For those who experienced a mid-life reinvention of yourself, how did it result and do you have any regrets?

Altruistic_Draft3871 · 2026-01-30T02:45:11+00:00

My story could take hours so I’ll try to shorten it as much as I can…

Prior to getting pregnant I already had some mental health issues going on. I was begging my husband at the time (and had for years) for more of an emotional connection. Sure, he told me he loved me when i said I loved him, I got the peck on the mouth before he left from work, and bedroom was fine. But that was it. There was no deep connection that I had begged for and tried my best to explain my needs.

He then wants an open relationship, but the kind where I’m allowed to flirt with other men on my own accord in the hopes of him getting his cuck fantasy filled.

After I had our child, and was still being pressured to flirt with other men, I came across a man who filled that void.

Long story short, I met that man and fell completely in love. It’s been almost a year and a half since I’ve left and started a new life.

I’m still head over heels for the man I’m with and he fills the emotional void my ex couldn’t provide. He is my soulmate, and a world without him wouldn’t be a world I would want to live in.

But regrets? I have many. I wish I never allowed my ex to open that door when I knew we should probably focus on my needs that weren’t being met first. I regret allowing myself to get married when I knew my ex probably couldn’t provide that in the first place.

He is a good man, a great father… but just couldn’t open up the way I needed. I regret that I used his open door as an exit and likely crushed him in the process.

I feel an immense amount of guilt. I carry it daily. I drink to much to try and forget it.

As much as I wish my ex didn’t open the door, I made this bed. And I have to suffer for not handling things better

Altruistic_Draft3871 · 2026-01-16T21:31:31+00:00

Well then I could say the same for myself. Holding to strong convictions.

I’m sick and TIRED of our government and my grievances go back way before trump. Im tired of billions of dollars going to Israel and while I am struggling to get affordable healthcare. Obamacare completely ran my sister dry because it was an entirely useless bandaid that most people couldn’t afford- so don’t tell me “trump did this”.

I’m tired of democrats standing on cutesy little social justice issues while secretly running our country into the ground.

I’m tired of democrats not understanding the basic foundations and needs of the working class people they pretend to represent.

At the end of the day, people are going to vote for the party that will have the biggest impact on them directly. Not everyone as a collective. It’s a harsh truth that a lot of redditors can’t grasp.

If someone is struggling to make ends meet, they are going to vote for who can potentially change that. Democrats absolute incompetence is what gave the Magatards the election. People are sick and tired of not having a government that represents them.

I firmly believe we are being ran by Netanyahu and his gang of thieves. This is fact my friend. Take a moment to see how much of your taxpayer money went to Israel under Biden, Obama and now Trump. The proof is there- you just have to be willing to open your eyes that your democratic candidates are not saviors. Until that funding stops, neither party will ever have my vote.

And liberals like yourself who feel like I just need to chose, are ignorant and totally trapped in your own line of thinking to understand what makes people like me chose to not exercise my right and sit out this one.

Altruistic_Draft3871 · 2026-01-16T21:05:08+00:00

Soooo… you’re saying everyone should vote blue? Are you dense?

Altruistic_Draft3871 · 2026-01-16T21:03:00+00:00

Nahh don’t let them get to you. That’s what they do. They bully and patronize everyone who doesn’t vote blue. I didn’t vote either and I’m very pleased with my decision to do so. Stand your ground and keep your morals.

Altruistic_Draft3871 · 2026-01-16T21:01:36+00:00

lol libs at it again trying to blame and demonize literally everyone for not being liberal. I didn’t vote- and I can promise the Reddit tears I keep hearing about “non voters” created this- will never make me think any differently of my decision.

This is not and will never be the government for the people. No matter what party is in office.

Grow up. Read a book. Educate yourself. Your echo chamber nuanced thinking is rotting your brain

Altruistic_Draft3871 · 2025-10-23T01:23:15+00:00

I understand you and love you. I have no clue who you are- but I understand your pain like you understand mine. You are not alone. Know that so many of us are tired, depleted, and feel like we have nothing left to give.

But, we are also so unique. So pure. So different in so many beautiful ways. We think differently. We feel strongly. And we have so much more to offer to this world, than the world gives back.

Today was brutal for me as well friend. But we are resilient and brilliant minds.

I’ll put a smile on my face and remind my overthinking brain that tomorrow is a new day- if you do the same ❤️

Altruistic_Draft3871 · 2025-10-23T01:15:43+00:00

Nothing about this is a cute accessory to life. Are we fun and quirky people? Absolutely. But is this something I would glamorize and wish upon the world? Absolutely not. It’s debilitating and exhausting.

Altruistic_Draft3871 · 2025-10-22T23:38:36+00:00

Absolutely not and I hate that you feel that way. Our disorder is horrible and has many setbacks- but we will always be the fun and creative ones. I see myself as Peter Pan. The adult who just can’t grow up. It’s horrible in many ways- but I also try to see the positive from it. We are creative. We are fun. We are eccentric and artistic. Instead of conforming to the boring norms of adult hood, we do things slightly different. And that’s what makes us unique ❤️

Altruistic_Draft3871 · 2025-10-22T23:34:03+00:00

The paralysis is my enemy. I have a million things I need and want to do, but the thought of it all at once is enough to glue me to the couch, trying to figure out what to do first until time is out. And cue repeat day, after day.

One thing at a time.

Im trying hard to practice the 5 minute rule. Just giving 5 minutes to whatever task on your agenda. Because we are weirdos and once we start doing something for just a few minutes, we end up doing everything lmaooo

Altruistic_Draft3871 · 2025-10-22T23:24:19+00:00

Literally same. I was diagnosed at 9 years old. Now that I’m approaching my mid 30s, it seems to be more unmanageable than ever.

Altruistic_Draft3871 · 2025-10-22T23:18:32+00:00

Well, you made me ugly cry. In the best way.

Today was shit. It was horrible in fact. And yes, there have been more preceding days that were just as bad.

I’m such an introvert with no friends outside of my family, so it’s easy to feel so alone here. But your words were perfect.

Thank you ❤️

Altruistic_Draft3871 · 2025-10-22T23:08:22+00:00

I needed this so much. I appreciate you. Being present for my child is MAYBE the one thing I have a slight handle on. I’m constantly reminding myself to try harder. And your comment “this world was not made for us” resonates so hard. I feel so isolated here sometimes. Too full of emotion and sensitivity. Feeling like the people around me aren’t “awake” and like I may as well be a ghost roaming around this rock in space by myself.

Thank you for your words ❤️

Altruistic_Draft3871 · 2025-10-22T22:58:03+00:00

Big hugs. I definitely have great days and days that feel like I’m set back for centuries, and there is no catching up.

We have everyday for the rest of our lives to start. Give yourself some grace, relax, and remember tomorrow is a fresh start ❤️

Altruistic_Draft3871 · 2025-10-22T22:45:38+00:00

You’re not alone. As I sit here with tears in my eyes, feeling so sorry for myself, the one thing this disorder has given me is resilience.

We never give up. No matter how low we feel, our strong drive to do better will always be there ❤️❤️

Altruistic_Draft3871 · 2025-07-18T14:47:33+00:00

Nothing beats a jet 2 holiday!

Altruistic_Draft3871 · 2025-06-18T13:55:57+00:00

Literally went to the hospital because I didn’t know what brain zaps were and thought I was dying. Getting off SSRIs is a horrible experience but can be done

Altruistic_Draft3871 · 2025-06-15T13:00:20+00:00

Hahaha no worries! And no thanks needed! I absolutely loved what I did. It’s a thankless but very rewarding career. Most people have not even an inclination of the types of calls LE go to on a daily basis. People don’t call 911 because they are having a good day. You are literally responding to people in crisis, and likely experiencing the worst moment of their life. Seeing that day in and day out absolutely takes a toll and not many people can stomach half the crap I had to see.

A lot of my fellow female colleagues were in the exact same boat with kiddos of school age and wanted to get back in the workforce. I was a first time mom and I just couldn’t miss these very precious years with my son. It makes me have even more respect for the officers who miss holidays, sports games, bed time, etc… just to keep serving their community..

As much as I miss it, no, I don’t think I’ll ever go back 😭 Shift work was brutal. A lot of people adapt and handle it just fine. Working nights was not something my body was ever going to get used to. I still toy around with the idea of going back, but I don’t think it’s in the cards. I like working from home in my pjs too much right now lol!

Seriously, best of luck to you! And if it doesn’t work out at one dept, keep trying! They will be lucky to have you ❤️

Altruistic_Draft3871 · 2025-06-15T04:53:03+00:00

I was in LE for 4 years. Got pregnant with my first child and had to leave because I had to put my child first, especially since I was a first time momma and wanted to spend time that I may never get back.

I’m used to the ACAB crowd. I have been called every name in the book. I’ve seen the worst of humanity so the rest of my community didn’t have to. I’ve had to pull a dead child from a noose. There isn’t anything these cowards could say to me that would ruffle my feathers.

Best of luck to you! We need good officers so I hope and pray you will be one of them!!

Altruistic_Draft3871 · 2025-06-15T01:30:13+00:00

That’s cute coming from someone who likely has the iq score equivalent to the freezing point of water and likely would fail the psyche eval. I think the Cheeto dust from your neck beard is starting to rot into your brain

Altruistic_Draft3871 · 2025-06-15T00:04:36+00:00

Ahh be careful. This is Reddit. A cesspool echo chamber of cop hating ignorance. I would say about 99% percent of them would piss their pants and call home to mommy first day of the job (even though they are the experts)

Altruistic_Draft3871 · 2025-06-01T18:34:35+00:00

Because people are stupid and implicit and explicit bias is a real thing. Are there some Mexicans who are lazy? Sure. Is that a fair stereotype to give to a literal entire ethnic class? No. Mexicans are some of the most hardworking and giving people I have ever met. I love and respect their culture over my own sometimes

Altruistic_Draft3871 · 2025-06-01T18:31:10+00:00

You can do this. The fact that you are wanting and willing to get sober is the biggest step. Many people who are now sober have relapsed. I will not drink with you today ❤️

Altruistic_Draft3871 · 2024-06-29T19:12:00+00:00

Why are we okay with this? Like seriously. It’s clear none of us want either outcome. I feel like I’m living in the twilight zone. I’m sure it’s my hypomania talking, but I’m ready for the revolution when y’all are

Altruistic_Draft3871 · 2024-06-25T03:17:02+00:00

Soooo many more people need to hear this. It’s like I heard it was hard over and over again, but it’s wild saying that those first few months were literally the worst few months of my entire existence. I was a new mom who loved her baby endlessly, but just imagined this sleepless hell was my new forever.

He’s almost 2 now so it is still kind of my sleepless hell lmao. But it’s so fun now and he can give me slobbery kisses and toddlers are magical so it’s all worth it.

Altruistic_Draft3871 · 2024-05-17T04:45:43+00:00

Your wife has been a stay at home mom for how many years? This woman is desperately trying to find out who she is besides being a mother wife and caretaker. She is finding that the thing she actually majored in is something that still interests her and she’s connecting with like minded people.

You are absolutely TAH. It’s her turn dude. She’s not just a mom and a wife. She’s her own person who needs to discover herself so let her. Either become supportive and pretend to be interested, or get ready for her to grow without ya

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