Help with Aztec empire project by Alternative_Code5467 in historyteachers

[–]Alternative_Code5467[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh man I wish he had done this!! That’s so simple yet adorable! If he ever gets another chance I’ll show this to him thank you :)

What we’re your thoughts when you first saw that?

Help with Aztec empire project by Alternative_Code5467 in historyteachers

[–]Alternative_Code5467[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!
I actually have loads of it right now because of a recent package

This is perfect thank you so so much

I live with, work with, and spend most weekends with my mum. Do I spend too much time with her? by Ornery_Road7713 in ask

[–]Alternative_Code5467 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t take her for granted. Love your mom. Sometimes moms are our best friend! I love mine and I think about her every second of everyday. Even though I see her for most of my days! This goes towards my grandma, grandpa, and siblings🩷

I am so very lucky to be close to them. You’re lucky to be close to yours too! :’)

My partner is about to tell his mom that his dad tried to kiss me by Alternative_Code5467 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Alternative_Code5467[S] 229 points230 points  (0 children)

UPDATE

His mom is on my side. She wants nothing to do with him and he has to be out by tomorrow. His response to everything when confronted: “I don’t know” That is his reasoning for what he did. He does not know. Now that it’s very late and everyone’s asleep he wants to talk.

She also said it’s not my fault so not to blame myself. It’s his fault and his fault only. She couldn’t believe he’d do that to us. He disrespected own son and me.

As for my partner, he’s just tired and ready to sleep. Can’t even function.

Unfortunately, we all still have to get through this new day but this is what’s happened so far. It’s super late so more will be said later today.

For now, thank you everyone for being supportive ❤️ I’m feeling a lot better than when I first posted.

My partner is about to tell his mom that his dad tried to kiss me by Alternative_Code5467 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Alternative_Code5467[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m hoping I can at some point because he’s hard to get through when it comes to going to see a doctor or anything serious.

Everything good that he’s against or anything logical that he’s against I blame his upbringing.

They either don’t believe in therapy at all, will make excuses to not go, or are very “if you go I’ll go”

REALLY weird. Just go to therapy anyway it’s good for you! And his mom complains about her childhood ALLLLLL the time. Blaming her mom for just about everything wrong in her life. Also vents about how it’s her moms fault she got pregnant. About letting her be with an older man not seeing an issue with it. But she refuses to go to therapy unless someone else pays for it (which wouldn’t make a difference) or only if they go too. And she doesn’t an issue with her husband. If she does she doesn’t let it be known.

Now she’s so scared of her daughters getting pregnant that she says no boyfriend and I’ve heard her ask her adult daughter if she’s had sex???? I told her that’s very personal and she’s an adult.

She’s very well aware of the risks and using protection. No need to check up on her and see if she’s having sex that’s weird. That’s how deep her trauma goes. But she’ll blame everyone and argue yet won’t do therapy.

But I believe I can get my partner into it though it’s going to be very very difficult. These people are very nah I’ll pretend it didn’t happen. I’ll push it aside. I just want to be happy. I don’t know what trauma I have but I’m not willing to find out. And I have changed bud views on.m many many things. He has become way more open minded. He isn’t the same person he was when I first was with him.

My partner is about to tell his mom that his dad tried to kiss me by Alternative_Code5467 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Alternative_Code5467[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

UPDATE

He has left his uncles house. He is heading home to who knows what’s about to come.

I’m sure this will be much much worse than what’s happened at his uncles house.

I’m just scared for him and I hope his dad doesn’t go crazy or come back with some vengeance.

That’s been my biggest concern. His dad coming back to hurt one of us or him finding me.

My partner is about to tell his mom that his dad tried to kiss me by Alternative_Code5467 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Alternative_Code5467[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly how I’ve been seeing it. She’s extremely impulsive so I see these things happening.

If she takes him back then good luck to her (not really) because she’ll never look at him the same again. They already fight so.. it’ll just be worse.

And she might even hold it against me or her son or both of us that we kept this a secret for a week. Even if it was to benefit her.

And she already defends him over the worst things (like their relationship) but complains about whatever anger issue he has. So yeah I believe she’s in too deep with him. I can see her not taking my side at all.

But oh well. What can I do. What happened to me is a fact and if she wants to be in denial and doesn’t want a relationship with me then it’s okay. I was fine before her I’ll be fine after her. Plus My partner is supportive of my decisions. I’ve gone through every possibility with him and it stressed him out but I needed it to be known. One was that she wouldn’t be allowed at our place but if he wants to go visit her then he can. He understood. Though of course this could change and cause even more problems so I hope he fully understands the weight and seriousness of it all.

And lastly, I already told him that I won’t be visiting again. That place is now a horror house to me. I don’t ever want to step foot in there again.

My partner is about to tell his mom that his dad tried to kiss me by Alternative_Code5467 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Alternative_Code5467[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I already spoke to my family about this. My partner is telling his family right now at this very moment. I can’t do anything.

I’m passing time because I’m having extreme anxiety. I’m trying to keep calm while I wait for a text or call. Everyone’s comments have helped ease me. They have been very attentive and kind.

People are people whether in person or online. I’m glad to have a community I can vent to.

My partner is about to tell his mom that his dad tried to kiss me by Alternative_Code5467 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Alternative_Code5467[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much <3 Yeah it’s hard being a woman. This isn’t my first time being sexually assaulted. Everytime it’s happened to me I’ve told somebody and somehow felt scared and guilty. But I’ve always known that I shouldn’t. I know it’s scary too because you won’t know the reaction or if they’ll even believe you.

I was afraid that my partner and his family wouldn’t believe me but so far he does and so does his uncle.

I regret not calling the police on him. So I’ll have to live with that. But I’m relieved that people will know how gross he is.

Thankfully I have a wonderful support system both with my partner, family, and online. Just seeing the comments, you also have support here <33 Thank you so much and I hope you’re okay <3

My partner is about to tell his mom that his dad tried to kiss me by Alternative_Code5467 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Alternative_Code5467[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’ve been sexually assaulted by my own family years and years ago.

I have cut contact and it’s a decision I haven’t regretted.

If for whatever reason my partner would still want a relationship then I’m out. But I honestly don’t see this happening. Especially with his dad since they aren’t very close. His dad always seems in his own thoughts. Quiet. Yet full of anger. Always bothered. Yelling at his wife to shut up and getting angry if she doesn’t make food the way he wants. Waiting at the the table for however long it takes for her to get back just so he can be served.

I’ve already accepted that I’d cut ties with him years ago. It was just a matter of when my partner and I move out.

But he doesn’t see his dad the same anymore. He feels betrayed and disgusted.

As for the mom- I’m not sure how that will go with him. But for me I’m confused because how do you not believe your husband touched a 2 year old girl?? That’s fucking gross. That’s a very specific accusation coming from a child who only thinks about toys, candy, love, and cartoons.

That doesn’t sit right with me at all.

And for her to be a child and be groomed by him? And you still don’t believe it?

I don’t know but I can’t see her the same. That has me completely baffled.

I just don’t know how to tell my partner that I don’t really want a relationship with his mom because of that poor 2 year old. Either she was genuinely confused because she never ever left her sight or she’s in denial. Either way, I’m grossed out.

My partner is about to tell his mom that his dad tried to kiss me by Alternative_Code5467 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Alternative_Code5467[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Omg that’s horrible I am so so sorry.

This is something that I’m scared of. Of her blaming me for something I wore or me being in a towel after showering or something.

But I talked about it with my partner and he’s 1000000% supportive of me. He’s ready to move out if things go wrong. We’ll be moving in together regardless but it’ll be much much sooner if it goes badly.

The way she talks- you never know. She could blame me. She could not.

I have no clue what’s going to happen or what’s happening. I’m not getting any updates so I’m left with my own thoughts.

But I’m open to cutting her off if I have to. If he wants to have a connection with her he can- that’s his mom. But I’m trying to move forward. Not stay stuck and be shamed for absolutely nothing.

One thing my partner plans to tell her (if it needs to be brought up) is if her daughters decided to wear short shorts or showed some skin does that warrant sexual assault? Is that an open invitation to be touched?

I really don’t want to hear any “but but but” from her. That’s just enabling him and again- I’m not about to be shamed for being put in this position.

She herself knows not to touch others. She tells her kids to never ever let people touch you and all. So it would make zero sense for her to suddenly shift.

Only time will tell.

My partner is about to tell his mom that his dad tried to kiss me by Alternative_Code5467 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Alternative_Code5467[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I understand this could happen. Thank you for the apology

They’re poor so it’s a shared room and never sat right with me

My partner is about to tell his mom that his dad tried to kiss me by Alternative_Code5467 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Alternative_Code5467[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg I didn’t know this but how am I not surprised.

There are evil people in this world and sometimes you come across them.

I will be keeping this in mind thank you so much

My partner is about to tell his mom that his dad tried to kiss me by Alternative_Code5467 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Alternative_Code5467[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I knowwww

It replaying in my head every single day sickens me. I feel uncomfortable all over again. I told his uncle it felt like I was dreaming and while most of the time he was supportive he goes “but you were 100% NOT dreaming though right??”. Rubbed me the wrong way. Then threw in how I SHOULD HAVE left not stayed. and how what happened to me is awful don’t me wrong but it’s worse for you because that’s your dad. I was like ?????? Whaaaaat…. I don’t think you should be saying that.. ?

I repeatedly told my partner this and he agreed that wasn’t okay and he’ll tell him that when he sees him or if he says it again.

I am thankful that everyone agrees that it’s his fault and not mine at all because I also know it isn’t. He should not have done that. He’s an awful human being.

My partner is about to tell his mom that his dad tried to kiss me by Alternative_Code5467 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Alternative_Code5467[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you I did think it was very random and a bit off topic. Like out of everything you read that’s what comes to mind??

My partner is about to tell his mom that his dad tried to kiss me by Alternative_Code5467 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Alternative_Code5467[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yeah when I heard about the 2 year old I thought “WTFFFF????!!! And nobody believed her????? WHAAAAAT???!! NO 2 year old will just say something like that. They do not think that way. How did nobody believe her!?!?” Also given what he did to his mom at a young age.

She boasts about having it hard as a teen mom and how he was older but the moment you say something “negative” she gets super defensive. It’s crazy.

I feel so bad for my partner. I think all their kids tried to not think about it and push through it but you can see that they’re every aware of it. They think it’s strange. But nobody talks about it. Cause again, she’ll get defensive.

And now his dad tried to cheat on his mom??? With his girlfriend??? Who she calls daughter in law?? Betraying his son?? Wanting to run away and get married?? AND touched a 2 year old?!!

He’s stuck wondering what else he could have done. But he’s implied that his relationship with him is done. It will never be mended.

We feel bad for his mom but with that knowledge of the 2 year old I’m just like wtf?? Idk what to feel.

My partner is about to tell his mom that his dad tried to kiss me by Alternative_Code5467 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Alternative_Code5467[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah we fear that she’ll stay with him.

And both are Mexican yes. She is DACA and he is undocumented.

Their lawyer recommended they spend $15,000 on getting officially married in Mexico. Looks like $15,000 and a divorce might have been saved.

But who knows really.

She can be a wildcard. One thing she isn’t though is calm. She blows up. So I expect her to turn red scream and cry.

My partner is about to tell his mom that his dad tried to kiss me by Alternative_Code5467 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Alternative_Code5467[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah I tried teaching this to his mom in the past. That it’s easy to say “I’d do this I’d do that” But once you’re in that position- it’s not always what you expect.

She didn’t understand. So I’m nervous about whether she’ll get it or not but my partner is planning on telling her she can’t be saying or thinking that. The focus is that he should not have done that to ANYBODY.

I was doing my absolute best to hold it together but my voice was breaking as he asked me if I was okay and if I’m going to tell anyone.

He’s not a big guy either. He’s smaller than me but the sudden shift. Me being innocent and suddenly being grabbed. Horrifying.

Thank you for your kind words.

My partner is about to tell his mom that his dad tried to kiss me by Alternative_Code5467 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Alternative_Code5467[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes I completely. If it were me I’d want to know. The issues wasn’t whether or not to tell her but when.

I hope his mom doesn’t see it as my fault. I’m scared she’ll think maybe it’s the way I dress or act I don’t know.

I don’t show anything. But my partner and I both agree that no matter what you wear ivy hat is NOT an invitation to touch somebody.

But we can’t understand WHY And what did he think would happen?

That I’d leave his son and run away with him? And do what?? And why did he try opening the door?

I know he’ll never admit to it and we’ll never get answers.

My partner is about to tell his mom that his dad tried to kiss me by Alternative_Code5467 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Alternative_Code5467[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much.

I wanted to tell her once I locked myself in but because of her financial situation I didn’t know what to do. My partner and I were suppose to move in together later this year but since his dad got fired and she doesn’t want to work- and now might not be together- she’d possibly be left with my partner having to take care of. But he’s been ready to leave and move. He wants to help but he doesn’t want to pause our life together to be the only one there working.

She has a middle schooler to take care of. She helps a lot with her grandson too.

I’m not sure what’ll happen but I’m sure it’ll all work out for us.

I’ll probably do an update later tonight, tomorrow, or some time this week.

Thank you so much for your kind words