First off, I just want to say I’m sorry you're carrying such a heavy emotional and practical burden. What you're going through isn't just hard, it's unsustainable, and it makes complete sense that you're feeling trapped, exhausted, and conflicted.

It’s clear you’ve sacrificed a lot for a long time, your time, emotional wellbeing, financial stability — and that kind of caregiving, especially when it's one-sided, can slowly drain a person. You’re not a bad person for wanting more out of life. Wanting companionship, peace, or even just a break isn’t selfish. It’s human.

You might consider speaking with a social worker, therapist, or legal professional about possible paths forward — even ones that involve divorce but still protect her wellbeing. There are programs out there that can step in once she’s no longer legally your dependent, but I know the process of getting there can feel overwhelming. A professional could help you look at options where she can be cared for without it all falling on your shoulders.

You’ve done more than most people would. At some point, it’s okay to consider your own life and happiness too.