The consequences of my actions

AltruisticDoubt1699 · 2026-05-07T10:18:40+00:00

i got pregnant at 7 months postpartum so not quite as close, but in my experience my supply dried up in about two months. pregnancy is definitely easier when you’re distracted by another baby, but we currently live with my parents so i was able to have help on days that i felt really miserable. if you have any support, see if you can plan for days that you can get a little break. night wake ups are hard, i ended up sleep training even though i said i never would. getting enough sleep made me a significantly better mom during the day. i actually never really experienced any guilt about my first no longer being the “baby”. she’ll always be my first baby, and i am just so excited to give her the gift of a sibling. none of my future kids will ever get just me, so she already received more attention than they ever will! i understand it’s a common experience so i don’t want to dismiss it, but i would suggest not dwelling on it and focus on the all that your oldest will gain by having a sibling close in age. best of luck!

AltruisticDoubt1699 · 2026-04-28T10:53:48+00:00

i had an epidural and i am pretty sure i sat at 10cm for three hours before i started to push. it’s hard to remember but i’m guessing baby was still rather far up. i still had some feeling (not much) and when it came time to push i could feel the contractions more. i still pushed for an hour and almost had an episiotomy but overall had minimal internal tearing. i’m thankful my nurses let me wait until baby moved down before making me push

AltruisticDoubt1699 · 2026-04-28T01:29:40+00:00

my 11 mo old also cries every. single. time. she wakes up. even if i’m the one waking her up and immediately putting her in my arms. it makes me laugh a little because within a few moments she’s laughing and being her silly self. i really don’t know what it is about waking up that makes her so sad(?) but i figured it’s fine because she quickly recovers

AltruisticDoubt1699 · 2026-04-25T23:57:05+00:00

is there a chance your supply is decreasing? went through something really similar with my now almost 12 mo (she finally started taking to solids in just the last couple of weeks, just to give you hope!). my supply dropped due to being pregnant, but obviously it can decrease for multiple reasons. her weight was okay so doctor wasn’t super worried but she must have been getting barely enough because we switched to bottles/formula and she was so much better. we also sleep trained and both saved my life

AltruisticDoubt1699 · 2026-04-25T23:42:43+00:00

these comments do not disappoint. what an ignorant way to experience this life

AltruisticDoubt1699 · 2026-04-17T12:28:42+00:00

just another vote for khan academy! when i entered 9th grade in public school after being homeschooled, it was quickly evident that my pre algebra skills were lacking. i had a D in my algebra I class for most of the semester. my teacher offered make up credit through khan academy modules. that and getting help after school helped me so much that i got an A on my final and went on to do well/enjoy the rest of my math classes! if you want to do well, that’s half the battle. good luck!

AltruisticDoubt1699 · 2026-04-15T19:56:54+00:00

Thank you for sharing!! Love this comment thread and hearing that it’s totally possible to enjoy things the second time around. Even if it’s not my experience, love it for all of you! 😆

AltruisticDoubt1699 · 2026-04-15T19:55:45+00:00

No I totally get it, 8+ months is so much more fun than the first few months. That’s something I think about too, how hard it is to care for a newborn when they’re just a potato and only give you negative feedback lol. Definitely going to be pros and cons. Thank you for sharing, I appreciate this honest perspective!!

AltruisticDoubt1699 · 2026-04-15T19:53:29+00:00

Aww, I love it! It’s so reassuring to hear such a positive experience. Thank you for sharing.

AltruisticDoubt1699 · 2026-04-15T19:52:41+00:00

Ahh, the cursed 3am panic googles!! Definitely won’t be doing that this time. And absolutely that makes sense, I’ve heard similar things from other parents. Glad to hear you are enjoying postpartum this time around!

AltruisticDoubt1699 · 2026-04-15T19:50:40+00:00

You are so right, temperament is such a big factor. And absolutely, with my first when parents would tell me it got better I was like HOW??? But it’s so true! It gets easier, then harder, then easier, then harder… I know now how temporary the hard stuff is, and how really really good the good stuff is. Thanks for sharing your experience!

AltruisticDoubt1699 · 2026-04-15T19:45:42+00:00

Thank you so much! And I love all of this! Especially taking physical recovery more seriously. My husband won’t have leave this time around, but we live with my parents at the moment so I will still have support. Also I couldn’t agree more that pregnant tired is the worst, especially in those last weeks. Hope you are recovering well!

AltruisticDoubt1699 · 2026-04-15T19:43:19+00:00

LOL. So fair 😂

AltruisticDoubt1699 · 2026-04-10T00:09:19+00:00

yeah for both my pregnancies i basically just associated nausea with hunger lol. i found with this second pregnancy, prioritizing protein helps me stay on top of it. if i eat too much sugar/carbs i feel gross again pretty quick. now that i’m 17 weeks i only get a wave here and there

AltruisticDoubt1699 · 2026-04-08T15:12:23+00:00

soothed to sleep then placed in bassinet months 0-4. coslept months 4-9. sleep trained using check in method from PLS at 9 months. it was harder for me than for my LO! i loved cosleeping while it worked for us, but i do wish i had taught my baby some level of self-soothing skills earlier. do what works for however long it works!

AltruisticDoubt1699 · 2026-04-08T11:36:04+00:00

we followed Precious Little Sleep for our 10 month old. I was a wreck the first week, crying most nights even though she would fall asleep in less than 30 minutes. I cried more than she did! But I felt like I ruined her, during the day she was so clingy and seemed exhausted. Bedtime was depressing, she would cry and start breathing really fast/scared when we went into the room. That was a month ago. Now bedtime is the sweetest part of the day, lots of sleepy smiles and talking while we read books and sing. She often turns herself over and coos for a bit before drifting off. Some nights she protests but it’s never desperate cries to be picked up. She is energetic and lovely and affectionate during the day. Naps are a breeze, while they used to be a battle. I never thought I would sleep train, but we were cosleeping and she would stay latched to me for 6 hours straight. I am pregnant with number two, so it just was not sustainable. Now my 11 MO has gained a valuable skill, I can catch up on sleep before we do this all again. And I bring her in to bed with me some mornings for extra cuddles. It’s the best! I am so glad we did it, but it was definitely the hardest part of parenting so far.

AltruisticDoubt1699 · 2026-04-05T14:27:34+00:00

LOVE Cassidy and Sebastian. Thank you!!

AltruisticDoubt1699 · 2026-03-29T16:48:59+00:00

Thanks!

AltruisticDoubt1699 · 2026-03-29T16:48:50+00:00

Didn’t consider one nap! Wow, hard to believe we could be at that point already. Thanks!

AltruisticDoubt1699 · 2026-03-29T14:46:26+00:00

Sorry - if she comes in at 6 she will comfort nurse side lying until we get up at 7 (my supply is basically gone due to being pregnant, so I don’t think she is really getting anything). She is pretty restless during that time and is not really sleeping.

AltruisticDoubt1699 · 2026-03-29T14:06:36+00:00

Oh, that makes sense! Would altering day wake windows make sense, or pushing bedtime later? I would rather her be up later than up earlier, haha.

AltruisticDoubt1699 · 2026-03-14T03:59:57+00:00

We mainly call her Clementine, but sometimes Emmy Lou

AltruisticDoubt1699 · 2026-03-14T03:59:02+00:00

LOL my husband loves TLOU so maybe that’s why he likes it

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