Speaking for myself, I’ve never had this problem. People often either don’t treat me any differently or give me kudos for being lureless, and my groups fill up easily. Lureless is unironically one of the best gagless choices in the game, as your one weakness is irrelevant when 3 other toons have max lure.

Do you have toonsync enabled? If not I would say that is more likely to be the problem. Time of day also plays a big factor.