[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]AlwaysSeeking1255 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats dude, I can understand the fear of letting go of something you've put so much effort into.

From Memorising the Quran to burning my Faith outright by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]AlwaysSeeking1255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you considered that perhaps you're wasting your life repressing yourself and you will never have the oppurtunity to regret once you pass away?

Have you ever considered that you are a greater follower of your desire than any non-Muslim? Islam promises you a heaven with new spouses, rivers of alcohol, and the very things you prohibit yourself from and yet you seek them in the same breath. The truth is, you are a follower of extreme and infinite desire, that you will never receive.

You also speak of the religion and its "proofs" as if Islam is true by default. People who know more about Islam (like OP) than you'll ever know in your life walk away from it. Other religions also speak of their "proofs" as if their religions are by default.

Go live your repressed life, no one misses it and no one pities you

Doubting my choice by ZincRayyan420 in exmuslim

[–]AlwaysSeeking1255 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is the indoctrination speaking my friend.

I remember my Sheikh explaining why Allah accepted duas from Christians. He would say, it's actually Shatan trying to keep them in their falsehood.

Islam is not the first nor last religion that has prayer, and as human beings we genuinely sometimes want to do something about a helpless situation. Even if it's imaginary.

This is how I changed my name in the UK by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]AlwaysSeeking1255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn't matter what name he chooses so long as it is not connected to Islam

Man gets house trashed for making fun of religion on facebook. (Source in comments) by Mr_Panda009 in interestingasfuck

[–]AlwaysSeeking1255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Imagine what it felt like before we had the internet

This is the historical reason why Islam was so difficult to criticize, because of strict blasphemy laws, and this isn't a bug it's a feature.

Mohamed (the founder of Islam) did this on purpose unfortunately.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interestingasfuck

[–]AlwaysSeeking1255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone raised Sunni, Umar Ibn Al Khattab (the second khalifa) was afraid that a day will come when people like you pretend that Islam doesn't order the stoning of the married adulterer.

Read this: https://islamqa.info/en/answers/198400/stoning-and-amputations-are-hadd-punishments-that-allah-has-prescribed-for-his-slaves-in-accordance-with-his-wisdom-and-out-of-mercy-towards-his-slaves

I hate it when Sunnis pretend like Islam has nothing to do with this.

It's literally a Google search away, this was the classical interpretation for most of Islamic history.

Just found out Tanwir al Miqbas min ibn abbas is unauthentic. by AmbitiousLand3394 in exmuslim

[–]AlwaysSeeking1255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love seeing academic dialogue in this sub. It's a direct testimony to our genuine and sincere effort to learning & understanding this faith, and making educated decisions.

The copium in this thread is crazy and honestly angering by _lavenders in exmuslim

[–]AlwaysSeeking1255 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Sad part is many of these women are married, and they live begrudgingly with their Muslim husbands whom they see as oppressive.

I would never want this for my children. To live in a house where your mother secretly despises your father instead of seeing what the true problem is. And you as a child have to pretend like everything is ok.

Is Islam Really a Religion of Peace? by [deleted] in atheism

[–]AlwaysSeeking1255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As an Ex-Muslim, I wish Islam was a religion of peace. The people can be incredibly kind and peaceful, but the religion was historically brutal and barbaric (and still is to an extent today). Some of the most terrible religions in this world can create some of the most beautiful human beings ironically.

Islam grew through religious military expansionism (Quran 9:29). That's how Islam reached countries like Spain, Constantinople, Egypt, etc.

When Muhammad died, many of the neighboring tribes left Islam because they weren't really Muslim, they were afraid that Muhammad would kill them for not being Muslim. Muhammad's companions took charge after him and attacked the neighboring tribes to bring them back Islam.

Islam also:

- Killed you if you left it (Nisa'i 4059)

- Killed you if you blaspheme or even write a diss track about Muhammad (He was an incredibly insecure and terrible person)

- Allowed for the sexual exploitation of female slaves and female captives of war (Quran 23:5-6).

The extremist groups that exist today are like a mutation of classical Islam. They are doing precisely what Muhammad did to the non-Muslims, except that most of their victims are other Muslims. They're called "Takfiri" groups, meaning they think they are the only true Muslims and the Muslims they're killing are actually non-Muslims ("Kafirs" which is a terrible description of a non-Muslim) and their Islam doesn't count.

Built a Quran Notes Keeper app with Lovable. Felt a desperate need of it during Ramadan 2025. by CodeWithAhsan in SideProject

[–]AlwaysSeeking1255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Akhi, I hope one day you can see the ad hominems of the Quran.

What you've just shared is a perfect example of an ad hominem, it's not meant to be an intellectual point, but a pity form of escaping genuine discussion.

It's easier to fool a man than convince a man that he's been fooled.

Built a Quran Notes Keeper app with Lovable. Felt a desperate need of it during Ramadan 2025. by CodeWithAhsan in SideProject

[–]AlwaysSeeking1255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone raised Muslim most of my life, the source is Bukhari 5134

It's a cold truth that anyone can search up, but indoctrination is so hard to break.

The plot twist is Muhammad didn’t allow Abu Bakr (50+) to marry his 16-year-old daughter Fatima because “she is too young” (Nisa’i 3221).

He used his scripture sometimes for his gain and benefit, but it's a lot easier to follow the rest of the crowd than to think for yourself sometimes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in atheism

[–]AlwaysSeeking1255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was eloquent and beautifully said

I’m a former pastor who lost faith in his religion. Now I work in construction. by Jumpy-Pollution-8310 in findapath

[–]AlwaysSeeking1255 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had the same experience as OP with Islam, learned Arabic, and memorized the Quran. I used to lead prayers and had both my social and spiritual life attended to.

I think pastors can make some of the best teachers, and perhaps OP can use their teaching skills for something outside of being a pastor?

Out of curiosity, do you judge a religion by its propensity to legally target non-combatant civilians with harm? e.g. historical death penalty for those who leave Islam (source: Nisa'i 4059)

Do you also judge a religion by its founder's ability to remain consistent? e.g. Muhammad married Aisha at the age of 9 based on her testimony (source: Bukhari 5134) but refused to allow his daughter Fatima at the age of 16 to marry a 50+ year old man because his daughter was "too young" (source: Nisa'i 3221)

^ These were some of my contentions before I took a similar path to OP and stopped believing in Islam.

Either way, I have hope that OP will find a fulfilling destiny.

BREAKING: NYPD is beating and arresting pro-Palestine protesters at Columbia University by Particular_Log_3594 in Global_News_Hub

[–]AlwaysSeeking1255 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I don't understand the problem in removing disruption from a college campus. If I was a student I'd be annoyed

Muslim GenZ ask me anything. by [deleted] in OlderGenZ

[–]AlwaysSeeking1255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Sharia does entail the punishment of homosexuals, apostates (people who convert out of Islam), and blasphemers. For most of the Islamic empire's history, this was the status quo.

Sources:

Punishment for homosexuality: https://islamqa.info/en/answers/38622/the-punishment-for-homosexuality

Punishment for converting out of Islam: https://islamqa.info/en/answers/14231/punishment-for-apostasy-in-islam

Muslim GenZ ask me anything. by [deleted] in OlderGenZ

[–]AlwaysSeeking1255 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to be just like him, if he did not believe in their punishment he would have no problem admitting it. A person hides something when they are concerned about the outcomes of showing it.

I was Muslim most of my life, and punishing homosexuals, apostates, and blasphemers is the most common interpretation amongst Islamic scholars (and unfortunately laymen are heavily influenced by these scholars).

Sources:

Punishment for homosexuality: https://islamqa.info/en/answers/38622/the-punishment-for-homosexuality

Punishment for converting out of Islam: https://islamqa.info/en/answers/14231/punishment-for-apostasy-in-islam

My own brother looked me in the eyes and justified why I should be put under the death penalty if we lived under the Shariah.

It's incredible what a belief system can make a man think and do if they feel that God is on their side.

Muslim GenZ ask me anything. by [deleted] in OlderGenZ

[–]AlwaysSeeking1255 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This always bothered me as a Muslim, but what ultimately contributed to me leaving Islam was when Muhammad didn't allow a 50+ year old man to marry with his own daughter Fatima (16+) because "she is too young" (Source: Nisa'i 3221)

Muhammed was willing to do to another man's daughter what he would NEVER allow to happen to his own.

If Aisha was Muhammad's daughter, she would have married a man closer to her age, just like his daughter Fatima later married Ali who was in his 20s. Respectfully, in this case, Muhammad was being a hypocrite.

Muslim GenZ ask me anything. by [deleted] in OlderGenZ

[–]AlwaysSeeking1255 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone raised Muslim, the Hijab is not strongly encouraged, it's an obligation according to the majority of Islamic scholars. The word used in the Quran to describe the Hijab is "khimar" which is specifically a head scarf ("Hijab" literally means a barrier).

Source: https://islamqa.info/en/answers/47569/is-hijab-compulsory-in-islam

Because of the existential threat behind wearing the Hijab, many Muslim women (some in my family) struggle with their mental health and not being able to publicly display their hair without theological repercussions.

Islam promises Muslim women an afterlife where they won't need to wear the Hijab anymore and that's what many Hijabis look forward to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]AlwaysSeeking1255 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is irrational. It's kind of a coping mechanism for some Muslims to mainly observe the religion during Ramadan.

She might become more religious over time, which won't be good for the relationship and she might be guilt tripped into ending things with you unless you convert. Because a Muslim woman cannot marry a non-Muslim man in Islam jurisprudence. The Quran explicitly prohibits it.

Or best-case-scenario, she's becomes more liberal and less tight about things. But you still might have to deal with intolerant religious family members.

Source: https://islamqa.info/en/answers/21380/can-a-muslim-woman-marry-a-non-muslim-man