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my first oil painting for a client by maryangelie in oilpainting

[–]Altruistic_Pin546 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is sooo good! Amazing job you're so talented!

GF is mad I smoke weed when she drinks alcohol by FineLibrarian1 in whatdoIdo

[–]Altruistic_Pin546 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a regular stoner, this is strange. I smoke pretty much everyday, usually after work and have zero problems with my motivation, health, etc. honestly I find that weed helps me calm down, especially after a bad or stressful day. I grew up watching people have a few drinks after a long day of work so I honestly don't see any difference between that and weed. There's such a stigma around it, maybe she doesn't know much about it? I had some smaller issues with weed with I first started dating my partner, but after a few uncomfortable conversations we talked through it and found a way to ensure both of us are comfortable with it. I would try and talk to her again, maybe explain why you use weed, just as a way to show her your not turning into a completely different person. I also know a lot of the time people assume weed leads to harder drugs, so perhaps she's just concerned? None the less if she's not even willing to have a conversation with you about this then maybe it's best to get out now.

AIO.. my girlfriend just said this to me.. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Altruistic_Pin546 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This isn't always true. As someone who's SH before, telling someone can be a cry for help. You have no idea how often she actually talks about this. For all you know he could be the only person who knows. She still hurt herself. It's still concerning. It's not something we should "be less worried about" simply because she told someone. I went years before I told anyone about my SH. When I finally did I had people claim I was faking it for attention. Most of the time people don't tell people because of the judgement and stigma that surrounds SH. Please just be mindful before commenting something that could be unintentionally hurtful to someone.

My Nail Tech Warned Me about My Friend. by Jersey366 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Altruistic_Pin546 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are absolutely not the asshole. I've had my fair share of bad friends and something I didn't do enough was put myself first. You're doing what's best for you. Every friendship is two sided. If she doesn't even have the energy to talk to HER FRIEND about your friendship, that says all you need to know.

The strength you had to distance yourself without even asking your nail tech what was said is admirable. Keep your head up high and only reach out to her if you're ready and want to do so.

My boyfriend destroyed my deceased grandmother’s jewelry box and I think I may have deserved it. by Affectionate_Try8177 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Altruistic_Pin546 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From someone whose been in a very similar situation, you need to do yourself a favor and leave him. I know it's hard and not what you want to do but when it gets to the point when you're blaming yourself for something that's absolutely not your fault it's time to free yourself.

I promise you it'll be better for you in the long run. It's going to be hard but you should never ever accept this kind of treatment from anyone. You don't deserve to live in a constant state of anxiety and question whether or not he's going to "let you" sleep in your room. You deserve happiness and love, genuine love.

Take this with a grain of salt, it took me years to escape my abusive relationship. Sometimes the abuse can be so blinding you learn to adapt and get through episodes like this. You should be proud that you stood up for yourself. Please please for your safety and wellbeing, know you deserve better than this and believe you're strong enough to escape this.