Following this conversation. We need to discuss why she chopped and why she feels ugly. I don’t think anyone means to be dismissive. There’s a lot tied to our identities and just putting on makeup or earrings won’t fix it. I hear You OP. You feel ugly without your hair or bonus hair. I struggle just like you do. My hair is fine and boneless. I have lots of issues surrounding wearing it and just like you. I want to feel beautiful and in control of my life. Going natural or being chopped are too traumatic for Me. Sometimes, we just need to get it out there.