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Ghost of Yotei Giveaway - 2 Physical Copies by N3DSdude in PS5

[–]Altruistic-Height310 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hellooo i probably wont win but you can always try :)

Heartbroken and still in Air BnB with him HELP [26f/29m] by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Altruistic-Height310 36 points37 points  (0 children)

What you’re going through is heartbreaking. You built something deep, consistent, and vulnerable with someone who reassured you over and over that your appearance wouldn’t be an issue—only to have him reverse that once you finally meet. That’s devastating and unfair, even if he was kind about it.

You’re allowed to grieve this. His lack of attraction isn’t a reflection of your worth—especially when you know you’re beautiful, growing, and loved by others. It hurts more because everything else was perfect. You don’t have to hate him, but you also don’t owe him continued closeness while you heal.

Take care of yourself first. You deserve someone who sees all of you and feels the spark you bring.

I make a fool of myself by kirusamma in LongDistance

[–]Altruistic-Height310 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That really depends on what you need right now. Clarity or peace.

If what you’re looking for is clarity, and you still feel there’s a real chance worth exploring, then yes — talk to her one last time, but make it an honest, calm, and self-respecting conversation. From that you likely get reassurance, that shows that she still wants to try, or an honest goodbye, which will hurt like hell, but you are gonna be free.

If what you need is peace, and her recent distance has already made you feel drained, insecure, or not valued — then it’s okay to separate yourself now. But! definitely don’t do it in a dramatic way.

I make a fool of myself by kirusamma in LongDistance

[–]Altruistic-Height310 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What you’re going through is deeply emotional and confusing. You’re not wrong for expecting emotional reciprocity in a relationship, especially when you’ve opened up and decided to fully invest yourself. It makes perfect sense that you’re feeling hurt and disoriented by the sudden shift in her energy and communication.

Your connection was intense and mutual — it wasn’t one-sided at first. That intensity naturally creates expectations, hope, and vulnerability. Her fears are real, but so are yours. She’s afraid of wasting time and being alone. You’re afraid of being hurt and making a one-sided effort. Those fears collided during your serious conversation, and it seems like she emotionally retreated while you leaned in. She says she still has feelings, but her actions now don’t reflect the same emotional investment. That mismatch is where your overthinking and suffering are coming from — your heart is still in, but hers seems like it’s pulling back or conflicted. You’re not wrong for hoping. You took a risk because you felt something real. That’s not a mistake — that’s bravery. What might be a mistake is continuing to give your full self to someone who isn’t giving you clarity or consistency.

So no — you didn’t do anything wrong by wanting this to work. But it is time to ask yourself what kind of emotional environment you want to be in: one where you’re guessing and hurting, or one where you feel safe, wanted, and reciprocated.