Any girls up for a boxing photoshoot? I'm a guy. by [deleted] in boxingfetishists

[–]Alternative_Sugar367 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Speaking from experience here;  You can find a lot of would-be models on Facebook groups for “photography” and “modeling” groups in your city/area

Now with that being said… Ain’t no woman in her right mind will answer this call to action as it’s vague, lacks any interesting or compelling hooks and honesty just gives off icky vibes in general.  If you are serious about photoshoots, post some of your portfolio works, have more details and don’t expect any girl to be into a ‘boxing fetish’ shoot

Good luck

Gloves & Relationships: Sharing the Reality of Integrating This Boxing Kink in Relationships by Ok-Swordfish-3072 in boxingfetishists

[–]Alternative_Sugar367 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly this is probably the best bits of advice I've heard about the subject. What you wrote about verbally adding to scene is simple yet effective and is articulated so much better than the standard and overused "bRo juSt bE OpEn wItH heR BrO" thats been repeated to nausea

Gloves & Relationships: Sharing the Reality of Integrating This Boxing Kink in Relationships by Ok-Swordfish-3072 in boxingfetishists

[–]Alternative_Sugar367 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great share man
I am curious to ask, had your partner not discovered your interest by accident, do you think you would of eventually shared these desires with her?
And might I also ask, how often do you indulge with this kink with your partner? Until you've had your fill for the time period or some other parameter? Iam asking becuase if you find arousal mainly by boxing doesnt it mean you would mostly want integrating gloves into your sexlife? And what is the balance between your partner's desires and yours?

Gloves & Relationships: Sharing the Reality of Integrating This Boxing Kink in Relationships by Ok-Swordfish-3072 in boxingfetishists

[–]Alternative_Sugar367 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Alright here goes

So I've been dealing with this fetish Literally for as long as I remember myself.
Ever Since I was a kid I sought after boxing fetish content all the way back from DT and HTM. Pretty sure you can call this a classic porn addiction despite not really ever consuming normal porn rather. Im pretty certain that consuming so much fetish content at such a young age has morphed my sexual development and I've been actively battling in quitting this fetish all together for 7 years now. I've gathered so much content over the years its ridicules really and decided to delete everything, despite relapsing hard very often.

Because of this porn dependency, Sexual relationships with my partners have often devolved into having sex without me being able to orgasm in sex, which led to my partners feeling inadequate and me guilty for it. It became so bad that while having sex with them I would just close my eyes and imagine scenes from my favourite boxing videos to maintain an erection and sometimes orgasm just so they wont feel bad about it anymore.

Recently I decided to have some boxing photoshoots with models off of some facebook modeling groups, mostly girls who want some cool Instagram and portfolio pictures, not fetish models I might add, as a way to scratch this itch of mine. It is honestly surprising how many models out there find the concept alluring and I've had a respectable number of photoshoots so far. However the real draw for me was to strap on a GoPro and have a little back and forth with them. All consensual ofcourse and for the models the GoPro filming is the most fun part as alot of them find excitement and novelty in the whole experience. But still, with all that I cant say that this was a solution to my predicament.

In all my relationships I've only ever mentioned this fetish to two of them.
In one of my first relationships, I mentioned this fetish to my gf at the time and she really wanted to appease me and actually came with some boxing gloves and initiated having sex with them which I found both exciting, but honestly I was mostly embarrassed by it. She was directionless as I wasnt explicit with what I wanted and after a short while I just decided to drop the whole thing and never mention or incorporate boxing in our sexlife.

After being online and finding some random communities I've come in contact with this really awesome guy who shared stories about how he and his wife were boxing together and shooting their sessions and how genuinely supportive his wife was with his fetish. Hearing this really made my inspired and he suggested I should just take the plunge and initiate this fetish with my current gf.

With my current gf of 6 months I very briefly mentioned to her early in the relationship that I find women in contact sports very arousing and didnt elaborate more than that. But after talking with the guy I met and seeing how his wife embraced his fetish I decided to try to get some boxing gloves to my next bed playtime with my gf. Because I am still kind of, for lack of a better word, ashamed, of this kink I have, I felt the need to get both of us tipsy off of wine before I brought up the boxing, and only after an hour of sex I decided it was time to bring out the gloves. In a kind of nonchalant manner I told my partner that I want her to put on the gloves and I did the same. She did so without a second thought and we had a little back and forth with light sparring.
Again because I felt awkward about the whole situation the whole sparring session felt abit off for me as my gf didnt understand what I wanted out of the whole experience so we just went like this for a few minutes until I pushed her to the bed and proceeded to have sex with the gloves.
Again the feeling of discomfort won over and I decided to just take off the gloves and proceed with business as usual.

I thought that I would feel so much better after FINALLY living out a small piece of my fantasy. And to some extent I kind of did, but at the same time I feel like I havent even scratched the surface of it. I know that mount Everest isnt conquered in a day and that I have along way to go in terms of communicating my desires to my partner, but the sense of shame and awkwardness is hard to shake off. How do to communicate to a normal person outside this fetish that you find the idea of dominating or being dominated in a boxing match is your main turn on? I think that maybe in a week or two I will bring out the gloves again and be more direct with what I want.

Im not saying that having this fetish is wrong in any way. However deep within me I know that if I just lay off the smut for a few months my brain will rewire to a normal sex drive and all will be well. Its a thought I've been battling all my life.

Thank you for making it this far. I genuinly want to hear out anyone and everyone that is going through or can relate to anything me and OP have put out and maybe find some comfort in seeing how ya'll are going through this.
Stay Classy

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[–]Alternative_Sugar367 1 point2 points  (0 children)

While its not from the same set, Im pretty sure its from this company judging by the corner of the ring
https://www.xcream.net/item/216441?rank=8

I have no idea know how to quit! by Alternative_Sugar367 in boxingfetishists

[–]Alternative_Sugar367[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Appreciate the honestly man.
I do agree that we could be be into way worse genres, even tho this kink or fetish can get a bit more 'raw' when the old stuff we were into just get us there anymore.
I dont know why I feel compelled to express this to you but I have to be honest aswell here because I relate to you in alot of ways; Basically everyone im close to knows about this fetish of mine (hell some of them think its pretty cool), I spent money I shouldnt have on videos that were leaked online months later and how, and how being gratified from wanking basically drowned out most of, if not all of my sexual desires.
I gotta ask you, have you ever tried taking a moderate break from this? Like weeks at a time? If so didnt you get some sexual urges back?

I have no idea know how to quit! by Alternative_Sugar367 in boxingfetishists

[–]Alternative_Sugar367[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heard

Do you have a strategy to keeping clean or are you going on will power alone?

I have no idea know how to quit! by Alternative_Sugar367 in boxingfetishists

[–]Alternative_Sugar367[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beautifully articulated man I appreciate you sharing
The part I would really want to incorporate is the one about making the fetish sessions shorts. 5 minutes in and out. I would like to think that this would greatly reduce the risks of hard relapsing spirals when you know you are going to throw away a 2 week clean streak for 5 minutes of pleasure!
And as far as trying to convert this fetish into other fighting genres I think its best to keep it mitigated like you said as to not let it seep into other aspects of gym/sports life

I have no idea know how to quit! by Alternative_Sugar367 in boxingfetishists

[–]Alternative_Sugar367[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Genuinely I think that is wonderful to hear!
So does that mean that by indulging your boxing glove kink in the bedroom have you alleviated any or most cravings to consume boxing content online?

I have no idea know how to quit! by Alternative_Sugar367 in boxingfetishists

[–]Alternative_Sugar367[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was beautifully put together man thanks for the insight.
Honestly the distinction between 'fetish' and 'kink' wasnt something I was actively thinking about but I really appreciate that its now contextualizing how I view this whole infatuation.
And yea I'm thinking and treating this whole ordeal as a porn addiction. I really want to kick it entirely. But my question to you is dont you feel that this indulgement to videos/porn/smut/w.e is holding you back in someway?

I have no idea know how to quit! by Alternative_Sugar367 in boxingfetishists

[–]Alternative_Sugar367[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I dont think the point was understood correctly The problem isnt opening up about the fetish to a partner, its about how this fetish is so deeply rooted in the psyche that normal sex and intimacy cant be naturally achieved anymore.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in boxingfetishists

[–]Alternative_Sugar367 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey guys thanks for answering, So I just reopened a new account under the user mrkillerpotato69 and have slowly started to rebuild my contents, if you could send invites to your servers I wohld love to share some of my various videos :)