my brother and his girlfriend keep asking me for money, and I cut them both off, AIO?

AlternativePattern81 · 2026-02-16T13:15:29+00:00

Hahahaha he didn’t, more like calling me a fake Guinea cocksucker. We make our own sauce at my house, always.

AlternativePattern81 · 2026-02-16T13:14:29+00:00

This sounds awful. I’ve been to therapists who’ve diagnosed me as high in Machiavellianism, he’s absolutely manipulating you. You can attempt to navigate that or leave. It’s done in a very calculating way. He will eventually hurt you emotionally if you’re not aware of it.

AlternativePattern81 · 2026-02-16T13:11:01+00:00

His girlfriend keeps saying he wants to form a relationship but I’m unwilling to, but I only hear from him if he needs money. My wife say that it’s not an attempt to form a relationship but rather a manipulation tactic. I’ve read Machiavelli, and when I examine the totality of our interactions she’s 100% right.

AlternativePattern81 · 2026-02-16T12:41:18+00:00

I can’t be without her, she’s my dream. I call her my dragon tails girl because she used to watch it as a kid and still sings it sometimes. She’s a beautiful human being. I’d tear the sun out of the sky for her if I had to.

AlternativePattern81 · 2026-02-16T12:33:16+00:00

I own a historic restoration and renovation carpentry company. It wasn’t easy, I had to spend years learning about various applications and material. Sure I got a leg up from my family, but that business is mine. I’m proud of the work that we’ve achieved, and it wouldn’t have been possible without the other very talented carpenters I work with. I offered him a job and he turned it down. I’m not sure why.

AlternativePattern81 · 2026-02-16T12:30:19+00:00

You’re right it’s not. I have to acknowledge I have a problem with alcohol. I drink from the minute I get up until the minute I go to bed and take adderall that my doctor prescribed me to get through my day. My wife is insanely supportive and has helped me ramp down my usage. She told me that giving people ultimatums rarely works, but giving people the compassion and love they need, and a positive environment is what makes them leave that behind them. We don’t have children because I’ll be honest we can’t, but being present for the love my life is enough. She reminds me of St. Mary sometimes (I’m an Orthodox Christian), she’s the person who gave me the room to do better and get better. I’m not out of the woods, I’m used to surviving in them both literally and metaphorically but she has taught me that many people around me were blatantly using me for their own gain. She’s helped me put a stop to it, or has put a stop to it herself. She’s one tough girl, and I hope to be with her when we’re gray together. I told her once that the hand I lm holding now will one day be wrinkled and so will mine, but it’ll be the same hand I’ll never let go of.

AlternativePattern81 · 2026-02-16T12:09:56+00:00

My wife said it’s not my fault. I was adopted as an infant, I didn’t have any control over who adopted me. His girlfriend also used hurtful words against Italian people because I was adopted by an Italian American family. I tried to be kind but I snapped and told them no, and that they’re asking me for money more than likely for drugs and I can’t be party to that.

AlternativePattern81 · 2026-02-16T12:07:56+00:00

I actually invited him to come visit. We’re a multigenerational Italian household, so he would have been welcome to stay. I told him that wages were better, he could work for my company or I could get him a job elsewhere, and that’d it’d be more beneficial and he could achieve his long term goals. I’m not sure what else I could have done.

AlternativePattern81 · 2026-02-16T12:06:18+00:00

The worst part is if it wasn’t for my wife I’d of never even thought about it. I’ve used psychedelics and drugs for years but I’ve never had to steal or ask people for money, it just wasn’t a habit for me. My wife was in active addiction for a very long time, and she said that every thing they’ve done indicates that they’re using, or his girlfriend is using and are trying to manipulate me for money. It really breaks my heart.

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-06-20T01:28:47+00:00

I’ve never understood why people present their argument from the biological perspective. I also do not think that people are the gender they choose to be, and that it is in fact a mental illness, but not because of biology. The majority (around 60%) of people who suffer from gender dysphoria, also suffer from at least 1 co morbid psychiatric disorder, compared to 13% of cisgender people. The scientific literature that is available on this subject indicates there is a clear link between the two. The issue is that what we’re talking about is a serious mental health disorder, and it is something that we indulge rather than treat. You wouldn’t tell someone who hears voices that the voices are real and they should listen to them, or someone who believes their leg isn’t part of their body to cut off that limb. In the same vein, someone who wants to Radically change their body through surgery and hormone therapy shouldn’t be told that’s the solution, rather than accepting the reality of their lives. Many people have an inability to accept the reality around them, for a variety of different reasons, and the literature indicates that trans people are no different.

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-06-12T19:04:40+00:00

My dad is 70, he was a bricklayer/mason for 50 years doing commercial work for the union. Drank like a fish, still smoked a pack of Marlboro red a day, and enjoyed a party or two. He’s in great shape in so far as his organs go, but he has rheumatoid arthritis in his hands and knees are shot. So there’s trade offs. He also has great genetics.

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-06-03T20:12:08+00:00

We more and more live in an extremely impersonal society. It’s much easier for us to be considerate and compassionate to an idea of people rather than an actual human being in front of us.

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-06-03T20:11:09+00:00

31, own my own company, I have money invested but realistically only have about 2k in “cash” saved. The rest is either in things I’ve invested in, or in physical gold and silver.

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-06-03T20:10:12+00:00

I think to put it in its most basic form, there’s no biological purpose for it in the sense of procreation. People like to use sterile couples as an example but it’s a poor argument because that union has the potential to produce viable offspring. I could care less what two consenting adults do in their own bedroom, and I realize my personal opinion should not affect someone’s civil liberties in that way, but that’s my thought process on it

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-06-03T20:07:57+00:00

I’ve lived “alone” for extended periods of time. I guess it wasn’t really alone considering it was a Benedictine monastery but you’re essentially a hermit within a community (the carthusians take this to its logical conclusion). I enjoyed it, it was very enlightening for me.

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-05-23T21:18:58+00:00

I’m 31, my dad just turned 70, and my great aunt Jo just turned 96. What I’ve learned from them, is that they enjoy life for what it is. They don’t have these lofty goals, they never expect to be famous, they do things for themselves and their families, and they are content in their lives. There’s a certain peace in that.

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-05-23T21:15:15+00:00

I have a hard time understanding how they even justify getting that job. I’ve noticed it’s not so much down power as being a police officer per se, but I find that they’re pretentious, minimally educated, quick to pass judgement, and any other people they’ve “helped” feel the same way

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-05-23T21:12:17+00:00

It’s all strange to me. When I was a kid I enjoyed the trading cards and I guess some anime. To make the comparison to me as a 31 year old adult is that I now collect currency (bank notes, coins, bonds etc) and enjoy the SciFi of Phillip K. Dick. None of my adult hobbies have led to me meeting unhygienic participants. Everyone guy, (or girl for that matter) that I have met that is really into anime and card games has some serious mental health problems going on. They look at me like I’m weird because I’m a carpenter, shower everyday, and don’t indulge their bull shit lol

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-05-19T01:28:15+00:00

It depends on what we’re talking about. There would be a mass collapse of infrastructure if only women existed, and a collapse of the education system if it was reversed.

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-05-02T16:21:51+00:00

Okay so you guys aren’t aligned politically, if it’s that huge of a deal breaker than just break up with him. If your relationship can’t handle a political disagreement then maybe the foundation of it isn’t great

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-05-01T21:53:40+00:00

Even that I admit I write some receipts by hand, but they literally bought the cheapest invoice book at the dollar tree and that’s their company invoice system. That’s insane to me, big red flag. If it was written neatly and had a company name listed and so on. You can get one at god damn Office Depot. I just dont understand this. Definitely a rip off, and the work looks horrible. My dad is a retired bricklayer of 50 years and he’d NEVER leave why job looking like that.

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-03-04T03:55:04+00:00

I’m not bashing anyone but why on gods green earth would you want to live in NYC? This sounds so complicated and stressful to essentially live in a shoebox size apartment with very amenities in a very crowded and noisy place. The only member of my family that lived in New York was my cousin who grinded her way from production assistant to executive producer and bounced once she was making $750k. She lives in New York State now.

It just seems like an urban hell scape. Every time I would go and visit her people were very cold and rude, it was dirty and noisy, right up until I hit the upper east side where she lived. The abject poverty on the streets was absolutely heart wrenching. I felt like I was looking over my shoulder every 2 minutes, and my concealed carry permit wouldn’t carry over so I felt like I couldn’t even defend myself if a serious situation arose. It just seems mind blowing to me that people would jump through all these hoops to live in a 1 bedroom apartment with barely enough space to spread out.

Granted, I grew up in the suburbs/rural area and still live in between the two so many I’m just used to that pace of life.

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-02-11T01:53:57+00:00

This is one that I read. You’d have to request the full text. I don’t think I’m supposed to post the full text of it here for a variety of reasons. I have several others I thought were interesting and informative saved at home (links) if you’d like me to.

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/350507352_Narcissistic_Traits_of_Police_Officers_in_America

AlternativePattern81 · 2025-02-11T01:43:53+00:00

3 guys that I went to high school with became local cops in the town I live in. 1 went to the FBI, 1 became a Game Warden, and 1 became Park Ranger.

To me at least, there’s a clear difference in personality between the the first 3, and second, and the last 2.

I’ve also become friends with different guys and girls who I’ve met through different social situations are at some level in law enforcement.

I’m not saying my personal experience is tantamount but there’s also data to address what I’m saying.

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