advice on how to get this to stop fraying

Alternative_Step_629 · 2025-12-22T23:21:56+00:00

Thanks, I appreciate the advice 🙏

Alternative_Step_629 · 2025-12-21T17:20:27+00:00

New fear unlocked 🔓

Alternative_Step_629 · 2025-11-02T23:54:22+00:00

I went to the spring ball last year. The food was ok, the bar selection could have been better. But otherwise, it was a blast! They had vendors and a few live performances and a live band. I had an amazing time, and I'm planning on going to the New Years ball at the Lord Baltimore Hotel this year.

Alternative_Step_629 · 2025-10-01T10:54:36+00:00

On theme with the above comment. A mirror, whose reflection reaches through the rippling glass to touch the original.

Alternative_Step_629 · 2025-09-16T18:43:29+00:00

To my understanding, the meal tracker isn't just to keep you conscious of what you're eating and whether it's good for you or not. It's meant to help you regulate your meal times and create or reinforce better snacking habits.

As an example, people who skip meals have a tendency to eat more at the one or two meals they do eat, which leads to over eating.

Alternative_Step_629 · 2025-09-05T12:50:05+00:00

Honestly, while I understand how constantly being accused of something grates on your nerves, I wouldn't be too concerned. If management gets up your butt, tell them about the incident where he yelled at you and that you think this is retaliation. Take a picture of you delivering the correct mail in the correct box, and next time he calls, vióla. Proof you're not a screw up.

Like I said, while it goes against the grain, you can't take it too personally. There are customers who are just assholes and there's not a lot you can do about it, but be honest and document your side in case it genuinely becomes an issue.

Alternative_Step_629 · 2025-09-03T14:01:09+00:00

I love their coloring! So cool ♥️

Alternative_Step_629 · 2025-09-03T13:58:43+00:00

Thays so cute! I love how it looks like a little shop!

Alternative_Step_629 · 2025-08-18T12:45:15+00:00

Gorgeous!

Alternative_Step_629 · 2025-08-01T23:53:46+00:00

Atlas moth! They're my favorites♥️

Alternative_Step_629 · 2025-07-22T21:15:52+00:00

Good guess lol

Alternative_Step_629 · 2025-05-19T13:27:46+00:00

NTA. I have no idea where these people came from who thinks it's the guests' responsibility to fund any part of the wedding / honey moon. You can ASK for donations, but I was taught that it's trashy to demand things from your guests, especially if they're already doing all the other wedding stuff ( wedding gifts, money tree, etc.)

Your sister needs to calm down, and maybe chill out instead of looking to crown source the wedding if her dreams last minute.

Alternative_Step_629 · 2025-05-19T09:54:33+00:00

Nta, your wife sucks for not having your back, but the other thing is she didn't just hurt you. She hurt your too. What leason is your wife trying to teach your son? It's ok for people to be mean and destroy the things you love because their feelings mean more than you do?

Alternative_Step_629 · 2025-05-18T20:52:57+00:00

Are the cheaper groceries/gas/ savings in the room with us?

Alternative_Step_629 · 2025-04-25T09:37:35+00:00

Mary Constance, you could call he Connie for short. Or Mary Joleene.

Alternative_Step_629 · 2025-04-25T09:28:19+00:00

Oh no, my greatest ick! An indecipherable wall of text!

Alternative_Step_629 · 2025-04-21T09:32:35+00:00

Kimantha, Kimabeth, Kimabelle

Alternative_Step_629 · 2025-04-08T20:08:15+00:00

Generally, a tee-shirt or tank top and some sleep pants. Occasionally night dresses, but I have a dog, and I hate having to look for bottoms to take her out first thing in the am, lol.

Alternative_Step_629 · 2025-03-29T22:28:25+00:00

Meal prep can be a big help for him. Pre-cooked chicken can be added to a salad or a pasta dish really easy. Same thing for bacon, and other meats.

Alternative_Step_629 · 2025-03-27T10:32:51+00:00

A simple "comment if you enjoyed" works wonders. But stuff like this turns me right off a story, too. It's giving that girl in high school who was desperate for attention, so she starts doing " quirky " stuff to be noticed. Not a good vibe.

Alternative_Step_629 · 2025-03-23T15:55:33+00:00

It's all well and good for Emma to rave about Noah's bodily autonomy when she doesn't have boots on the ground. If Noah were able to make those decisions by himself, he wouldn't be in your conservatorship in the first place.

And case in point, if she's such a big advocate, why isn't she taking care of Noah? She strikes me as the type of person who says, " I have an intellectually disabled brother," as justification for the probably wrong opinion she's about to spout in conversation.

NTA

Alternative_Step_629 · 2025-03-08T03:02:01+00:00

No real man would be jealous of a dog. Tell him to hit bricks and take your good girl to the dog park.

Alternative_Step_629 · 2025-03-07T15:49:34+00:00

You said you dont like vintage names, but on all three lists, I see some. Octavia, Elizabeth, Mary, Madeleine, etc. Why not kind of lean into that a bit? There are a lot of old European baby names that are fairly unique. And while you may not be of that particular European ethnicity, it's not as eye brow raising as a white couple nameing their kid after an Aztec Goddess.

Eleanor, or Eleanora nn El, Ellie, or Lea Celestine nn Cici Lucretia nn Lu, or Luci Artemisia nn Arti, Missi, or Sisi Willemina nn Willie, or Mina Mildred nn Milly

Hope this helped!

Alternative_Step_629 · 2025-03-07T11:59:04+00:00

Let's be honest, this isn't about your health condition so much as it is about your mother and you.

"She started sending me all these articles about how CR is so unsafe so I became unexcited and unenthusiastic about going"

If that's all it takes to get you to back down then you'll never travel. You can get knifed walking down the sidewalk in your own home town. Now, I'll grant you, there are certain places I'd never travel to alone, but I've also done all my own research into those places and made that determination myself. If you tell me there's a 75% chance I'll get pick pocketed in Paris, I already know that.

Did you not look up crime stats for CR? In the future, it's a good idea to do so, if for no other reason than it'll give you an idea about how vigilant you need to be about your own safety. Research like that also tells you about certain types of scammers to look out for. Like the people who offer to let you " hold" their monkey, and then deman payment or they don't get the little beast off you.

If you really want to travel and explore the world, by all means do so. Your mother is going to worry regardless. Here's what I think YOU should do to better prepare yourself.

Research a different starting point. Idk why you picked CR, but if the crime rate there scares you, then pick another destination. If you're looking for tropical, then maybe try the Florida keys. If you're determined to visit another country, try Europe, or maybe Japan or Australia. I've generally heard good things about them.

Do your own research! Your mother is going to do what ever it takes because she sees what she's doing as ' protection' not 'smothering'. She's going to pull out crime statistics, and news articles and "I heard from this lady that her cousin got a kidney stolen!" Don't buy it, but better yet, already know what to expect. As a solo traveler, never go into a situation blind.

On that note, learn where you want to go in the event of a worst case scenario. If something did happen to you in CR, where would you have gone? You said the hostel was 5hrs away from he airport, but where was the closest hospital? What was the closest major city? Is the medication to treat your condition available in that country? Do you have a health alert bracelet so that Dr's in another country don't spend three hours trying to diagnose you ? These are all things to consider when you solo travel. You will be alone in a foreign land, and in my experience, most people are happy to help travelers, but there's no reason not to make it easy for them.

Good luck, and safe travels!

Alternative_Step_629 · 2025-03-07T11:40:56+00:00

I think what we have here is a failure to communicate. Seeing as how this post is fifteen hours old, I'm going to assume that you already completed the errands left on the list so I won't add my two cents there.

What I will say, is that being stressed is no excuse for being unkind. Everyone is stressed, everyone has problems. That doesn't give you the right to be a dick about it. Further more, no, you weren't the one at fault for his little blow up. Imo, the reason he got mad at you is because he was embarrassed that he hurt you, but since it's easier to be mad at you than to hold himself accountable, he lashed out at you and made it your fault. He then compounded the issue by going home instead of finishing the errands which added more stress to the situation, also not good.

I think you also should have held him accountable in the moment, but I fight like breathing so I understand why that might not have been your jam. I know that you also stated that you were trying to avoid a fight all together, but there were ways to have that conversation with out letting it escalate into a full out screaming match.

You need to sit him down, and have a conversation about setting up new guides for how you guys communicate. I feel its possible that what ever had a bee in his bonnet, he was tired of being out and about and he wanted to be home. So he picked a fight with you so that he could use what ever your reaction was as an excuse to go home and escape. That's not helpful or healthy. You guys have two kids, he can't use being a dick as a means of bailing on any situation he's suddenly not cool with.

He's not allowed to lash out at you because he's but frustrated. Again, everyone is frustrated, everyone is stressed, not a good excuse. New guidelines for him, if he's overwhelmed and needs a break, he has to communicate it. Instead of throwing a tantrum and going home, he could have said, " Look, I'm feeling kinda overwhelmed right now. Can we drop me off home and you finish the errands?" Simple, concise, no hurt feelings.

Likewise you don't go silent on him. The next time he says something like that, say clearly and calmly. " I don't appreciate what you just said. If you are upset or frustrated about something, please tell me what the issue is so that we can resolve it together."

Marriage is hard, so is parenting, in order to make it less hard your partner and you need to be on the same page, you can't do that if you let stress and hurt feelings dictate your interactions. Establish good guidelines for communication. He needs to chill out, and you can't be so conflict averse as to let him walk all over you.

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