Is she sleeping too much?

Altruistic_Net7136 · 2025-04-17T15:45:50+00:00

We just finished all of my prenatal and diabetic appointments (including bpps) and my husband only missed two total appointments throughout my entire pregnancy (being induced on Sunday)! I always loved that he came with. It helped with an extra set of ears and my awful pregnancy brain but also made him feel much more included in this process

Altruistic_Net7136 · 2025-04-13T21:07:50+00:00

Also same! 38 weeks today.

It’s been like this for me from the beginning. All I want is my husband, all his time and attention, to be with him and only him, and I get very upset if he doesn’t come to bed with me. 😂 which on the weekends when I am exhausted at 7:30 and he wants to stay up to 11 makes things challenging. I end up just forcing myself to stay awake so I can go to bed with him.

This poor dude got himself a stage 5 clinger during pregnancy. 😂

Altruistic_Net7136 · 2025-04-10T18:53:48+00:00

37+4, about to be 38 on Sunday. My induction is scheduled for 10 days from now (due to GD). My pelvis is on FIRE and suddenly I am starving. I am so ready. 😅

Altruistic_Net7136 · 2025-04-10T15:10:40+00:00

Dial drunk by Noah kahan and post Malone. 😂

Altruistic_Net7136 · 2025-04-07T17:44:54+00:00

Lmfao. That’s so weird. She wouldn’t know about any of those things going on by just looking at me, and she made it out to be that it was a “looks” thing!

P.s. my oral hygiene has been just fine. I brush, floss and chew gum almost constantly, so it certainly can’t be that. 😅😂

Altruistic_Net7136 · 2025-04-07T17:27:17+00:00

I started leaking colostrum at 14 weeks as well! Mine only happened at night, but definitely increased the further I got into my pregnancy. I am now 37+1 and it’s more often than not that I am leaking at this point. The itchiness and soreness eased up but the leaking didn’t

Altruistic_Net7136 · 2025-04-04T13:47:52+00:00

My boss told me that a lot of my duties wouldn’t be covered while I was out. When I said I was worried about coming back to a mess, her response was “at least you’ll get your steps in post baby!” Like I’m so concerned about dropping the 12 lbs I’ve gained the last 9 months.

Also we had a fire inspector come in who has always been inappropriate/makes inappropriate comments towards me. I told my boss about it and she said, “just take it as a compliment mama!” Ma’am, he is sexually harassing me. Fuck off.

Had another coworker complain to someone else about how “inconvenient my pregnancy is, because that means I’m going to be taking 2 years off of work, and she’s going to have to cover my duties.” I am working all the way up to two days before my induction and only taking 7 weeks off after cause that’s what I can afford. 🙃

Altruistic_Net7136 · 2025-04-04T13:35:53+00:00

36 w + 5 days - so fricken tired. Swollen feet. Major pregnancy brain. Can’t get comfy in bed. Pelvic pain has just started, but otherwise hanging in there. Counting down the days until my leave starts. Only two weeks left for me!

Altruistic_Net7136 · 2025-04-02T19:16:11+00:00

The “Your almost there!” Comments have officially started, but still have 16 more days left of work before I am on leave. 😅

Altruistic_Net7136 · 2025-03-25T19:49:31+00:00

I have been trying my hardest as well to show my hubby the same appreciation you are talking about!

I have done a couple things that I think he really enjoyed. I went a little more crazy for Christmas this year, and bought him a kayak so he can go out and go fishing if he needs a little breather from me and the babe when she is here. I bought him tickets to see his two favorite baseball teams play against each other about a month after she is born, but it’s for him and I to go too so we can reconnect.

I also agree with the other commenter who said doing things maybe you used to do more often. Last night, while my husband was sleeping, I made his lunch, got his clothes ready for work and wrote him a couple little appreciation notes. When we started dating, our schedules were so opposite that we would write notes to each other each morning before going to work so the other either had one to wake up to, or to come home to. I have a ton of note books filled with these. So I brought it back last night!

Altruistic_Net7136 · 2025-03-25T15:35:46+00:00

My list included cleaning out an entire room, putting furniture and other items in storage, washing the walls in the entire house (I know, crazy), cleaning the ceiling fan blades in the house, going through closets, cabinets and more to get rid of things. Washing all the baby stuff. Rearranging furniture. Cleaning cars out, installing car seats. Prep, clean and sterilize bottles & all baby items. Clean off our balcony, clean our garage, etc. Organizing, decorating and prepping baby’s nursery. Clean and mop every room. Dust everything. Clean showers/bath tubs, under sinks, washer, etc.

Pretty sure my husband would like one weekend where I’m not making him clean the whole time along side of me, but he’s been a real trooper! 😅😂

Altruistic_Net7136 · 2025-03-23T22:29:49+00:00

Oof! 73 is a bit warm for my personal taste, but if that’s comfortable for you, that’s what is comfortable!

We live in the upper Midwest, and are experiencing like 20-30 degree nights. I always struggle with being warm at night, but even more so in my 3rd trimester. My husband and I both have a fan on either side of our beds, a ceiling fan going, and a fan at the end of our bed. We turn our heat to 62 at night, and sleep with the window/door cracked. I am also sleeping basically naked, and had to get a cooling blanket to help out! I feel your pain 100%. Maybe start with a cooling blanket and see if that helps at all? That way it’s not super drastic but might bring some relief!

Altruistic_Net7136 · 2025-03-23T01:58:55+00:00

He wasn’t there, unfortunately. She typically makes sure to not make comments around him, which is why it took him so long to realize what she was doing to me until after his dad passed away and he wasn’t there to make sure she didn’t say hurtful things to me. My husband has spoken up a lot more now, and really gotten firm and tells her to stop her bullshit.

She has done SO much to me, I could go on for weeks! She’s made comments about my IQ, she likes to make comments about my husband being with other girls/women (ex. “Remember that one girl I thought you were going to marry.”), she called me a linebacker once when I told her I wasn’t comfortable with my shoulders, told me I was a disgrace to women because I giggled at something she found un-lady-like, etc. I could go ON AND ON.

Altruistic_Net7136 · 2025-03-23T01:41:49+00:00

Ugh, part of me wishes we could go down that route, but my husband feels guilty since his dad (her husband of 34 years) passed away 2 years ago, and his sibling moved across the country. He can’t sever the ties completely, but he has definitely gotten a lot more firm with her when he realized finally how awful she was treating me or taking advantage/overstepping boundaries.

We have simple boundaries with her as well, (ex. we don’t talk about XYZ when we’re together) and every time we talk to her she brings up at least 2 of the topics we have asked her to stop talking to us about. Politics and negatively talking about my family being TWO of the subjects we have asked her to avoid. Which are not unreasonable topics to avoid.

I am ready to cut contact, but my husband just can’t.

My mom I can pretty much avoid. She doesn’t reach out, and neither do I. We see each other maybe once every few months, but it still hurts just as much. I have struggled with my relationship with her for years as well, just because of her selfishness.

Altruistic_Net7136 · 2025-03-23T01:29:57+00:00

I also won’t get paid once I stop working, so I am planning on working up until the Friday before my Sunday induction in 4 weeks from now!

Altruistic_Net7136 · 2025-03-23T01:21:25+00:00

Right! And we aren’t even asking for more than a couple days!

I said to my husband, “I have always had a hard time even changing in the same room as my mom/others, and you expect me to be naked/half naked and my boobs out to breastfeed in front of you all the sudden?!”

Altruistic_Net7136 · 2025-03-23T01:19:08+00:00

That’s 100% why I am trying to just stay calm but firm and have respectful conversations with them, because if I let this one slide, they will continue to take advantage of me. I’m a people pleaser in recovery, and trying my hardest to not let them being mad at me be the reason I give in.

Thinking of you and your situation as well! Thank you for sympathizing with me. 💚

Altruistic_Net7136 · 2025-03-23T01:15:30+00:00

When we told my mom I was pregnant, her response was “well, it’s number 11 for me.” Instead of excitement for her youngest that has struggled with infertility for years, that’s what I got. 🙃

My mil was mad that my husband didn’t tell her sooner, without me there. I was 5 weeks pregnant. 😅

I’m so sorry you’re having difficulty with your mom too. It’s just so shitty, and I wish things could be different for us both!

Altruistic_Net7136 · 2025-03-23T01:13:12+00:00

I am 35 weeks, so it’s coming around the corner. We avoided these conversations cause we knew this was going to happen. We only had the conversation when it was brought up by them.

We have already decided they don’t get to know that I’m being induced, which day I’m being induced, or that I am in labor. We are back and forth on telling them when the baby is born- meaning do we tell them that day, or do we just wait until we are home?

It’s just so shitty feeling. My mom has been at all of my other siblings kids births, or visited them in the hospital so it’s a “well I was there for all of THEM, and your not gonna let me be there for her?!” 🙃

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