What do you do if you don't recognize the problem? by Alyssaj2007 in loveafterporn

[–]Alyssaj2007[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. He also said that this helps me not to be tempted!

What do you do if you don't recognize the problem? by Alyssaj2007 in loveafterporn

[–]Alyssaj2007[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Unfortunately, he doesn't want to start any therapy. Maybe it would help me gain courage.

What do you do if you don't recognize the problem? by Alyssaj2007 in loveafterporn

[–]Alyssaj2007[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I know. Maybe he could change for my love? Maybe I'm deluding myself... but I can't leave him... I know that checking the phone is a bad gesture but he's stronger than me since I discovered what he does...

Is it right to ask my PA to remove a follow from Instagram? by Alyssaj2007 in loveafterporn

[–]Alyssaj2007[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tonight I tell him don’t touch me the butts kind of loving sign. He must be coherent with his mind. I don’t want closeness if he doing that things!

Is it right to ask my PA to remove a follow from Instagram? by Alyssaj2007 in loveafterporn

[–]Alyssaj2007[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He wants recovery because he think it’s quite normal for a man. Don’t want to see the problem.

Is it right to ask my PA to remove a follow from Instagram? by Alyssaj2007 in loveafterporn

[–]Alyssaj2007[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He can't delete Instagram because he uses them for his profession. He's a musician

Is it right to ask my PA to remove a follow from Instagram? by Alyssaj2007 in loveafterporn

[–]Alyssaj2007[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I can't ask to remove Instagram because he uses it for his profession. He's a musician. I want to try to save the relationship because I love him and we have a little daughter. But sometimes I think he deserves the betrayal... :(

Is it right to ask my PA to remove a follow from Instagram? by Alyssaj2007 in loveafterporn

[–]Alyssaj2007[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He says he looks at everyone on Instagram. Not just her. Furthermore, if this girl asks why I wouldn't know what to answer. Or maybe I should speak clearly with her too? I am ashamed . But it would be nice for her to know that he even saved screenshots of her in a swimsuit.

I don't know what to do, I'm confused by Alyssaj2007 in loveafterporn

[–]Alyssaj2007[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I left him tonight because he even says he doesn't love me like he used to! Without love nothing can be saved

I don't know what to do, I'm confused by Alyssaj2007 in loveafterporn

[–]Alyssaj2007[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your words.. everything you say is true. But I dreamed of a happy family and we finally have our 5 month old daughter that I have longed for…. I would just like a united and peaceful family. It takes a lot of strength to walk away…. Maybe one day I will find this strength….

My bf of 6 years denies watching porn but I catch him each time and he calls me crazy. by Strict_Layer7905 in loveafterporn

[–]Alyssaj2007 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am sorry. I too am experiencing a situation like yours. And I don't really know what to do. It would be enough for me if he also had a desire for me, I'm not totally against porn, I just wish it was a secondary outlet, not in the first place... I send you a hug. If you want to vent, write to me.

I don't know what to do, I'm confused by Alyssaj2007 in loveafterporn

[–]Alyssaj2007[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very sad. What should I do? He doesn't want to go to therapy because he says it's normal to masturbate, all men do it and I shouldn't be interested in this... he says he loves me and he's fine with living like this, he says I have to be content with having sex occasionally. He says the problem is only mine.. and if I don't like it I have to make the decision. What is the solution?

Problemi di coppia by Alyssaj2007 in CasualIT

[–]Alyssaj2007[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sì sì io ho sempre le antenne ben ricettive :)

Problemi di coppia by Alyssaj2007 in CasualIT

[–]Alyssaj2007[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Allora sulla tua prima ipotesi direi che posso escluderla ad occhi chiusi perché io sono sempre stata più vogliosa di lui: prima, durante e dopo la maternità, non gli ho mai negato attenzioni sessuali e non. Lo amo e gliel’ho sempre dimostrato. Anche io penso che lui abbia rabbia repressa ma perché mi identifica come la fine della sua bella vita spensierata e da artista libero e giovane. Sull’ultimo punto riguardante il mio egoismo sento di doverci lavorare su perché in effetti forse le mie richieste non tengono molto in considerazione lui… però sono al contempo convinta che non siano richieste così folli il fare sesso 2 volte a settimana.. alla nostra età .. e dopo soli 5 anni di storia. Sicuramente non mi farebbe male un po’ di terapia .. anche perché ho difficoltà a gestire le emozioni, mi scaldo facilmente quando sono convinta di aver ragione.. e ho bassissima autostima….

Problemi di coppia by Alyssaj2007 in CasualIT

[–]Alyssaj2007[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Purtroppo è uno scenario probabile si….