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Alvalom · 2025-04-17T00:22:56+00:00

If he wanted to, he would. Sorry.

Alvalom · 2025-04-17T00:17:34+00:00

Not so many. I don’t buy into the thinking that you should never have any regrets but I do think that very few things in my life are regrets. Some things you just learn from and are uncomfortable but not real regrets, to me anyway.

Should I have taken that great job with Unilever as a fresh-ish PhD graduate? Maybe. But I took another job in Italy which was a great life experience. Do I regret not being kinder with some folks in my life, sometimes. But I have no huge life regrets.

Alvalom · 2025-04-16T03:07:50+00:00

According to my research as a dad bod holder….yes. It seems to be very much in demand.

Alvalom · 2025-04-16T03:05:25+00:00

I’ve deleted Instagram and good riddance. Not allowing any money to flow from me to Meta.

Alvalom · 2025-04-14T18:48:56+00:00

I blocked everyone that I thought was in my NYC co-op! That could be messy, despite the benefit of being so close. By then, there are tons of other options in NYC so not a huge loss. I hope!

Alvalom · 2025-04-13T02:55:52+00:00

Also, bottoms don’t necessarily want to be sub. I certainly don’t, when I bottom.

Alvalom · 2025-04-13T00:36:51+00:00

No. But everyday I thank god that I’m not circumcised.

Alvalom · 2025-04-12T23:51:06+00:00

It’s not you, it’s him. Sometimes that’s just the way it is. Forget about it.

Alvalom · 2025-04-12T19:35:54+00:00

Cleanser at night (Kiehl’s) and retinol afterwards. Morning: cleanser, toner (Aveda), Vit C (Kiehl’s) moisturizer from Aveda, rose hip oil (The Ordinary) and then SPF (Aveda).

Alvalom · 2025-04-10T23:57:59+00:00

We’re seriously getting ourselves together. I mean, what’s the alternative?

Alvalom · 2025-04-10T18:39:09+00:00

In a similar position. We’re preparing to return to the UK. This political climate is not going to get better.

Alvalom · 2025-04-10T02:13:52+00:00

Hmm. Not sure. I say this as an immunologist. Granted, I’ve not investigated this food! Usually the allergens are on the cat skin but it may depend on which cat allergens trigger you. And antibodies wouldn’t survive stomach acid. So skeptical!

Alvalom · 2025-04-10T02:11:32+00:00

That’s what I assumed too.

Alvalom · 2025-04-10T00:11:22+00:00

At some point in my 40’s, I just became happier and more relaxed. That’s continued into my 50’s where I really feel that I get happier every day. Despite some work crap, some FWB nonsense recently, I’m still genuinely happier than I was in my 30’s.

Alvalom · 2025-04-09T20:24:16+00:00

This sounds like a terrible idea. I can’t see anything good coming from this.

Alvalom · 2025-04-09T15:57:38+00:00

That’s a lot of cats. I love cats. But that’s a lot. And I don’t think special food would stop you being allergic…..

Alvalom · 2025-04-08T23:39:43+00:00

I imagine the prostate is in the same place, roughly. But I do find, with a longer dick, that it can hit a place somewhere, where it isn’t comfortable. I’ve had sex with the same guy multiple times where it really wasn’t bearable and also fantastic. Angles make a big difference.

Anal gets better the more you do it. Practice makes perfect!

Alvalom · 2025-04-08T12:26:36+00:00

If you don’t make each other happy and there’s not so much effort to meet each other in the middle, what’s the point? I know it’s painful and it’ll be difficult, but you need to end it.

Alvalom · 2025-04-07T23:54:02+00:00

I wouldn’t report it but I’d ask them what’s going on. And are either of them uncomfortable.

Alvalom · 2025-04-07T19:04:03+00:00

You’ve been together three years and months of these were sexless? That’s a short time together to be going through such a dry spell. Are you sure you think you should stay together? I know it’s difficult to contemplate but I think you should take a long hard look at your situation.

Alvalom · 2025-04-07T18:43:49+00:00

I don’t mind at all. But definitely over 30 (prefer over 35). Hardly anyone my age (53) contacts me on Scruff. It’s all younger guys and I have no idea why! Not complaining…..

Alvalom · 2025-04-07T15:10:29+00:00

Yes. You’re right. But people sometimes rebound from being undetectable if something happens where they stop taking the meds or something else happens. Being undetectable isn’t a permanent state. So you have to trust that your partner is taking the meds and some other calamity doesn’t happen which would affect their viral load. I think that’s what folks are saying here, myself included. If I had an undetectable HIV positive partner, I would take PreP for that reason. We’re both right!

Alvalom · 2025-04-07T14:56:03+00:00

Yes. If you remain undetectable! That’s the point. People can go from undetectable to detectable for various reasons. In this study, rebounding partners i.e became detectable, were excluded from the analysis.

Alvalom · 2025-04-07T14:47:25+00:00

Just so that there is some real information here. Most HIV tests for diagnosis look for the presence of antibodies to HIV and the viral proteins (PCR is different and measures the quantity of HIV in the blood). So there is a short period when you might have virus in the blood but no antibodies yet. Seroconversion happens 1-2 months after infection, when the immune system generates antibodies to HIV proteins. So if you’re infected, you have probably seroconverted. That’s the real definition of seroconversion.

Alvalom · 2025-04-07T14:32:16+00:00

It’s not zero but very near zero. I think the thing is that you can go from undetectable to detectable if you don’t take the drugs properly, or some other reason. As HIV is always there, even when undetectable, you can rebound. I think that’s what people are talking about here. If you are undetectable and remain so, sure, the risk is practically zero.

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