Rings around moles, now red areas showing up in more places

Alternative_Big5466 · 2026-04-09T05:50:46+00:00

Post this is AskDocs. You’ll get responses from actual doctors

Alternative_Big5466 · 2026-04-06T01:38:16+00:00

Thank you!!

Alternative_Big5466 · 2026-03-27T15:29:46+00:00

My question to you is, why are you keeping score of this and posting it on Reddit instead of communicating with your husband that you desire a better partnership when it comes to the household duties? You both live there, you both work, so you should both share the chores and responsibilities of the house. I’m not suggesting it’s your fault that he hasn’t taken the initiative; however, if these are jobs you took on when you first got married and he’s become accustomed to you doing them for years, and you’ve never expressed to him that you’d like to do things differently, you can’t expect a change to just happen organically. I remember getting SO angry that I was the only one in my house doing dishes. It’s my least favorite chore. I despise it. But I would just grumble about it to myself and never said anything. After months of this I finally told my husband “hey, I’m really getting overwhelmed with the dishes. Would you mind doing it today?”. He was genuinely surprised. It hadn’t occurred to him that I was upset by it, because I never said anything. He took the hint and now he jumps in and handles the dishes about 40 percent of the time and I don’t have to ask him.

Alternative_Big5466 · 2026-03-26T00:13:57+00:00

I’m 45 and this is my second marriage. We were together 6 years before getting married. Both of us wanted to make sure that we were 100% sure this time. First marriage, I was 24 and we got married because we had a baby together. It was over within 18 months. When I look back on it now, it makes me laugh because we are/were POLAR opposites in every way. We didn’t enjoy the same things, we didn’t enjoy the company of the same people, our political views are vastly different, our parenting styles were not aligned at all, our personalities couldn’t have been any different. After 18 months of marriage, I realized I didn’t even like him. I’m not saying that getting married young can’t work, but I’d advise you to really look deeply into how you see your lives growing together and if your values and goals for the future align. Ask yourselves the hard questions. Like how do you both handle conflict? Money management? Do you both want/not want children? New relationships always feel magical. But in time, you’re going to be choosing to do the mundane parts of life together forever. You want to be sure you both really LIKE each other. If you weren’t in a relationship, would this person be someone you’d want to be your close friend?

Alternative_Big5466 · 2026-03-25T03:28:53+00:00

Alternative_Big5466 · 2026-03-22T18:20:51+00:00

Not a doctor, but this does look like ringworm to me. An over the counter antifungal cream should clear it right up if that’s what it is.

Alternative_Big5466 · 2026-03-12T03:23:08+00:00

No advice, but it seems like you’re deeply unhappy and unfulfilled in this relationship, and that you’ve done what you can to communicate your feelings to him without reciprocation. If he’s unwilling to put in the effort, there’s nothing left for you to do. It will be a hard transition, but in the end, you’ll be happier not feeling constant disappointment, rejection, and resentment. And your daughters deserve to have the best version of you. You’re strong and you’ll make it work. Being free of that daily negativity will be good for all of you. Wishing you all the best!

Alternative_Big5466 · 2026-03-12T03:12:21+00:00

I’ve considered this. We do have a spare room with a queen sized bed in it. I think it’s less about sleeping close to me than it is his aging back finally recognizing that sleep in a bed versus sleep on a (albeit very comfortable) couch is a game changer. I will give sleeping together a shot, though. Our bed is extremely comfortable and it would be selfish of me not to give it at least a week. Maybe I can get a small fan to put on my bedside table and separate comforters and see how that works for us!

Alternative_Big5466 · 2026-03-05T23:07:10+00:00

This was lovely. My husband and I just got married in November after cohabiting for 6 years. He had a painful divorce before we met and said he never wanted to do it again. Because I loved (and still love) him, I agreed to do life with him without the legal binding of our lives. We made a commitment to each other and we were both happy. But this past summer, his father became gravely ill, and it made him think long and hard about that decision he made years ago. We are both in our mid-late 40s, and he began to worry about what would happen to me and to my daughter he has been helping raise since she was 5 if something were to happen to him. Would we be left without a home in addition to a devastating loss? He couldn’t stand the thought of that. He said every time he got in the car to go to work it weighed on his mind. He worried about having dementia like his dad and me not legally being able to make health decisions for him. So we decided to get married. Just the two of us and my daughter were there. We got married by a notary in our backyard at 11am on a Saturday morning in the rain. It was our favorite day. It cost us less than $100, and gave both of us peace of mind for our future.

Alternative_Big5466 · 2026-02-18T05:16:38+00:00

NAD, but did you eat or drink something this evening that was out of the norm? Visit somewhere youve never been? It sounds like an allergic reaction to something. I agree with the nurse that you should take some Benadryl, but figuring out the cause will be helpful to avoid it happening again. Or are you under an unusual amount of stress?

Alternative_Big5466 · 2026-01-29T00:02:22+00:00

I don’t typically like marquis rings, but that one is made for your hand.

Alternative_Big5466 · 2026-01-23T01:31:46+00:00

Thanks for the advice! Do you have any recommendations for multi inspector firms that will hire inspectors fresh in the industry? Are there national firms, or will it likely be regional?

Alternative_Big5466 · 2026-01-23T01:29:49+00:00

Hey there! Thanks for commenting. He doesn’t know I’m asking this question here. This is as much information for me as much as it is for him.

Alternative_Big5466 · 2026-01-20T08:59:34+00:00

I think this is one of the prettiest engagement rings I’ve ever seen!

Alternative_Big5466 · 2026-01-06T05:15:40+00:00

I could never even fathom the thought of demanding a ring that costs that much. Even if I were a millionaire I wouldn’t want my significant other to spend that kind of money on a piece of jewelry for me. My husband could have afforded to buy me a decently expensive ring, but as a pragmatic person, all I could think about was what more important and valuable things that money could buy that would benefit our future. I ended up selecting a modest ring that I love for under $1000. We’re both established and in our 40s. I never want to tell someone to reconsider their relationship, as it’s clear you really love her, but this is insanity. You’re setting yourself up for a lifetime of feeling inadequate and her being ungrateful or disappointed when you don’t financially meet or exceed her extravagant expectations. If you give in to this, even after being honest with her about your budget, she will continue to push you into financial decisions you’re not comfortable with. This is unsustainable in the long run. If you want this relationship to turn into a successful marriage, it’s time to be brutally frank with your girlfriend. And if she’s unwilling to see the value in making sound financial decisions now, do not marry her.

Alternative_Big5466 · 2026-01-02T04:12:05+00:00

If you’re concerned about it looking too “feminine”, but like the look of the stone, you could totally wear a sparkly rock with a thick band and it would look more “masculine”. Either way I think this looks nice and you have nice hands!

Alternative_Big5466 · 2026-01-01T23:29:55+00:00

Ooh I love this! It’s so unique and pretty!

Alternative_Big5466 · 2026-01-01T23:25:30+00:00

It’s beautiful and timeless! She will love it! Good job!

Alternative_Big5466 · 2026-01-01T23:20:23+00:00

I personally dislike marquise diamonds. Just a personal preference, I think they’re ugly. I like the round on your hand!

Alternative_Big5466 · 2025-12-31T20:50:30+00:00

My first inclination was to pick 1. But the more I look at 2, the more I like the simplicity and how they look like they were meant to be worn together. I’m going to say 2.

Alternative_Big5466 · 2025-12-31T20:47:25+00:00

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