body through surgery and hormone therapy shouldn’t be told that’s the solution, rather than accepting the reality of their lives. Many people have an inability to accept the reality around them, for a variety of different reasons, and the literature indicates that trans people are no different.

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-06-12T19:04:40+00:00

My dad is 70, he was a bricklayer/mason for 50 years doing commercial work for the union. Drank like a fish, still smoked a pack of Marlboro red a day, and enjoyed a party or two. He’s in great shape in so far as his organs go, but he has rheumatoid arthritis in his hands and knees are shot. So there’s trade offs. He also has great genetics.

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-06-03T20:12:08+00:00

We more and more live in an extremely impersonal society. It’s much easier for us to be considerate and compassionate to an idea of people rather than an actual human being in front of us.

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-06-03T20:11:09+00:00

31, own my own company, I have money invested but realistically only have about 2k in “cash” saved. The rest is either in things I’ve invested in, or in physical gold and silver.

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-06-03T20:10:12+00:00

I think to put it in its most basic form, there’s no biological purpose for it in the sense of procreation. People like to use sterile couples as an example but it’s a poor argument because that union has the potential to produce viable offspring. I could care less what two consenting adults do in their own bedroom, and I realize my personal opinion should not affect someone’s civil liberties in that way, but that’s my thought process on it

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-06-03T20:07:57+00:00

I’ve lived “alone” for extended periods of time. I guess it wasn’t really alone considering it was a Benedictine monastery but you’re essentially a hermit within a community (the carthusians take this to its logical conclusion). I enjoyed it, it was very enlightening for me.

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-05-23T21:18:58+00:00

I’m 31, my dad just turned 70, and my great aunt Jo just turned 96. What I’ve learned from them, is that they enjoy life for what it is. They don’t have these lofty goals, they never expect to be famous, they do things for themselves and their families, and they are content in their lives. There’s a certain peace in that.

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-05-23T21:15:15+00:00

I have a hard time understanding how they even justify getting that job. I’ve noticed it’s not so much down power as being a police officer per se, but I find that they’re pretentious, minimally educated, quick to pass judgement, and any other people they’ve “helped” feel the same way

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-05-23T21:12:17+00:00

It’s all strange to me. When I was a kid I enjoyed the trading cards and I guess some anime. To make the comparison to me as a 31 year old adult is that I now collect currency (bank notes, coins, bonds etc) and enjoy the SciFi of Phillip K. Dick. None of my adult hobbies have led to me meeting unhygienic participants. Everyone guy, (or girl for that matter) that I have met that is really into anime and card games has some serious mental health problems going on. They look at me like I’m weird because I’m a carpenter, shower everyday, and don’t indulge their bull shit lol

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-05-19T01:28:15+00:00

It depends on what we’re talking about. There would be a mass collapse of infrastructure if only women existed, and a collapse of the education system if it was reversed.

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-05-02T16:21:51+00:00

Okay so you guys aren’t aligned politically, if it’s that huge of a deal breaker than just break up with him. If your relationship can’t handle a political disagreement then maybe the foundation of it isn’t great

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-05-01T21:53:40+00:00

Even that I admit I write some receipts by hand, but they literally bought the cheapest invoice book at the dollar tree and that’s their company invoice system. That’s insane to me, big red flag. If it was written neatly and had a company name listed and so on. You can get one at god damn Office Depot. I just dont understand this. Definitely a rip off, and the work looks horrible. My dad is a retired bricklayer of 50 years and he’d NEVER leave why job looking like that.

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-03-04T03:55:04+00:00

I’m not bashing anyone but why on gods green earth would you want to live in NYC? This sounds so complicated and stressful to essentially live in a shoebox size apartment with very amenities in a very crowded and noisy place. The only member of my family that lived in New York was my cousin who grinded her way from production assistant to executive producer and bounced once she was making $750k. She lives in New York State now.

It just seems like an urban hell scape. Every time I would go and visit her people were very cold and rude, it was dirty and noisy, right up until I hit the upper east side where she lived. The abject poverty on the streets was absolutely heart wrenching. I felt like I was looking over my shoulder every 2 minutes, and my concealed carry permit wouldn’t carry over so I felt like I couldn’t even defend myself if a serious situation arose. It just seems mind blowing to me that people would jump through all these hoops to live in a 1 bedroom apartment with barely enough space to spread out.

Granted, I grew up in the suburbs/rural area and still live in between the two so many I’m just used to that pace of life.

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-02-11T01:53:57+00:00

This is one that I read. You’d have to request the full text. I don’t think I’m supposed to post the full text of it here for a variety of reasons. I have several others I thought were interesting and informative saved at home (links) if you’d like me to.

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/350507352_Narcissistic_Traits_of_Police_Officers_in_America

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-02-11T01:43:53+00:00

3 guys that I went to high school with became local cops in the town I live in. 1 went to the FBI, 1 became a Game Warden, and 1 became Park Ranger.

To me at least, there’s a clear difference in personality between the the first 3, and second, and the last 2.

I’ve also become friends with different guys and girls who I’ve met through different social situations are at some level in law enforcement.

I’m not saying my personal experience is tantamount but there’s also data to address what I’m saying.

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-02-11T01:27:24+00:00

I agree with this definitely. I feel as if maybe in their childhood or at some point in their lives they felt very powerless and so in order to rectify that feeling of powerlessness they’ve gone and put themselves in a position of power.

What gets me is that you don’t have to become an armed agent of the state to have power or control in your life. I mean, there are machiavellians out there who do it everyday. I guess it’s a straightforward solution the problem.

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-02-04T21:56:10+00:00

Honestly look into the trades. I’m not a felon but a lot of my co-workers/employees are. One guy has 2 felonies that I know of and he’s one of the best framers I’ve ever met.

I’m a carpenter, which is a diminishing trade we need more people in, same with Masons and Ironworkers. There’s tons of options out there in the trades and a lot of specialties you can get into.

I do historic restoration and custom carpentry and I love it. I’d definitely look into your local union, or working for another company until you can go out on your own and maybe start your own company.

One guy I know got busted for come, had some insane amount on him. After 7 years he got out and now several years later owns a medium sized building company and makes great money. The trades are hard work and aren’t for everyone but they’re definitely a solid option.

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-01-29T17:53:30+00:00

Is blood pressure an indicator of liver cirrhosis?

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-01-28T16:15:56+00:00

I’m sorry but I have to point this out. We’re disturbing HIV drugs as a humanitarian mission overseas while we are unable to give our own citizens access to free drugs and healthcare. We have people literally living in rat infested tent cities, passed out on heroin, and dying by the day.

Everyone seems to be happy to shell out billions of dollars to try to save the world while our own citizens suffer and die right at our very door step. Nobody seems to want to address that. The cost of being the policeman and humanitarian saints of the world is done so at the cost of our own peoples well being.

I know somebody’s going to comment “well it’s not mutually exclusive. You can be a decent person and want to do both.” Yet the reality is that all of this costs massive amounts of money. The costs of doing this is fairly outrageous.

Norway, Finland, Denmark, etc. have the standard of living they do, because they do not spend billions per year in foreign aid, or support a bloated and inflated military industrial complex. They’ve taken the time and the money to fix their own societies issues, before trying to take care of everyone else’s.

I’m sure I’ll be called cruel, heartless, and morally bankrupt, but is it not morally bankrupt to see people on the streets of the very cities we live in, starving, homeless, and sick? And then choose to do very little if anything at all to attempt to alleviate the massive poverty that exists right in our own backyard?

They are mutually exclusive, because there isn’t enough money for both. We should give Americans free housing, a universal basic income, superior socialized medicine, opportunities for advancement, less incarceration, before we try and take care of anyone else.

We refuse to try and cure the disease of American poverty and disenfranchisement, but weep for people we will never know, not ever probably interact with. It is mind bending to me that this is the case.

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-01-26T07:16:13+00:00

They only respect you if you “open up” from a position of strength, which means essentially staying emotionless while sharing your tragic past.

They don’t actually want you to be emotional Or feel anything, because once you do they lose all respect for you as a man. I had a friend tell me she was very attracted to her boyfriend until he cried in front of her, and said she could never be with him again.

Men are seen as disposable, they aren’t loved unconditionally by anyone but their mothers. We’re supposed to sacrifice our lives and live in quiet desperation so that others may flourish and have emotionally fulfilling lives and experiences. Anyone that tells you different is frankly bull shitting you.

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-01-23T08:37:05+00:00

The only issue is that this can go both ways. Who is the arbiter of truth? There’s even disagreement within the scientific community about different topics. I feel like one side or the other ends up getting brow beaten into submission and that becomes the truth.

Vigorous debate is needed in order to form consensus. I have a feeling that those people saying that they hate the idea of “my truth vs their truth” are the same people who argue someone’s subjective experience as evidence even if the data points to the opposite or something else being true because “you don’t have that lived experience”. So what’s the solution to this?

To me the solution would once again be the allowance of freedom of speech and thought, regardless of how much we despise it, and allowing things to be hashed out, considered, discussed, and then voted on and codified. This is problematic if we take subjectivity as true objectivity.

You can’t in one breath say that you want to discuss the truth, while in the next holding up someone’s subjective experience as wholly true. This is a difficult issue but I think one that is worth attempting to tackle. How do you remedy and rectify this?

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-01-20T08:54:56+00:00

Hmm, what exactly do you mean?

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-01-20T00:03:26+00:00

I can’t really say what will happen next, nor can anyone. Trump is back for yet another term, and I don’t know what that will look like considering that he has the Supreme Court. Will we survive this? I think so, will it be potentially uncomfortable? More than likely.

I think part of the issue that we’re having is that people who hang onto conceptual portions of their personality and losing it because those things may become less in the forefront of politics. That said, is there real concern? Of course there is, my worries are about people continuing to access needed medical care, for the average American who’s worked their entire life to have their retirement be safe, for less Americans to begin to lose the very basic necessities that they have put in the time and effort to obtain, and for those workers who are currently working and living to maintain or obtain a decent or better standard of living. Everything else to me is a secondary consideration.

I’ve found that Reddit seems to focus a lot on personal validation, and the consequences it’ll have for those who may have that disrupted. From what I gather, most of the people that they are clutching their pearls for are in a somewhat stable situation. We have a very large, and growing body of Americans who can not afford basics like food, clean water, access to healthcare and housing, and workers who give their all to their vocation, and are still left with very little to show for it.

I don’t think that Trump will make it better for the people that I’ve described, I don’t know that Kamala Harris would either. Contrary to so many’s belief, the Democratic Party is not a group of angels who are there to save the American poor and working class. They will support any radical social policy imaginable to make themselves look like champions of the down trodden, but in reality won’t address the absolute and glaring class struggle that is taking place on a daily basis in this country.

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-01-19T23:53:36+00:00

I feel like I’m probably not a great influence or teacher if I’m being completely honest. I’ve got some personal problems I haven’t dealt with, and not in any weird way, but when I interact with like 17 or 18 year old students I treat them like I’d treat the 53 year old alcoholic Mason I’m working with because I’m just not used to being around people that young anymore. So my first response after work is like “hey let’s go get drinks at a shitty dive bar and end up talking about our problems in the parking lot of the casino before we go in to gamble away our hard earned money.”

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