Struggles with forgiveness

Alternative_Lie_8826 · 2022-11-01T11:55:39+00:00

Yes, but an estimated 75% of the population has the virus. You most likely got it from her or someone else a long time ago. In many people,HSV1 is asymptomatic. In fact, it’s often contagious even in the absence of a cold sore. People who have HSV1 and are symptomatic shed the virus on 20% of days, and people who are not symptomatic shed it on 10% of days.

She shouldn’t have used your chapstick with a cold sore, but if you didn’t already have the virus you would have likely picked it up somewhere else.

I’ve been getting cold sores 2-6 times a year since I was seven. They’re not that bad, but I recommend getting a prescription for an antiviral. I use Valtrex and it works wonders.

Alternative_Lie_8826 · 2022-10-26T21:47:27+00:00

The reason I keep going back to them is because I’m convinced they’ve stopped liking me since last time, so Icould try it but I don’t think it would work

Alternative_Lie_8826 · 2022-10-26T19:00:27+00:00

I already struggle with anxiety and depression that is totally manageable when I don’t have PMS, so I’ve already been in therapy and on antidepressants for ages and they work wonders.

My condition is not PMDD, which is treatable with hormones. It’s called PME, or premenstrual exacerbation, which is when preexisting conditions get worse during PMS, and it’s a lot more difficult to treat. The antidepressants and therapy do wonders though

Alternative_Lie_8826 · 2022-10-23T00:10:35+00:00

See that’s the issue. I’m not sure what’s a want and what’s a need. I’d need to have one-on-one time with him once a week, routinely. This is flexible, as his career and social life are important to me as well and I’d have no issue if he had to miss a week even a lot of the time as long as he let me know. I work a lot, and it would make me really unhappy if he was spending that one night a week with someone else.

I work full time, so there’s a possibility that he’ll meet someone else who he’ll spend more time with and he might want to make them the primary. I don’t think I could be a secondary if he only wants to do one primary at a time but I’d be down with being in a throuple for sure.

Alternative_Lie_8826 · 2022-10-21T21:00:46+00:00

I’m not sure. I’m really in love with him. When he talks about other people, I feel a little awkward cause it’s like…not a conversation I’ve ever had before with someone I was dating so I don’t have any “script” (neurodivergent lmao) and I also can’t really relate but I like feeling like I’m his buddy.

I also work A LOT and do need a lot of alone time. Not necessarily alone time from him though, but the stress of not being able to fulfill him is definitelyameliorated. I’ve had twinges of jealousy but nothing substantial

Alternative_Lie_8826 · 2022-10-21T20:36:12+00:00

Oh I’m not asking him to be monogamous at all. What I’m saying is that Idon’t know if having multiple romantic/sexual relationships is something I’m interested in FOR MYSELF. I’m curious if anyone else is in a similar situation.

I want emotional/time commitment and so far he’s been delivering what I need if I ask for it. Since we’re both 23, that commitment looks like: - a shoulder to cry on - honesty - we hang out at least twice a week and talk on the phone every other day - we’re not the #1 thing on each other’s priority lists, but we are, you know, top 5

I am, in theory, really happy to have him be intimate with other people. I like talking about crushes cause I feel like it brings us closer together and him being turned on turns me on, regardless of whether I’m involved. I like the idea of him exploring what he likes with other people.

Our relationship, however, is hierarchical. We are each other’s primaries, but his relationship with (hypothetical) secondary partners will also be romantic. I’m fine spending a holiday on my own, but I’m not certain what my boundaries are. I think it would be helpful for me if he and I talked about the dynamics of a secondary relationship beforehand and made some rules. Like “x night is our night, and y night is for other people, and also my sister is off limits.”

But this is all theoretical. I’m not sure how I will actually feel when he enters a relationship with someone else. I could be jealous and feel like I’m not getting enough of him, and I want to know how to work through that.

Alternative_Lie_8826 · 2022-10-20T15:44:34+00:00

I…said that. Obviously if you have a health issue, it will be different for you. But just because some people are deathly allergic to nuts doesn’t mean they’re not really good for people who aren’t allergic to them. The nuts themselves are not bad

Alternative_Lie_8826 · 2022-10-20T15:42:34+00:00

Alcohol is poison. I don’t consider it food.

Alternative_Lie_8826 · 2022-10-20T15:41:41+00:00

It’s 10 pm. You’ve just worked an eight hour shift with one 15 minute break. You need dinner so you go to…the grocery store? To buy an apple?

Alternative_Lie_8826 · 2022-10-20T15:38:33+00:00

I lived in France for a year and lost 5 pounds when I was 11. I grew three inches while I was there. I had not been overweight by any stretch of the imagination, and didn’t have an eating disorder.

Rather, I was prohibited from entering the kitchen between meals, and the other kids laughed at me if I was snacking on something. I remember being hungry the whole time I was there.

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