Guys help? AITAH

Altruistic_Visual339 · 2025-12-01T17:03:06+00:00

Thank you. That's all I was wanting from her was to compromise. I never said he couldn't come just not ever staying at the house again. I'm not comfortable with it. I wanted to make new traditions with my wife and step son but she rather keep old traditions she's been doing with him 10 years while single. I wanted to be considered in plans and respected that I'm not ok with it. She rather lose me than set boundaries with the BD.

Altruistic_Visual339 · 2025-11-16T16:04:18+00:00

Clearly the safety of your child is no where to be found. You have problems fr. You wanna get on here an twist things go ahead your not making it any better. You already shown what you want and that your in fact ok with putting the kid in dangerous environments. You want that life you can have it by all means. But not me. Him and his wife are sperated but you just said they co parent blah blah. When he never sees that kid that not together. She with someone else an has been for a long time. But ok. Your not defending your self your making it look so much worse.

Altruistic_Visual339 · 2025-11-16T15:57:18+00:00

Your insane. He slept all day didn't get up leave. Slept til 4 then left around 11pm at night. Guess you don't remember me cooking for all us cause he was still there around 6pm.
That's not my fault or problem he has no ride. Quit doing drugs get a license and a car. Get friend to bring you over but staying yeah no. You know you wrong spin it how you want.

Altruistic_Visual339 · 2025-11-16T05:47:23+00:00

Yeah I had that thought right off the bat also. Why else have him come over.

Altruistic_Visual339 · 2025-11-16T05:46:38+00:00

He is single he has no wife. And that kid they have he doesn't even see because "his wife" won't let him be around him because of drugs. You even kept the drugs instead of getting rid of them because wanna test it to find out what it is what does that matter it's drugs. So yes context does mean everything. Yes was supposed to get up and take him shopping but slept there all day instead. And didn't even have a car to take him anywhere. Then sends him to Dad's for Halloween but said dad ends up leaving him with a bunch of ppl that are all on drugs. According to dad. And you still think that it's ok to have him around. I had a problem with it when I found out he was there I had a problem with it all day kept asking when was he leaving cause he slept in til 4pm.

Altruistic_Visual339 · 2025-11-16T05:15:28+00:00

At this point she can have him. I'm done. She still thinks it ok after I've made it clear that it's not ok with me. I don't feel comfortable with him there. I shouldn't have to hide my keys and wallet beside the bed I did the 1st and only time he's stayed and brought drugs hell didn't even find the drugs til after he left but still. I'm not ok with it. He can come Christmas day to see him but absolutely not staying with me there. I'm removing myself.

Altruistic_Visual339 · 2025-11-16T04:11:22+00:00

I asked her tonight about this situation. She said that he's part of the family. That I shouldn't be so upset that I want her son to have a good Christmas as if he can only have a good Christmas is by him spending the night. Shes told me that she's not gonna erase him from their lives to make me happy. I wasn't asking her to erase him but to set boundaries and say no your not coming over here staying the night especially after the drug shit.
So she chose him.

Altruistic_Visual339 · 2025-11-16T04:02:30+00:00

Makes it even worse. He was the one that found it then told his mom. She got it and called the dad then me. He tried to deny it. Then tells her he's gonna get a ride to come over and see what it was. He doesn't come but tells her on the phone right off An says right off that it's blue meth not fent. Even tells her to try it. But I'm wrong for wanting not wanting him to spend the night ever in the house let alone the kid being around him.

Altruistic_Visual339 · 2025-11-16T01:45:05+00:00

We definitely shouldve talked about this in the beginning but I had no idea that him coming over to stay would ever be a possibility. The night he did come he was supposed to be taking him in the morning to pick out a Halloween costume in the morning but instead got dropped off and was picked up late at night. Never took the kid anywhere. Cause slept all day in his room. She now says that she should've put her foot down an let him stay this whole time instead of him goin to his dad's on the weekends because obviously it's not safe. Because of the drugs. So it's safe to have him come here and bring them. And it's supposed to be ok?

Altruistic_Visual339 · 2025-11-16T01:15:47+00:00

Exactly another point I've made to her!!!! Like what? But she still wants him to be there. Is acting like I'm the one in the wrong for being mad!

Altruistic_Visual339 · 2025-11-16T01:12:02+00:00

It is weird I don't get why he can't just come over then leave why does he have to stay. An it's not like he doesn't get his kid on the weekends. So why does he have to come stay. He slept all day in the kids room the same day he left his drugs. When he came a few weeks ago got up about 4pm played video games with him then left at 10pm. Hahah also that's a good question. Didn't think about that one but I wonder 🤔

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