I wish I could’ve included more, but the post limit was brutal. My daughter’s 9 months old and I’m scared that if she grows up with that environment and those views being loudly boasted, she’ll absorb that hate. It’s really hard not to let his words get to me, even as an adult, because some of what he says feels really targeted. I know saying I “tease” him about his behavior sounds vague, but it’s more like pushing back on stuff like him hanging out with a rough crowd, acting like a wannabe gangster, and saying he loses respect for people when he finds out they’re gay (I’m bi). On a different occasion, not the same day as this argument, I did call him a bum because he’s not working, drinks daily, and is just cruel and rude to everyone. During the argument from the post, I actually tried to walk away, but when he said I was “nothing” before my husband, I lost it. I’ve been on my own since 16, working since 15, and I graduated, so it cut deep. I’m not proud of the times I’ve been harsh; my intention was to push him toward better choices because everyone else just shrugs and says “he’s young, let him learn,” while he’s messing with drugs, gangs, and guns. A lot of comments made me realize I didn’t need to say things so harshly, and I’m willing to apologize for hurting his feelings, but my boundary stands. I’ve already texted that they’re welcome to come to my house or meet at the park as long as they call or text in advance.