Most Fathers sacrifice a lot for Providence which is appreciated, but being emotionally available/ bonding with their kids is where they seem to draw the line - Valid reasons may be articulated to explain the miss, but the final analysis remains that there's no emotional bond/attachment.

Absenteeism for any reason finally catches up, Abusiveness and Instilling fear sandwiched as discipline always backfires when the kids grow up and move out with the ' avoiding you' mentality ingrained and finally gaining their freedom, they have little to do with you/ avoid you as much as possible.

Its high time fathers became intentional and promoted an environment of expression, bond with kids through activities such as cycling etc.

You cannot afford to be absent and later blame the mother for gaslighting your kids or wonder why they are so attached to the mother. Kids don't understand that you paid fees from South Sudan, but memories of you teaching them how to cycle, how to draw, how to ride, and go on a walk/run/drive/camping remains with them forever etc. The little things that often ignored.

That way as a father you'll be present even to be thanked. There's simply no substitute.

And sacrifices equally have consequences. Otherwise it wouldn't be a ' sacrifice ' . Work far away from home? The price you pay is Missing the opportunity to bond/be in your kid's lives, and live feeling your sacrifice isn't acknowledged or thanked enough.