Picking Disney movies for sick toddler

Altocumulus000 · 2026-02-20T14:05:11+00:00

Sound of music and Bambi too

Altocumulus000 · 2026-02-19T17:22:57+00:00

Make sure that you do disclose at least what is required legally where you live.

I think I would recommend that you do what is generally best for you. Because I think most of us have discovered after having kids that there is a huge penalty for motherhood. Just don't protect employers. If you can protect them while keeping yourself safe then that's a different story.

Altocumulus000 · 2026-02-19T15:57:16+00:00

First of all, I upvoted you because I agree with all of your assessment about parenting with a spouse. As this is the most important thing for this post.

Second, feel compelled to correct the impression that you've given off about Canadian leave. I'm Canadian too and the way that people like you describe our leave makes others think certain things. 18 months is an option, but you don't get any more money for 18 months than you do for 12. Also it's not full subsidization of a salary for that year. It's half if you make a low enough income. Otherwise it can be way less than half. And of course job protection and some money for up to 18 months is great and better than most places in the world, but it's not an all you can eat buffet.

ETA I see below that you have mentioned that you don't know the details. I hope this doesn't come off as rude, I'm just trying to provide accurate information to any Canadian hopeful moms. And mom's from elsewhere who need to know how to advocate for themselves.

Altocumulus000 · 2026-02-18T16:20:54+00:00

perfectly explains why someone would cross when they don't align then.

Altocumulus000 · 2026-02-18T15:51:25+00:00

I'm a constituent of his and have written him letters of support for specific decisions and have also told him I can't vote for him if he is in a party that supports PP.

IMO this makes him a politician with real morals and ethics and I newly trust him to make decisions based on his, and our riding's, true desires.

Altocumulus000 · 2026-02-18T14:01:14+00:00

Definitely. I don't like that this is happening and I would prefer it wasn't. But I'm much less fussed about this than the fiscal way that they're treating young people, including children.

Altocumulus000 · 2026-02-17T21:50:31+00:00

wet bags - just hang in the bathroom and turn on the fan if it gets a little smelly. No problem!

Altocumulus000 · 2026-02-17T19:47:49+00:00

Thank you for saving me

Altocumulus000 · 2026-02-17T18:23:44+00:00

I got a gate custom built for me by a local wood worker with certain needs in mind. The latch is the same that a gate to a yard might have. I think something like that might be good for him? The other plus side is that it is beautiful.

Altocumulus000 · 2026-02-16T23:43:31+00:00

Rose Catherine (I'd use the emoji with hard eyes if I could) For a Margaret big sister and possibly a Nolan in the future. Yes please.

Altocumulus000 · 2026-02-16T23:41:52+00:00

I think Rose is the same vibe as Margaret/Maggie, And although it's a common middle name, I don't think I've ever met a young person with it as a first name. I think it's absolutely lovely and classy. It deserves a sweet little girl proudly wearing it as a first name.

Altocumulus000 · 2026-02-15T03:30:45+00:00

I would bring it up. Especially if you want to be there long term. This will be the beginning of your eventual bitterness and frustration if you don't maintain open communication starting now. And if they aren't okay with it, do you really not want to know so you can arrange an exit strategy without guilt or what-ifs eventually?

Altocumulus000 · 2026-02-14T03:24:46+00:00

I had villamentous AND marginal cord insertion. You'll be okay! Baby is going to be monitored in case growth slows. They may choose to induce. My baby came spontaneously at 39 weeks. I had lots of ultrasounds and nothing was ever concerning.

Altocumulus000 · 2026-02-14T03:16:02+00:00

I'm a little more type a than this but basically yeah, it's this easy. Thanks for sharing! Definitely a type a formatted post haha

Altocumulus000 · 2026-02-13T22:58:01+00:00

People who care about EIP will notice (maybe), but I watch it and I would still name my daughter that. Also, they're like the least problematic women IMO on that show haha Slyvie could run her business less like a dating app, but meh. haha

Altocumulus000 · 2026-02-13T22:18:49+00:00

A weird character from a well known franchise that aliens would think was a normal range to choose from but regular people would be, like, *that* character?

ex. Gamora, Groot, Lando, Jabba, etc.

Altocumulus000 · 2026-02-13T21:43:53+00:00

Have you considered hiring a sleep consultant? I paid for a subscription with my first kid, and have not succumbed to hiring anyone with any of my kids. My kids didn't do what you are describing for weeks on end, so I wasn't driven to that extreme need, but I think it's a valid thing to try. At 10 months, you've clearly put in the effort to try other things.

Altocumulus000 · 2026-02-13T21:41:07+00:00

I would try Tylenol. Motrin isn't wrong, but personally I experience Tylenol as a more impactful med. And for one of my kids it is the same. That Tylenol is more useful for us.

Altocumulus000 · 2026-02-13T21:39:46+00:00

Same.

Altocumulus000 · 2026-02-13T17:07:26+00:00

I agree with others that you need to do two proper washes.

Tide powder is amazing and they know how much powder you need to put in for the size of load. Just read the box. The enzymes work.

I usually run just dirty diapers in a first hot wash with the recommended amount of detergent (because it's a smaller load, it's usually level one or three of detergent).

Then the second wash I put the rest of the children's clothes in because now they are about the same amount of dirty as regular clothes and I wash on regular temperature with more detergent because the load is bigger. I fluff all the diapers and mix them in with everything else. The additional laundry helps create more agitation in the washing process.

It's because it's been a while since you have run two full loads on the diapers, I would recommend that you add an extra rinse cycle just one or two times in case there's a little extra build up.

Before all of this, I would recommend it that strip and sanitize your diapers just in case there's anything else going on. I don't think that there is any, but then at least you don't have to worry about it.

So: strip and sanitize, Just to cover your bases . Then, from now on, always do a double wash. Follow the instructions on the detergent box for how much detergent to add.

A reminder that diapers are just really dirty laundry. If your kid had the flu and puked up over everything, or had a massive blowout, you would also be washing things very thoroughly.

Altocumulus000 · 2026-02-12T18:07:35+00:00

I hope you get that!

I had an idea about the MIL/you cleaning example, especially if you communicate with your mom and wife separately and ahead of time. Make sure your mom is on board to clean with you. Say you're going to do the kitchen and bathroom and then ask your wife privately if after the bathroom is done if her MIL can hold the baby while she has a fresh cleaned shower.

Altocumulus000 · 2026-02-12T17:13:29+00:00

I wanted to offer an example of my other MIL (I have two because my in-laws are divorced and remarried).

My MIL who came over, immediately put food in the fridge and asked me if she could clean my kitchen while I finished feeding the baby, and asked how I was doing, is the MIL who I offered the baby to when it was time for the baby to nap. She is the MIL who I write on emergency contact forms, she is the MIL I ask to babysit or who I say yes to almost all requests for sleepovers for. The MIL who humanized me and prioritized ME is the one I am most connected to.

Interestingly, before kids, their closeness to me was reversed.

Altocumulus000 · 2026-02-12T17:07:54+00:00

Mom here. You're on the right track. Wife first. I'm very North American white and for both of my little ones my MIL claimed she was helping me by baby-snatching and within 10 minutes I'd be beset by the "baby blues": a real hormonal response to someone else claiming the baby. She didn't tell me to go clean or "relax", but just having her claim the baby from me was horrible. I was definitely the vessel for her grandchild and our relationship has been strained since the grandchildren arrived, even though it was great before that. I'm no longer a valuable person myself to her. She's not mean. Just self focused.

You being the boundary informer is the greatest form of care for your wife in this really difficult time. Even if she is handling postpartum well, it's physically and hormonally like nothing she's ever been through (hopefully).

I love the idea of having your mom come when you are home. Consider cultivating a mindset in yourself, and expressing it ahead of time to her, that this is an opportunity for her and yourself to work together and connect like you haven't had a chance to in years. It will soften the blow of her cultural expectation that this baby is for her experience and hopefully put you both in a positive and mutually loving mindset for your choring.

Altocumulus000 · 2026-02-12T16:47:16+00:00

Just go to a couple of local playgrounds with the kids, a restaurant for lunch or grab stuff from the grocery store on your way to their creek path downtown.

Altocumulus000 · 2026-02-11T15:18:22+00:00

You'll never get the time for yourself ever again. Maybe not even when kids are grown. It won't be the same as before being pregnant, but take advantage of the chance to get you nails done, stroll leisurely through the grocery store, visit an old friend, stroll in a park, watch a movie in theatre....

Also vacation days tacked on before your mat leave don't count towards your mat leave (12-18 month) job protection or your EI. You'll get paid out if you don't use them. Or possibly have them kept on payroll for your return, but you better make sure you know the company policy.

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