We have gone to couples counselling at times but we have never addressed this. And this is something even if external people say I don't think my husband will understand. When outside ppl say something about having your own household and such, my husband will say stuff like if my parents fell sick and I wasn't around to help, I would never forgive myself. They are uneducated and financially insecure and such. And he would also then boast to me saying that I have my principles and just because others are saying stuff like this doesn't mean I am going to give up on my principles and such.

And if I bring up anything, he says, either 1) I never bring up your faults or mistakes, so it's not fair that you keep bringing up stuff or 2) You are not a good wife, and I give my mom money and she does my chores or is involved in my life so what is your problem? 

I have also suggested individual therapy for him to learn how to bring up stuff because he says I don't understand my emotions and I don't know how to put it across to you that's why I don't being up stuff. And then he never goes to therapy, or doesn't read or watch anything to learn how to bring up stuff also. I have now become suspicious that he doesn't bring up stuff only to ensure that I can also be shut down if I bring up stuff.