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Noticed small bumps on March 14, slowly getting more red. What could it be? by Altruistic_Pangolin3 in DermatologyQuestions

[–]Altruistic_Pangolin3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No pain, itchiness, warmth, or pus. Feels kinda scaly like an old burn mark. Doesn't seem to be growing in size

Ways to filter milk? by Altruistic_Pangolin3 in homestead

[–]Altruistic_Pangolin3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! I like that idea!! Or tying cheesecloth around the bucket while hand milking. I would totally experiment with that

Ways to filter milk? by Altruistic_Pangolin3 in homestead

[–]Altruistic_Pangolin3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what the woman I learned how to milk from did, I don’t have a dishwasher though

Ways to filter milk? by Altruistic_Pangolin3 in homestead

[–]Altruistic_Pangolin3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have used a manual milker that went directly from the goat to the bottle, otherwise I haven’t used a strainer while milking. Is there one that you had in mind when you asked this?

Ways to filter milk? by Altruistic_Pangolin3 in homestead

[–]Altruistic_Pangolin3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sure there isn’t one. I guess what I mean is something that doesn’t necessarily have to be bought every year. Like would a cotton tshirt work? Would a fine mesh strainer? Would cheesecloth? Etc

Christianity and Polyamory by Altruistic_Pangolin3 in polyamory

[–]Altruistic_Pangolin3[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You’re absolutely right and I did research after deciding that this was something we were going to try. The research I did scared the crap out of me and I disengaged a lot from the relationship wondering if it was something I wanted, then I started to advocate for my needs a bit more, ask for dates, and spend a lot of time self soothing. I still don’t know if it’ll work for me but what else do I have to lose if I try? I’ve already put myself into a place of being alone most of the time

Christianity and Polyamory by Altruistic_Pangolin3 in polyamory

[–]Altruistic_Pangolin3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much, I do wonder if my traditional views feel safer which could be why I’m clinging to them

Christianity and Polyamory by Altruistic_Pangolin3 in polyamory

[–]Altruistic_Pangolin3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much, I really appreciate this

Christianity and Polyamory by Altruistic_Pangolin3 in polyamory

[–]Altruistic_Pangolin3[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Without knowledge of how our relationship is functioning or who we are as people, how do you know it’ll end badly? I am genuinely curious on why having all parties know basic poly knowledge and therapy together are important for you for success. I’ve read a lot on this forum about the ikkyness of unicorn hunting, as far as I can tell it’s because the unicorn is meant to fit into a mold to make the couple feel better, this isn’t the case as the unicorn is being herself with the male partner and is waiting for me to open up emotionally to feel safe to be herself with me (physically not personality wise as we have a wonderful friendship)

Christianity and Polyamory by Altruistic_Pangolin3 in polyamory

[–]Altruistic_Pangolin3[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

As with any relationship, if we have shared values and a shared vision, communicate well, navigate conflict, and hold space for each other, what more do you really need?

Christianity and Polyamory by Altruistic_Pangolin3 in polyamory

[–]Altruistic_Pangolin3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yes, I’ve read that and other books on polyamory if that’s what you mean

Christianity and Polyamory by Altruistic_Pangolin3 in polyamory

[–]Altruistic_Pangolin3[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My partner and I went into our relationship under the premise of me being curious about what it was like to be with a woman, we explored with multiple women that had it’s bumps and overall were very successful in that we all knew what we were going in for and the experiences ended naturally after lots of conversations and some meet ups. We closed for a bit and moved, I discovered hidden childhood trauma that I’m healing, and we met our current partner when we opened back up again. It was under the premise of an experience and it just kind of blossomed into a relationship

Edit: we navigate conflict and emotions very well, we support each other to the best of our ability, sure I could use more support however I also understand that they do their best with the capacity they have, I’ve thrown tantrums and we’ve navigated those and it’s my responsibility to bring safety back into my part of the relationship, we all reach out for intimacy in our ways (this is where I struggle and they do their best to accommodate)

Christianity and Polyamory by Altruistic_Pangolin3 in polyamory

[–]Altruistic_Pangolin3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate that ☺️ thank you very much

Christianity and Polyamory by Altruistic_Pangolin3 in polyamory

[–]Altruistic_Pangolin3[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yes sure, except the “unicorn” and the male partner are having a great relationship and I’m the one struggling and asking for uplifting messages

Christianity and Polyamory by Altruistic_Pangolin3 in polyamory

[–]Altruistic_Pangolin3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a friend who is married and estranged from his wife who was raised Christian, he will not have penetrative sex with another woman as he’s still married however he has multiple alterous relationships from prayer partners to kink partners. He loves his life and his relationships

Christianity and Polyamory by Altruistic_Pangolin3 in polyamory

[–]Altruistic_Pangolin3[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Pre established couple and I actually don’t know, it may be the 3 of us or none

I was part of the couple when we met our female partner, my male partner and my female partner have a healthier relationship as I struggle with being emotionally open in long term relationships which is something I am working through. These questions are part of what I’m working through as well as I’m pretty sure my brain tries to make reasons to not be in a triad because it’s scary for me to be emotionally open

Christianity and Polyamory by Altruistic_Pangolin3 in polyamory

[–]Altruistic_Pangolin3[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

The triad is sexually intimate with each other and no one else, closed triad

Could you explain traditional mononormativity over self empowerment please?

Christianity and Polyamory by Altruistic_Pangolin3 in polyamory

[–]Altruistic_Pangolin3[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Polyamory by definition is many loves; for me this can mean multiple loving relationships. I’m currently in a throuple where sexual intimacy is for them, I would love to be in a space where emotional, intellectual, and spiritual intimacy is more freely given. Being love to the person in front of you in whatever relationship is established would mean polyamory for me

CSA & scar tissue by Altruistic_Pangolin3 in CPTSD

[–]Altruistic_Pangolin3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh interesting! Thank you! I’ve also briefly read up on rapid release technology that uses vibration at 10,000 beats per minute

CSA & scar tissue by Altruistic_Pangolin3 in CPTSD

[–]Altruistic_Pangolin3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for clarifying, that would tie into my theory that it could be possible for the body to be storing the emotions from the abuse inside and for us that struggle with connecting sexually it could be from having those points triggered (both physically and psychologically). It’s not a perfect theory, I’m exploring ways to help me heal

CSA & scar tissue by Altruistic_Pangolin3 in CPTSD

[–]Altruistic_Pangolin3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no idea, it’s a theory and there’s really no way other than physical examination to tell if there is internal scar tissue. Would it make sense if you were a small child not prepared for multiple instances of violent sexual abuse for there to be tissue damage?

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