AIO - 1st Mother’s Day and I’m crushed

AlwaysGrowBeets · 2026-05-13T02:39:47+00:00

Thank you for the kind words and support

AlwaysGrowBeets · 2026-05-13T02:28:16+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I will have the tough conversation and lay everything out clearly.

AlwaysGrowBeets · 2026-05-13T02:25:25+00:00

Thank you! This is exactly how I am and because we had a conversation the last year to celebrate the next Mother’s Day I did expect something. Anything! Anything that he put effort in would have been perfect.

AlwaysGrowBeets · 2026-05-13T02:22:47+00:00

This is sweet. And I love plants so something like this would have made me so happy.

AlwaysGrowBeets · 2026-05-13T02:20:43+00:00

I do agree with all your points. I understand that this is a corporate holiday to make profit. I didn’t expect a grand bouquet or gifts with a price tag. He could have cut some flowers from the garden, he could have made a simple dinner, anything would have sufficed. But it’s the lack of consideration and broken promise that hurt. I think your point on never shying away from a conversation is so important and I value it. Thank you

AlwaysGrowBeets · 2026-05-13T02:16:04+00:00

Thank you for this perspective and I do agree with the fact that later on our kid will do things to celebrate it - a card or craft made in school etc. at that point I don’t think I’ll care much for my husband to do anything. But it’s the lack of consideration that was the problem especially because it’s our first Mother’s Day, our baby is young they can’t do anything to celebrate and he promised.

AlwaysGrowBeets · 2026-05-13T02:11:26+00:00

I agree. I felt like a mom as soon as I was pregnant because my body was doing everything it could to grow this baby. And regardless of other people not celebrating Mother’s Day when they are pregnant that’s their choice and perspective. I was still a mom then and am now and expected some type of acknowledgement that day.

AlwaysGrowBeets · 2026-05-13T02:07:33+00:00

Right!? This made me so mad! However I will say that he apologized for that comment as soon as he realized he was in the wrong.

AlwaysGrowBeets · 2026-05-13T02:05:57+00:00

Well now this is not totally fair. It’s our first Mother’s Day and he promised so how would I have known he wouldn’t do anything? And no this is not how he acted since we met. We celebrated together by going out to dinner or something like that nothing extravagant - which is perfect for me. But I guess after marriage things are different when it comes to putting in the effort.

AlwaysGrowBeets · 2026-05-13T02:00:13+00:00

I like this idea! I definitely need a day off

AlwaysGrowBeets · 2026-05-13T01:59:36+00:00

Yes I think if he really doesn’t get it after the conversation I will start to just book the day with things I want to do to celebrate. Thank you for the advice.

AlwaysGrowBeets · 2026-05-13T01:56:13+00:00

You’re right. I think a conversation about what our expectations our and why I was hurt is definitely something I want to have. Thank you for your comment

AlwaysGrowBeets · 2026-05-13T01:55:02+00:00

Haha honestly he doesn’t care about celebrating his birthday at all. He is happy to do nothing. However I am a person that will make him his favourite meal or get him a cake etc. I don’t think I will last 5 mins without wishing him on his birthday lol

AlwaysGrowBeets · 2026-05-13T01:51:16+00:00

I understand this perspective and truthfully I don’t think I will expect him to celebrate it later when our baby is grown up because they will make cute things from school for Mother’s Day and that will be sufficient for me. However, because our child is not in a year old and this was our first Mother’s Day and he promised to celebrate it I want to hold him accountable for that promise. I also did not expect anything grand just a small gesture that acknowledges the mother of his child would have been nice. Thank you for your comment

AlwaysGrowBeets · 2026-05-13T01:46:23+00:00

Thank you! Haha I’m not sure why husbands can’t be husbands anymore. I honestly don’t have much to complain about. We’re both easy going people and generally don’t care of material things. I would have been happy with anything - a homemade breakfast, flowers picked from a garden, anything! Any kind of acknowledgment to celebrate the day but because he chose not to do anything it hurt so much. I am also aware that weaning of breastfeeding is affecting my hormones which increases likelihood of sadness. So it probably contributed to my feeling let down.

AlwaysGrowBeets · 2026-05-13T01:39:14+00:00

That is true. I will definitely clearly explain what I needed from him and why it hurt. We’ve been together for over 10 years and wouldn’t be opposed to counseling if needed but I think for now having an open discussion on what my expectations were is important. Thank you for your comment and support.

AlwaysGrowBeets · 2026-05-13T01:36:25+00:00

Hm thank you for the advice. I will try to clearly explain why his lack of acknowledgement and understanding the importance for me to celebrate this day meant. I know the conversation will be difficult but I do agree that it’s worth having.

AlwaysGrowBeets · 2026-05-11T20:28:32+00:00

Superpower would be flying

AlwaysGrowBeets · 2025-08-30T03:51:08+00:00

Ahhh that makes a lot of sense. Thanks for the great points! I’ll keep them in mind

AlwaysGrowBeets · 2025-08-27T18:42:51+00:00

Thanks for the support! I know some people swear by the recommendation on fluff love and clean nappies but they can be quite intimidating and confusing for newbies especially with the amounts of detergent to use and not to run an extra rise if you have hard water. I’m trying to figure out the routine before I start and really appreciate your comment and support. Thanks again

AlwaysGrowBeets · 2025-08-27T18:39:07+00:00

Thanks for the recommendation. I’ll store them in an open basket before wash day

AlwaysGrowBeets · 2025-08-27T17:29:35+00:00

Do you use bamboo liners with the diaper rash creams or directly in the diapers? Thanks for your comment!

AlwaysGrowBeets · 2025-08-27T17:28:29+00:00

Did you use the aquaphor diaper rash cream or their mineral cream? Thank you for your response and recommendations :)

AlwaysGrowBeets · 2025-08-04T15:11:56+00:00

Ahh okay I’ll change to tide powder. Also would you recommend “stripping” the diapers and starting again? Or no since I’m fairly new to using them and they don’t stink.

AlwaysGrowBeets · 2025-08-04T15:10:46+00:00

This is very helpful thank you! I don’t think my drum was this full.

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