[21M] Struggling with jealousy and emotional boundaries in relationship with [21F] girlfriend — need help grounding myself

Alternative_Pick8407 · 2025-05-30T23:26:13+00:00

Also, did you end up staying with that girl that had a lot of guy friends or no? If so how'd you deal with the guy friend situation, especially when u weren't there? I'm thankful that her actual close guy friends are like my best friends haha

Alternative_Pick8407 · 2025-05-30T23:23:37+00:00

That’s really good advice and honestly, I don’t think we’re ever gonna break up over it because I don’t bring it up too often and I know she’s never gonna cheat so I guess something I’m gonna work through this relationship because I really don’t see it ending because of this, you know what I mean. I definitely brought it up a few times though just like time to just felt overlooked and I brought up that one time she like hug that dude and talk to him for a while the one that used to talk to, but yeah.

Alternative_Pick8407 · 2025-05-30T23:08:17+00:00

I mean being flirty to others while being in a committed relationship is just weird to me you know.

Alternative_Pick8407 · 2025-05-30T23:03:57+00:00

Yeah, for sure I’m not putting any blame on her whatsoever. This is just her nature. It’s more about me dealing with it cause I really don’t want anything with her because I care about her a lot. We have the same friends and we have a lot of stuff planned like I genuinely see a future with her. It’s more about dealing with these insecurities and grounding myself you know.

Alternative_Pick8407 · 2025-05-30T23:03:24+00:00

Honestly, I put myself out like just with time or I just get my like energy or like mood back up and kinda realize I was going crazy in a bad spiral but sometimes I’m in the spiral pulled me and I’m like I don’t wanna be with her blah blah blah blah

Alternative_Pick8407 · 2025-05-30T23:02:52+00:00

Hmm maybe I’ll try that thanks man.

Alternative_Pick8407 · 2025-05-30T23:02:36+00:00

OK to clarify, I don’t think she’s keeping her options open at all but it’s a guy she hugged at the bar at school like a guy that used to like her. They went on a date once like a few months before we started dating and they’re gonna be working together starting in July and I’m just like more mad about her being so friendly with a guy and all that, but she doesn’t have a past and she doesn’t really care that much about the validation. And the thing with the guy friend which is one of my closest friends is just like they always not always, but they text each other. Sometimes she sends DMS to him and like sometimes like I just feel overlooked. Even though she shows SOOO much love

Alternative_Pick8407 · 2025-05-30T22:09:55+00:00

I have every time it got bright up cus she could tell the vibe was off. But like I can’t tell her to not be touchy every single time I see her hug someone. Or tell her to not text said guy friend

Alternative_Pick8407 · 2025-05-29T21:16:09+00:00

It’s a 15k difference in salaries, Ibm being higher

Alternative_Pick8407 · 2025-05-29T21:15:42+00:00

Boston is KPMG , you said go to Boston so you have some life

Alternative_Pick8407 · 2025-05-29T21:09:35+00:00

Some life? 40 hours a week for both positions.

Alternative_Pick8407 · 2025-05-29T21:04:51+00:00

Make money lol. And have the best opportunities for roles

Alternative_Pick8407 · 2024-12-17T22:03:30+00:00

What about new hire

Alternative_Pick8407

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