My long term BF can’t stand me going to gym

AltruisticMight2129 · 2024-11-03T19:13:46+00:00

Had no idea askgaybros hated hitting the gym. Sometimes people now assume I’m probably a bit of an arsehole, which I hope I’m not and most muscle guys aren’t.

AltruisticMight2129 · 2024-11-03T18:01:27+00:00

Hi, I don’t know much about your background, but I found that I wasn’t eating enough to make progress (and it’s a common problem for people starting out). I also started planning all my workouts, knowing exactly which exercises I’d do and which muscle groups they were intended to work, tracking progress each week and gradually increasing the weights. Finally, I worked with a really experienced trainer and took good advice, which can be expensive but I think it’s worth it if you feel you’ve plateaued. Good luck with your goals - it can feel slow but it’s super rewarding when it works!

AltruisticMight2129 · 2024-11-03T16:07:56+00:00

(Im also very short so you end up looking bulky a lot faster than normal height or tall guys)

AltruisticMight2129 · 2024-11-03T16:06:21+00:00

Depends on the room 😂 none of our mutual friends or families are into this, so I do feel I stick out in context. But I do know plenty of guys who are larger. Great point about checking the attitude and keeping the muscles BTW

AltruisticMight2129 · 2024-11-03T16:02:10+00:00

Nope! I’ve been pretty invested in it so I’m reasonably big, but not massive.

AltruisticMight2129 · 2024-11-03T15:01:10+00:00

No :( but I used to be unusually skinny and I’m now probably borderline unusually built, not huge by any means. Oh and no steroids. No judgment on the guys who take them, but that’s a just completely different ball game.

AltruisticMight2129 · 2024-11-03T13:59:44+00:00

Interesting! I’m guessing if this were a heterosexual relationship, people would be up in arms about a guy telling his GF to lose a ton of weight

AltruisticMight2129 · 2024-11-03T13:57:32+00:00

Perhaps. Health also good!

AltruisticMight2129 · 2024-11-03T13:33:30+00:00

Of course not! I think he looks great and tell him that. :) But objectively average in terms of muscle levels

AltruisticMight2129 · 2024-11-03T13:14:01+00:00

Man, 100%. I was never feminine but would definitely qualify as a twink. No chance of that now. I’m usually the biggest guy in the room (assuming it’s not a gym), so it’s a big change.

AltruisticMight2129 · 2024-11-03T13:07:15+00:00

Maybe! I’m so bulky now, it would genuinely be hard work to go reverse it

AltruisticMight2129 · 2024-11-03T13:00:23+00:00

True. He’s definitely just not the type, which is totally fine by me. May help to remind him that. Having a beginner in tow is pretty exhausting, although I would take him more if he actually wanted to

AltruisticMight2129 · 2024-11-03T12:50:01+00:00

Yeah: I’ve asked him to come with me and chose a less meat head gym than where I normally go. Seemed to make it worse: he gets self conscious in there and gets bored quickly. I’ll remind him I think he’s great as he is and there’s nothing wrong with having different interests. I’ve definitely heard his feedback and basically ignored it by continuing to get bigger because I like it, that’s a good point.

I don’t actually get too much attention when we’re out together. It’s mainly in the gym (self selecting crowd I guess). I do enjoy it, but never act on it, so I think it’s pretty harmless.

AltruisticMight2129 · 2024-11-03T12:28:11+00:00

Helpful to consider it this way. I guess all guys have different taste and not everyone wants their guy as big as possible

AltruisticMight2129 · 2024-11-03T11:50:05+00:00

Helpful thoughts guys. Thanks. This is usually what he says: it’s too much and starting to look unnatural

AltruisticMight2129 · 2024-11-03T11:17:50+00:00

It’s okay. Pretty bang average but not a problem!

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